Do boys like young girls that are having a baby?

Question

I might be pregnant because of a rape. I do not know who he was. If I am preg. I want to keep the baby. Will boys not like me then? I am only 14.

Answer 1

Sweety, I think that it takes tremendous courage to keep a baby that comes from a situation such as yours and is a very noble thing to do. You obviously have a very good head on your shoulders. Do not worry about whether or not boys will like you, right now? The most important thing fo ryou to do is stay in school and keep yourself healthy for your baby. When the baby comes you will be so busy enjoying him/her that you will forget about the boy thing. Boys at your age are still pretty immature, so to be honest you won't have much luck right now. Eventually, hopefully when you are done with school, you will meet a very patient and understanding man who will love you and your child for who you are and not concern himself with anything else. There are men out there like that, but they are a little older than ones you should be dating at your age. Just be patient dear, and good luck with everything.

Answer 2

Oh God honey! I am so indescribably sorry! To answer your question, boys will be the least of your concerns for a while either way. But if in fact you are pregnant, you will have difficulty, I won't lie. Unfortunately, lots of young girls are getting pregnant these days, so (again this is unfortunate) it is seeming more normal. You will have to be very very careful though. Some dirt bags will see this as a vulnerable biddable girl they can just use. Truthfully though, after what you have been through, you shouldn't worry about boys for a while. Even if they treat you like before, you are not like before. You will have a lot of issues you need to deal with first or you will just end up with more issues. I was molested (not raped) and it screwed up my guy relationships until I got help for it. Most important thing is you right now. Remember, take care of you now, worry about them later. Surround yourself with a trustworthy support group. I would HIGHLY recommend counseling. Bless your heart, mine is broken for you. I can not even begin to imagine what you are going through. I pray you find the strength to move past this, and that you find a new strength that you never knew you had. My prayers are with you sweetie.

Answer 3

first of all i think you must be a very brave girl to even decided to keep a baby after something so tragic happen to you but right now the last thing on your mind should be what boys think you have your self and your baby before worrying about what boys think, and as you get older you will also realize and if a person knows the real you and none of what happened is your fault then they will like you no matter what and probably be proud of you for making such a hard decision as keeping a baby because of rape.

Answer 4

why would you want to keep the baby if he raped you? When you have the baby you won't have anytime to think about boys... you have to deal with school and the baby. You won't have time to play with boys. You won't have a life... you're precious childhood would be snatched away from you. Think about it. You are just a child, having a child... i bet you can remember when you were like three. You have so much life to live and this is going to stop it all together. you might not even be able to finish school. I am seriously against abortion... but in your case and the cases of other rape victims it's ok, don't let anyone tell you different. How are you going to explain to that child where is his/her father? and who is he? Think about what's best for the future. Think ahead.

Answer 5

I hope you have a really strong support system.

Boys may be a little scared off for a while, but it'll work out. You won't really have much time for them anyhow. Just worry about yourself and your baby. The time will come when you meet someone who will be by your side. It's okay if that takes a few years. At least by then you'll know what you and your child need. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Libby-you need to think of your baby first. What I mean is, at 14, you are so young. Think of your education, think of your means to support yourself and your baby. Would you be able to give him/her the best shot at life? I am sorry that you are pregnant due to such a horrific act. Have you received counseling for this traumatic event? You do need to. Have you talked to your parents for help and support? You need to.

If you do plan on carrying the baby to term, I hope you are prepared emotionally, financially, etc., you will assume a huge responsibility at such a young age. You have so much growing up to still do, and your entire life ahead of you. Remember, there are other options as well. Adoption is a great option for your baby, if you cannot care for him/her in the way he/she deserves. Good luck

Answer 7

First off, any man (when your older lol) that loves you will want not only you, but also your child. If a man loves you, he loves what comes with you and that includes your baby. I know plenty of men, who are fathers themselves, who have no problem with women who have children. I know plenty of blended familes. Its very accepted in todays world. Your very young, and im sorry to hear of you being raped, I was 15 when i had my first son, it was tough very tough but theres help out there, and theres always someone or somewhere to turn to. I finished school, worked two jobs and well now im married to a wonderful man and im 22 weeks pregnant with baby number 3, we own our house. I get to be a stay at home mom. Things are wonderful. You just need to trust in God and let him take care of you and guide you in the right path, he knows what hes doing :) If you want to keep your child. Go for it, you will love your child. Men come last, but i promise there will be one out there that you will love, that will love you and your child just as much :) Goodluck huni!

Answer 8

if you were raped and your parents know about it, you need to tell them that you think you might be pregnant. i'm not going to lie to you. i'm 28 and there are very few guys that i know that want a girl that already has children.

Answer 9

Boys may be afraid to approach you thinking you may have a man since you are pregnant. You should approach them if they ask, be prepared to explain to them what happened. I think a decent guy will like you no matter what your circumstance. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 10

I wouldnt say thats its what young boys are looking for. I'm sorry its a bad situation.