I am engaged and totally in love with him, but one of my ex's has come to me and told me that he is still in love with me. The thing is I never stopped loving him. So is it possible to be in love with two guys at once and not know what to do?
2007-02-19 06:43:09 · 15 answers · asked by princesskate235 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes! This has happened to me before and it's really difficult to deal with emotionally (with the engagement, minus the ex). Don't beat yourself up about it because you can't help who you fall in love with. The best advice I can impart to you is this: stay with your fiance. Although you say you've never stopped loving your ex, just remember that there's a reason he's your ex and not the one getting ready to marry you.
2007-02-19 06:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Chakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer that it is not possible to be "in love" with two people at one time. To be "in love" requires a total devotion of mind, heart and soul to one other person. It's not possible to be totally devoted to two people at once. That defeats the meaning of the word devotion. Do me a favor, hun, don't get married if you still have these feelings for someone else. You are not in love with both of them. You possibly aren't even in love with either. You'll know when you're certain that someone is the one. Trust me.
2007-02-19 06:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of them u might really love one is lust if this other guy is your ex and you have a new man your are confused first he is your ex why and does this other guy make you happy then how old are you it could be 10 other men you might meet and have feeling for
don't do anything your not ready for it your asking this question then you should not be engaged. love is u and me coming together as one to make each other complete on the other hand I'm not hatin on the ex because he confess his love But when your trying to be happy with somebody else. think you might leave to be with the ex and have regrets if things don't turn out the way u wanted them to then u might see your new ex happy with some one else and really be mad THE BEST ADVICE MY SISTER GAVE ME WAS IF THE AIN'T NO REKINDLING THE FIRE IF IT WENT OUT IT WASN'T MEANT TO BE LIT
2007-02-19 07:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by simply expressive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I always thought love could mean many things so maybe you can love two at once. Or you could be having "cold feet" and are afraid to commit and now suddenly there's some ex who wants you, and what woman doesn't want to be wanted? Of course that's gonna turn you on, it doesn't nessecarily mean love.
Figure out what you love about each guy and make a desicion! You don't want to marry him if he isn't the right one.
2007-02-19 06:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not in love with either of these men if you never stopped loving 1, yet accepted a proposal to spend the rest of your life with the other -and- you're not in love with the other if you're engaged to him yet claiming love for another man.
Break the engagement.
2007-02-19 06:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. Same thing happened to me and I made the mistake of getting married before i knew how I really felt. I ended up losing both of them. So figure out what you want before you get married. It is a lot easier to get out of an engaement then a marriage.
2007-02-19 06:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by YeaYeaYea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's possible. it's a very sad sad situation you are in. what you have to do is try and be honest with both of them. you first have to be honest with yourself. i mean if you are in love with the thought or image or dream of that first guy and it didn't work out because he wasn't the 'image" that you thought of him then it probably won't work because you may be hoping he changed and will be what you want him to be to you. there's a reason why it didn't work out. i found that out. i was in the love square. me and 3 other women. i know how you feel.
2007-02-19 06:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by lfis492aa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tough. I wouldnt marry the guy you are engaged with if you love someone else to..cause its like u are cheating on him in your heart and he doesnt deserve that
2007-02-19 06:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Becca24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something which is originating from the mind.You have your own mind and you just work out the internal intention of you..
2007-02-19 06:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by salim h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm in the same position right now. Pathetic, aren't we?
2007-02-19 07:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋