spanking parents stupid?

Question

My parents left me home alone and I was grounded so I was not suppose to leave the house, but my friends came over and wanted to go sleding and snowboarding. I knew I shouldn't go but I did anyway. I didn't leave them a note or anything which was pretty bad. We went and time went by fast and before i knew it it was 5pm. I started heading home and on they way back my mom pulled up and saw us and said she thought i got kidnapped and they had been looking for me for over an hour. She was really mad. I got in the car and she took me home. She lectured me the entire way home about how she concerned about my safety and really mad about leavnig when i was grounded.

We got home and i took off all my snow gear and stuff and i headed into the family room and all of the sudden my mom gabbed me by my shirt and said that i was getting a spanking for what I did. I told her I was 13 and way too big to be punished like that. She then pulled me into my room and closed the door. She then started lecturing me about safety and not listening and a bunch of stuff. I hadn't got a spanking since I was 11 and I didn't think she would do it. I told her I will do better and said I was sorry for sneaking out. I really wasn't sorry thow.

She said that she was glad I was sorry but it was't going to get me out of getting punished. She told me take my pants down. There was no way I was going to do this so I went for the bedroom door to get the heck out of there. She grabbed me by the shirt before I could get out and pulled me over to the bed and sat down. I tried to get away from her but couldn't. She got my jeans down and put me on her lap and started hitting me. I tried to stop her and stand up and pull my jeans back up. I told her to let go of me and told her she was crazy. She then locked my legs and pulled my arms behind my back so I couldn't move or anything. I was yelling at her and she pulled down my boxers and i told her no. She then started hitting me again and it hurt so much i didn't think i would cry but i did. I told her i would be good and finally she stopped. I cried for 10 minutes.

I am 13 and am almost an adult. I think I am way to big to get treated like this. What can I do to get back at mom?

Answer 1

You are not an adult. Your mother had every right to spank you! I dont know about hitting you on the bare butt, though it was very obvious she was angry with you. I got spanked with the belt well into my early teens. Where was your father in all of this?? Listen to your mom next time. You're the child shes the adult. When you are a GROWN adult in your 20's you will understand why your mother did what she did. Appreciate your parents caring for you as they did enough to be so upset.

Answer 2

hun, what you did was totally irresponsible. in today's society, parents are very concerned about where their kids are are and who they are with. There are many people out there who can snatch you up and be gone before your parents even notice. Some kids are never to be seen again. I have friends that are on search and rescue operations, and it really is sad to hear them when they find a teenager or young childs body. Your mom trusted you, and at 13, you should have listened. Fun or no fun, you had a responsibility to your mom. You are lucky all you got was a spanking. It could have been allot worse. What would have happened if you got hurt or kidnapped? You are not any where near being an adult. You are still a teenager. Dont be stupid and want to be an adult now. Enjoy your youth while you can. One day, you will be exactly where your mom is, and you will see what kids put their parents through, and you'll understand just how many kids go missing due to negligence of thier own. There are sites you can visit and see just how many child preditors there are in your area. You'll be shocked.
below is one site that you can see just how many live in your area. I have over 40 in mine.
Just because you get spanked does not mean you are abused. A spanking is different from a beating.
You want to call the cps?? go ahead, see what kind of family you get. According to the cps and the law, all your parents have to do is supply a roof over your head (could be a tent) a place to lay your head (could be a sleeping bag) and food in your stomach (could be bread and butter). They do not have to give you a tv, computer, video game system, radio bikes, or fancy clothes.You think things are bad because of a little spanking?? ahhaha.. trust me.. get a foster family with 10 other foster kids. See what life you have then.
If you learn from this mistake, that is wonderful, let mom know. If not, well, get ready to pack your clothes.

Answer 3

You are 13. You were already being punished for something else. You were grounded and chose to break that grounding.

At 13 you are no where near the adult you seem to think you are. Even if your chronological age were older your behavior age shows you are much younger.

Your mother spanked your bare bottom. You deserved it, and probably more for disobeying her and putting her through the heartache you did. Next time you think about misbehaving perhaps you will remember how bad you feel now and it will deter you from it.

The least you could have done was 'taken it like a man' and cooperated with her instead of fighting her. You had the punishment coming and you should have known it. Good thing it wasn't your dad spanking you, it probably would have been much worse.

Answer 4

I thought you said you were "almost an adult?" Then you ask, "how can I get back at my mom?" No wonder she gave you a spanking. You are obviously still a kid, because you are thinking like a kid. If you want her to treat you like an adult, then you need to act like an adult. That means obeying. That means being mature. That means there is NO "getting back." The fact that you have not had a spanking since you were 11 suggests that this is not the way your mom normally acts. So I don't see a problem. Spanking as a typical punishment is often ineffective, but as a special punishment it sometimes works pretty well. What you did was wrong. She punished you the only way she saw as being effectual. Considering what you did, what else could she have done? Ground you? You ran off. What will stop you from doing it again? Act like an adult. Then your mom will treat you like one.

Answer 5

LOL Im sorry hun, 13 is WAY too old for a spanking(I have a 12 year old step son) on the other hand, why get back at her? Maybe grow up a little and respect the boundries placed before you, wether or not you like them. BIG part of being a responsible adult is handling consequences, and respecting boundries. We all screw up, we all get p*ssed off, and when your all grown up you have to learn to deal with it in some other way that *revenge*
If you think you have been abused tell a teacher. They are obligated BY law to do something about it.

Answer 6

I don't think Spanking is the best punishment but your mom was trying to tell you that even though you are getting a little older you still have to follow the rules! Obviously putting you on punishment did not work so she has to show you in some way that your actions have consequences. if your anything like I was at 13 you want to get the hell out of your parents house ASAP. But I'm 25 now and I realizes that I didn't have it all that bad. the time will come when you can do whatever you want to do but it will not be your mom spanking you when you get out of line, it will be your boss firring you or a cop arresting you. Take the spanking its easier. And I have to add, like the others said. If you were not acting like a child maybe she would not have punished you like one.

Answer 7

Ok, I think that mom went overboard, yes. You, on the other hand were the one who initiated the whole thing. You were grounded, you left, mom came home to find you not there, no note, no message on the phone, nothing. What was she supposed to think? Of course the horrible thoughts go through mom's mind. "Oh my God, my child is gone? Someone took my child? My child is hurt? Worse?" Seriously, put yourself in mom's shoes. She was frantic. That's her job.

Her main purpose of "freaking out" on you was to show you that how out of control she felt when you were missing. I seriously hope you understand that.

Yes, of course, mom could have dealt with it better, but you have to understand, you're 13...there are WAAAAAY too many possiblities that can happen, that can present itself to you. I'm sure if you would have talked civil to her instead of defending and insisting that you are an adult, which I'm sorry to say...you are not... things would not have escalated the way it did.

No need to get back at mom, she's just doing her job, and I'm sure that you didn't make things easier for her. Give her a lil slack...sounds like both of you need to have some heart to hearts...

Answer 8

Getting back at Mom is not a good idea. You made the mistake and did deserve punishment. I do feel spanking Rather extreme and wish she had chosen another form of punishment. At your age or any age it's not an option. Some countries have laws against this.
Your Mom reacted to plain cold white FEAR!!! She's was afraid something beyond her reach had lashed out at you and reacted out of Love.
You , my young friend, need to go hug your Mom and start to rebuild her trust in you . I'm impressed that your Mom actually grounded you and felt secure enough to leave you alone knowing that you would not disobey and than to come home and find you GONE she thought the worse. Talk in out and let her you felt totally humiliated with the spanking and wish never to have a repeat performance. Good Luck

Answer 9

If , like you say at 13 you are almost an adult, (which, btw you are not!) and you want to be treated like one, then you should act like one. You get treated the way you act and you acted like a spoiled little brat who defied his parents and while I don't think a 13 year old should get spanked on the bare butt, I bet you mom is at her wit's end and doens't have any idea what else to do. I have a 16 year old step son that does stuff like that, and believe me, if I thought a bare butt spanking would do a bit of good I would have let his dad do it months ago. You have to understand that as parents and step parents we are trying to do what is right by you kids and it is very hard when you are older because you do what you want when you want and then get mad when you have to pay the piper. When you are grounded and you sneak out, what good is grounding you for long gonna do? It never works with my kids, they get grounded and sneak out, so I take their stuff from them and they find something else to do, it is a vicious cycle. You just need to learn to deal with your punishment the first time. Like they say, if you can't do the time, don't do the crime! If you have abided by your parents decision that you were grounded and not had friends over and not snuck out this would have never happened. I think you need to talk to your parents and tell them you are sorry for what you did and that you want to find a way to make it up to them, and also a way to earn their trust and respect back. Then stop messing up and start following the rules, if you are grounded, no friends, no snowboarding, etcetcetcetc.

Answer 10

You are thirteen and in no way an adult or close to being one. Just look at the bad choices you've made and are making. Proving that you are becoming an adult means that you strive to be trustworthy and respectful. You are just finding out who you are and what you want to do, but you in no way can support yourself or anyone else. How about listening to your parents? They only tell you these things because they care about you and do not want to see you get hurt . I do not agree abou the pulling your boxers down bit, but I probably would have beaten your @$$ off as well. Be happy that you have parents that actually love and care for you. If you think it's better out there and you are such an adult...prove it, make better choices.