I guess he didn't take into mind that I take care of all the bills and paperwork, I found out he's been lieing by the overage charges in the phone bill. Last time I caught him lieing he swore on everything that he would never talk to her again, because he doesn't like it when my ex-'s call (I don't talk to them at all!) . He says he just can't be mean to her and he can't help but call her back. He said he loves me with everything he has but why would he even lie about that when he swore he wouldn't ever again. I don't know what I should do. We live together and I love him a lot and if we split up I would have to get my own place and I can't afford it, what should I do?
2007-02-19 06:30:10 · 21 answers · asked by xoxoblondnessxoxo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might not be cheating, he might just not want you to worry that he's cheating. I stay friends with some of my old GF's. On the other hand- it's hypocritical that he doesn't like you talking to your ex's. And hypocrisy is the worst non-violent thing a person can do, in my opinion.
2007-02-19 06:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by heartscared 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, cancel the cell phone, and put the money you've been spending on paying his overages into a savings account so that you can afford to move/pay for your own apartment. that is what needs to happen because, 1) you have caught him lying once and confronted him already and 2) he is still doing it. secondly, canvas your relatives & girfriends - there has to be someone you could live with in the meantime. sorry, but he's not going to change. best of luck.
2007-02-19 07:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by SmartAleck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's playing the field. He's using u as his security blanket because he knows that he will have a stable home to come to and a person that he knows will always be there when he's home. At the same time he's trying to get that excitement of hanging with another woman (even though he already has hung her in the past). There are three strikes:
1) There's a double standard (he talks to his ex but doesn't want u to do the same)
2) He has done this in the past.
3) He lied to i when he said that he wouldn't do it again.
Don't let that "i can't be mean, i have to return her phone calls" crap confuse u. Break up with him. It's obvious that he doesn't respect u or the promises that he makes you and that he wants to have fun behind your back while keeping u on a leash. Cats like that make women think that all guys do that. Trust me, we don't. Get rid of him and find someone better.
2007-02-19 06:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie respect yourself life is to short to go through constant drama maybe you need to take time to learn you because this means you didn't know him if he is playin you like that or are you playin yourself and If he has to lie to you that mine you wiling to cry for he ask yourself is constant drama making you happy .
YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU NOT THE FIRST OR LAST SO REALLY READ THIS AND LOOK AT YOURSELF AND ASK DO I LOVE U MORE THAN ME
2007-02-19 06:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by simply expressive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep comfronting him about it. if you've caught him in a lie before, then he's not being trustworthy. have a serious conversation with him to find out why. (with the cell phone off)
2007-02-19 06:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by John Redcorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's lying, you can't trust him. Get out. It probably means there's more than just talk going on between the two of them.
2007-02-19 06:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by snuffie222 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit and tell him exactly how it makes you feel that he's talking to her. Ask him to put himself in your position. If that doesn't work then let him know you can no longer be with him, under these circumstances
2007-02-19 06:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mah10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....if he doesn't let u talk to ur ex's then why are you letting him talk to his ex..stop him tell him that if u find out that he has being talking to her again that u will leave him..if he loves u he will stop but if he doesn't then right there u will find out.. and if u have to move on don't be scared go ahead...i know that u are going to do it!!
Good Luck!!
Best of wishes
2007-02-19 06:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're living with a liar who betrays you because you can't afford rent, but you can afford overages charges in phone bills? Dump him and get a roommate or move.
2007-02-19 06:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh this is hard...well I think he is just too naive. Men are like tha,t they sometimes can't even tell when a girl likes him...anyways I think your guy is just too nice and this girl maybe makes him feel needed. Do you make your man feel needed? Men need to feel like heroes and protectors. Talk to your guy and TALK TO THE EX! She needs to stop calling your man! Tell her that if she doesn't stop the calling that her pretty little face is going to hurt very soon!
2007-02-19 06:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by EV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋