concentrating on looks?? i've been dating a lovely guy for almost 3 mnths now and he's treated me better than any guy ever has.. he's generous, honest, kind, successful and looking for a committment... he isn't bad looking but i hate his sense of style, which he agreed on adjusting.. he's also bald, something i've never been too attracted to... however he wears a hat.. cuz i think he was loosing his hair... a part from that he's a great guy! do u think am being shallow, ladies??
2007-02-19 06:28:14 · 10 answers · asked by God's own 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but, yes, you're a bit shallow. However, let me tell you what happened to a friend. She met a guy that treated her like a queen and he was plain looking, at best, but she didn't care because he was so considerate. However, the minute they got married, he went back to being his "real" self, a selfish jerk. He'd just been putting on an act to impress her and sweep her off her feet. Now she was stuck with a homely jerk when she thought she'd have this homely nice guy.
You've only been dating him for 3 months and that's NOT long enough to get to know the "real" him. My friend dated the jerk for 3 months before getting engaged then got married 4 months later and she didn't see his "true colors" until it was too late. Anybody can pretend to be generous, honest, kind, etc. for 6 or 7 months.... Take it slow, get to really know him, get to know his family. If you get "bad vibes" then listen to your intuition. My friend got "bad vibes" from her mother-in-law when they met before the wedding but figured it didn't matter, she was marrying the son not the mother-in-law. WRONG! Baggage is baggage.
2007-02-19 06:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the guy you're dating.If he's treated you the best, don't go looking for some pretty boy who is too full of himself.
You're not being that shallow, because I can tell you love his personality.
If he's adjusting his sense of style for you, I say he loves you a lot, not to mention he's generous, honest, kind, and so on.
Baldness is okay.Some guys look better bald.
2007-02-19 06:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being shallow. I mean, REALLY shallow.
You've met this great guy who treats you well. He wants to be with you, and you're griping about his sense of style and lack of hair.
The reality is, age is not going to improve anyone's looks. Breasts sag. Varicose veins appear. And wrinkles are just around the corner. Unless you want to have your face lifted so much that the dimple in your chin is actually your belly button, looks needs to be way down on your list.
If you've found a great guy, then teach him how to dress, and learn to love bald. So many men are shaving their heads, what difference does that make?
Unless of course, he's near 50, and wants a woman who would appreciate him, then dump him and send him my way.
2007-02-19 06:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what we think, you're the one in the relationship. If looks are important to you then this is a tough one. Put it this way, would you rather have a good looking guy who treats you crappy, or a less average looking guy who treats you wonderfully?
Maybe you need to question why you think looks are so important, try to get to the bottom of it? What does a handsome guy offer (besides looks) that a less handsome guy offers? Are you maybe insecure yourself? So you think having "arm candy" will make you feel better? Think about it.
2007-02-19 06:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. You have to be attracted to him in some physical way to want to do be intimate with someone. Do you find yourself being intimate with him? Yeah, ok he's nice and a great guy,but do you see yourself having hot passionate seX with him? If not, then you have to find someone else. Not everything is based on looks, but you have to have some sort of chemistry or carnal craving for the guy unless seX is not important to you. Maybe, you should consider him as a good friend and find someone who gets your heart going and you want to tear his clothes off! There is nothing wrong with that! You can't change someone..he's willing to change how he looks to impress you..but overall it's not going to help. I've done this before and thought that maybe I would just be attracted to him one day. That day never happened and I ended up breaking his heart! Yeah..it sucks but usually within meeting someone you know if you are seXually attracted to them or not..Can't change chemisty....move on.
2007-02-19 06:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being shallow. Remember you don't chose a book by it's cover. It's what on the inside that counts.
2007-02-19 06:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is shallow if you put him down for being bald but he style if you dont like that change him....alot of guys like it when chicks try to change them for that better!
2007-02-19 06:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i wouldnt want a bald husband,but i wounldnt want a guy who treats me bad so, i guess well ure fine dateing him,who cares what your freinds think?get something to get his hair to grow bak
2007-02-19 06:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-02-19 07:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by tiffantre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy and hold on to him b/c odds are you wont find another sweet guy like him....ask if u could give him a makeover if it bothers u that much
2007-02-19 06:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋