he knows exactly how to hurt me...he goes completely silent and lets me believe it is over forever. I know it is not wise to pursue him 'cause this is how he gets his kicks but does anyone have any "untraditional" ways of getting some communication from him? (I've tried the phone, a text message and e-mail.) I feel like letting the air out of his tires but am too mature for that (I think).
2007-02-19 06:23:42 · 16 answers · asked by smecky809042003 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
I want to thank all of you for your kind and insightful advice. I knew, of course, that I need to ignore him right back, but we've been together 3 years and I am the loyal, devoted type. Friends, I have, however taken your advice. Thanks again.
2007-02-20 02:52:20 · update #1
You answered your question. He gets his kicks from it. So you have to stop giving him his kicks and kick him to the curb. Sounds like he is worthless. If he likes you and sees that he is not winning anymore, then he will either leave or start talking to you. Don't give in.
2007-02-19 06:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by whatever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle this is to stop trying to get in touch with him. I was once this same way with a guy I was involved with. I got good advice from my mother. She told me if a guy gives you the silent treatment then let him. See the thing is, he wants you to keep trying to contact him. He's getting a kick out of it. He knows he has you right where he wants you. The more you keep bothering him, the more he's going to give you the silent treatment and ignore you. Don't let him think that your this crazy about him. Let him come to you. Stop trying to get in touch with him. He'll start to wonder why you aren't calling or text messaging, and emailing him. If he wants to talk to you or see you let him come to you. Don't run after him because he has the upper hand when you do this. Let him eat out of your hand, and let him know who's the one in control here. I know it will be hard especially if you love this guy, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do no matter how much it hurts. In the end you want to have the upper hand not him.
2007-02-19 06:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon, this is so manipulative that it isn't worth you continuing to see this man.
Look, if he can't be a grown up and discuss what's bothering him, do you really want to deal with this all your life? I'm hoping you're NOT married to him, and have no children with him.
The best thing you can do, the next time he gives you the silent treatment, is to go out with friends and have a good time. Just ignore him. He'll either get over or just go away, both of which would be an improvement.
2007-02-19 06:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Silent treat him right back. He will wonder where you are at, why you aren't trying to contact him and eventually snap out of it. If he doesn't, then it's his loss. You are obviously the caring one in this relationship. If you can't communicate (and you've tried, while he hasn't) then it's not the best relationship to be in anyway.
He probably does the whole silent thing to see u go crazy and laugh at your efforts to communicate. Don't give him that satisfaction anymore. Sounds like a jerk.
2007-02-19 06:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Caramella 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM. That will for sure get his attention. NOt only is he playing the silent game, he is making you WANT HIM MORE because you cant have him when he is like this. So Do it back! PLAY HARD TO GET... I hate it when people play games, but you have to play them to get what you want. Make him think he is losing you! Ignore him, dont answer his calls, GO OUT AND HAVE A GREAT TIME and make sure that he somehow finds out. That will tear him up to realize that You dont NEED him to be happy... he will want you like crazy after that. Its human nature to want what you cant have. Good luck
2007-02-19 06:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give it a few days even if you feel like you just need to try...don't push it, by doing that you let him know that you are desperate. Sometimes we have to join the stupid games guys play, so let's play...and don't fall back, be strong. When he gets back to you, act like What's up! What's new? nothing else and as time goes along then you have to dicuss his childish behavior...Good luck
2007-02-19 06:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by cutelovableme4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is he giving you the silent treatment? Maybe you should reciprocate and not respond to him at all. Maybe it's time to let him go and find someone mature who will communicate with you.
2007-02-19 06:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The silent treatment is the ultimate passive agressive abuse; it is cruel and manipulative. Don't push it--don't try to get him to talk, don't cry, don't do anything. Just go on about your life as you normally would. I know this is hard to do, trust me. It's really the only way to deal with it constructively.
2007-02-19 06:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
With a guy like this, drastic measures are called for. The tire trick might just be a good idea.
2007-02-19 07:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a ex bf who did that. ooo it'd drive me crazy. so i had to end it. this is not a good relationship. you can not be with someone who is that immature. you just admitted you are mature, but can't you see he's not. what would make you think you are compatible. and what makes you think he'd change with anything you'd do. he's not going to. and he has no respect for you. anyone who can ignore someone who he claims he loves is a liar. move on. or get counseling.
2007-02-19 06:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋