Help, my daughter is 25 and dating a 32 year old man?

Question

He is almost the same age as her father. My husband (35) and I (50) are very worried and we think maybe it's because when she was little, her father didn't pay enough attention to her since he was always busy playing with his Hot Wheels and such.

Why does she have a daddy complex?? I'm worried about her dating this older man, it's just gross.

Answer 1

First of all what is so gross about it??? And how is it any different than you being 50 and married to a 35 year old???

I personally see nothing wrong with it as I am 25 and my husband is 32 and we have been happily married with 3 beautiful children for 7 years now(been together for 9) I also have a stepdad who is 35 and my mom is 46 and I see nothing wrong with that either.

Answer 2

If your husband is 35 and you are 50, (15 yrs difference)
Why can't your grown adult daughter of 25 date a 32 year old man(6-7yrs difference) ?
Obviously your 35 year old Husband is not her biological father.

You should know, most men in their 20's are not "mature" enough to stay in a committed relationship.Perhaps your daughter sees a mature, reliable, understanding man that may be willing to be by her side for the next 50 years.
Do you really want to take that away?
Why does his age matter so much?

Why is it gross for a 25 yr old to date a 32 year old, but it's not gross for a woman to date/marry/have relations with ect. a man of 35 yrs whom is young enough to be your son?
Think about how your husband's parent felt when he married you, considering you're probably about his parents age.

Let your daughter be happy.
If she does have issues over her lack of attention from her father
it may be because you remind her of it every time yu see her do things YOU dislike or disagree on.

Answer 3

I don't think there's anything wrong with a 7 year age difference. It's not as if she's 18 and dating a 25 year old. They are both adults and your daughter will probably benefit from his maturity since he's likely to be more serious and committed since he'a a bit older. I would think your 15 year age difference would turn more heads. I'm 35 and would never consider dating a 50 year old! My dad is only 57! The bottom line is, your daughter is well into adulthood now and you simply cannot control whom she dates any longer. Be happy for her if he's a nice guy with good intentions. Who cares about his age! How does your mom (if she's still living) feel about you robbing the cradle?

Answer 4

She's 25 and he's 32??? That is not much of a difference. 7 years really isn't that bad.
If they have a lot in common, and he treats her nicely... it shouldn't be a problem. 7 years is gross, but you married a man 15 years younger than you??? I don't really get that. Besides, women tend to mature a little faster than men do. So, really they are not that far apart mentally.
PS... I think maybe your husband has a "mommy complex". You should probably chew on that for a minute.

Answer 5

Frist of all, if you are right and your husband is 35 and you are 50, you have no room to talk about the difference in ages., second of all, if she is 25 and your husband is 35, then he was only 10 when she was born, so I am guessing this is a joke. However, it isn't any of of your business how old he is. besides, 7 years is not that big of an age gap, It isn't gross is she loves him, he loves her and they are happy, just be happy for them, don't mess it up meddeling, it won't do anything but cause hurt feelings, trust me, I was 18 and my boyfriend was 32 and my mom knew better than to say anything about it, she was just to pick up the pieces when we broke up 2 years later. Just be there for her and don't cause problems, in the end she will thank you and you will be better off than if you cause a problem between them over a silly little number, especially over 7 years.

Answer 6

Seven years isn't that big of an age difference. By the way you are 50 and your husband is only 35. What were you thinking? I am 29 and my husband is 38. We have been together for over 14 years and are very happy. Age difference does not matter.

Answer 7

I don't think your 25 YEAR OLD daughter (who is of legal age) has a problem just because she's dating a man 7 years older than her. Another thing -- your husband (who's 35) can't possibly be her father because he would have only been 10 when your daughter was born and you would have been 25 fooling around with a 10 year old. So, her boyfriend is not almost as old as her FATHER, he's almost as old as her STEP-FATHER. My husband is 14 years older than I am and we have a remarkable relationship and have been together 17 years. Chill out and stay out of your adult daughter's personal life.

Answer 8

This does not make any sense to me.Let me get this strait your daughter is 25 and you husband is 35 that only a 10 year difference is it her step-father?. Seven years is not bad, leave them a lone, the more you push, the more she will go. Im more worried about you and your 35 year old husband, you are not getting any younger. And as for me and my sugar Daddy we are very happy he is 14 years older than I.

Answer 9

You may have a problem with the age difference but your daughter is a grown woman and you can not control who she falls in love with.And the age difference isn't all that big.If he's not a bad guy and is not mistreating your daughter then let them be.It seems like you are the one being immature.Sorry no disrespect by that just that's what I thought of when you described it as gross.It appears you are too focus on what or if there is anything going on behind closed bedroom doors.

And inless your daughter is 16 you cannot do anything about it.She is an adult.You may not like it but you must respect your daughter.

Answer 10

First of all, he is not the same age as her father. Your husband, who is only 10 years older than her, is closer to her age than yours.
How can you marry a man 15 years younger than you, and then judge your daughter for dating a man 7 years older than she is?

Crawl back under your bridge.