ok, so here i am, a guy, and it seems like i am always in the mood. i am dating this great girl who is about 8 yrs. younger than i, but she is a virgin! we have had some awesome dates and she has spent the night with me twice.....all good stuff, we have explored with a few things, you know, the touching, kissing, hands on etc. but for some reason when i lay on top of her fully clothed...i cant see myself taking the virginity away from her. now i know if i wanted to "tap" it, i could, but why dont i want to?? i respect her, and i feel like once she loses that "virgin" feeling, that she doesnt have a second chance to get it back. i would love to be her first "lover" but what a big step to the both of us. plus, ladies, dont you think her feelings for her would increase ten fold by having me sleep with her. i adore her, but i just dont feel that i am ready for such a big and bold move. any suggestions??
2007-02-19 06:14:00 · 18 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, that is really big of u to respect her like that. Just dont do it. If she tells u shes ready, tell her you're not cuz u obviously arent. Tell her that you really like her and this relationship is specal and shouldnt be like all the other ones; you want to take it slow and make every moment count. She should think the world of your descion
2007-02-19 06:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by cats72692 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sleep with her until you are fully ready to take it to the next level with her. When the time is right the last thing on your mind should be if her feelings for you would increase ten fold. If that is on your mind, and it scares you, it is not the right time. It is a good thing that you care about her and respect her enough to be considering all of these things. Alot of men would not.
2007-02-19 14:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so you win the award for the best bf ever!!!
Kudos to you for having a spine and for being a man. If you don't want to then don't but sit her down and explain to her why don't leave her in the dark about this.
And yes once it's gone it's gone and she may want to give it to someone else later if things don't work out between the two of you but if you take it now she won't be able to make that decision.
A lot of young women don't appreciate that 'innocence' and give it away too quickly. I think that is a woman's last link to innocence she'll ever have and it should be taken seriously.
2007-02-19 14:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by TeaQueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a sweet and considerate guy! Well, maybe you should ask her if she would like you to be her virginity-taker. Her feelings might not increase 'ten fold' if she's not ready herself. And if she does want to lose it to you, make that first time extra special and romantic, so you both relax. Good luck!
2007-02-19 14:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a one in a million kind of guy!!!
I really respect the fact that you don't want to be her first...most guys would jump at the chance.
Keep in mind that someone will eventually have to be her first, and she will eventually be hurt by someone. Just be VERY honest with her, and if she still wants to sleep with you, you will have no regrets if it doesn't work out as long as you didn't feed her any false lines.
2007-02-19 14:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by in love love love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a decent guy. Why don't you discuss it with her? See if she wants to wait for marriage. Yes, losing her virginity to you would be a very big thing. I'm glad you are thinking about that.
2007-02-19 14:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's BECAUSE you respect her that you don't want to! That is great! Girls love that! Sounds like you are doing great! Now, (I'm not rushing you!) once you give her a ring and you take that walk down the aisle and you are on your honeymoon......then you will want to!
2007-02-19 14:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit with the all nighters. Give her the respect she deserves. Once your relationship is deep enough and you get married, you will have a honeymoon the envy of everyone you know.
2007-02-19 14:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u respect her a lot and maybe u shud discuss this with her because if she's ready for that step and u don't react she might think u aren't interested in her and she'd be hurt so talk to her about it
2007-02-19 14:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by tomboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she will probably feel more for u, if you arent ready than dont do it... there are other things you can do... if you know what i mean... sounds like you have already explored some of those possibilities anyway
2007-02-19 14:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Becca24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋