while we were making love my bf asked me if i wanted to have his children....guys, have you ever asked a woman to bare your children and what makes you ask??? i've always wanted children, but i'm not financially stable.. but he is very stable financially as he's a property owner and i'm just at a dead end job... what should i do and what could this mean????
2007-02-19 06:11:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you TRULY want to know what he meant you should bring the subject up again. Ask him "Last night you said you wanted me to have your baby . Does that mean you want to get married?" If he goes chalk-white and mumbles and changes the subject, then you know the answer. He's a player and was saying things he believes women want to hear. You said he was financially stable because he is a property owner. Wooppeedamnding! He could aslo be mortgaged up to his eyeballs! And you're at a dead end job - are you looking for love or a meal ticket so you can quit? There is a HUGE fad going around now and guys who are "players" are saying that little phrase to women to make them totally relax and trust them. "I want you to bear (not BARE,kiddo) my babies" sounds like a commitment but it is just something to say to get what they want. The only thing that means anything is "Will you marry me this summer?" (Notice - a date is sort of set...) and then a ring appears. The ring shows he was REALLY thinking of you and your future. Words said during sex don't mean a thing. I mean, surely you've said "Ooh,ooh, you're killing me" or "Ooh, ooh, stop, stop, no don't stop" .See how confused sex is?! The important words are the words said when two people are sober, awake, sitting up in chairs and serious. What you should do is TALK more and screw less until you truly know his intentions.
2007-02-19 06:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is very stable financially, I suppose you could quit your dead end job to become a mother. But I would cautious about your bf's question. Having children is a big responsibility that should not be made when intoxicated by sexual pleasure, although most often it is. My advice: have a serious discussion with him about this and don't remove any clothes until its done.
2007-02-19 14:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, depending on your relationship this could mean, he wants to take it to the next level. Having a child with someone is not like going to the store and buying a pair of pants... this actually means sharing a lifetime joy and responsability.I thnk on being ready, you can always make arrangements try to find a better job. I thnk if you guys are in love and ready to bring a baby to the world then go for it!! good luck..and talk to him sit down and tell him what worries you
2007-02-19 14:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by GIGI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will always seems like Ur not financial stable but if he is and u feel that this is the man u want to spend the rest of Ur life wit then go for it can he be any better person to ask that with
2007-02-19 14:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Firstquarter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah...that happened to me before.
Just answer his question. Would you want to have HIS children at any time. It doesnt HAVE to be now. Try not to feel pressured. Im sure hes not trying to do that.
If yes, tell him so, but tell him not quite yet and tell him why. Thats what I did.
Any guy that would ask u that while youre making love must be serious about you. So, i would say that he maybe would like to spend a future with you? Or maybe he's just curoius. Guys are odd that way. Just ask him. It;s not that scary.
2007-02-19 14:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by nico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his way of testing the waters to see if you are interested in getting married and having his children. I guess he needs reasurrane first before asking you THE QUESTION. This would be a good sign. And if he is asking because he doesn't and wants to see if you want children that would be bad. Hope what you both want works out.
2007-02-19 14:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to bare his children? If no, then tell him that you are not ready. We cant tell you what you should do, you have to feel it. I dont know about your age or his age, but maybe he's getting old, i know men close to 40 start feeling that its their time to have kids. But you have to make sure that you are ready as well!
2007-02-19 14:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes say the strangest things in the throes of passion. Ask him when you are not having sex what this means. Do NOT have anyones child without being married to him and if he wants you to sign a prenup, have him pay for your lawyer to review it do NOT go to his lawyer.
2007-02-19 14:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by TeaQueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a kind of proposal. i think you should not have kids unless you are married. he might just be going about asking you if you would marry him in a very odd manner or this is sort of a feeler he is putting out to see what the most likely answer would be is he asked to marry you .
2007-02-19 14:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either a he wants to have unprotected sex with you or b he is madly in love with you and wanst a child together to keep you both together ask him about this when you arent making love have him put down why he does and dosent want a child together he may have just been caught up in the monment so to speak
2007-02-19 14:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mark R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋