2007-02-19 06:10:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is still fornication, because you have not entered into a covenant with your spouse and with God. Doing so, before it's time, is leaving God out of the relationship, and therefore your relationship will not be blessed.
2007-02-19 06:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by LENZ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not fully committed yet if you are engaged. Any one of you could still walk away, with no legal obligation to that other person. That may not seem important, but it is. It's like moving into a house, doing renovations, and moving all your furniture in BEFORE you sign the mortgage. You have no covering, and no clearance for it, so it is overly presumptuous.
When you jump right in on the high degree of intimacy that comes with marriage, you totally miss the preparation period, which will actually damage your relationship. Engagement gives you time to PREPARE for marriage, with counseling and prayer, so that when the time comes, you're ready. You don't want to skip that part, trust me (I'm newly married). Have the fun after all the preparation and wedding hoopla is over!
Plus sex outside of marriage is NOT covered and blessed by God. TRUST ME, you WANT God to bless your sex life! Not to go out on your own, and do it your own way. God made sex, it is so much more enjoyable and actually functions when you step out on faith and have the self-control and discipline to obey him and wait. Not jump the gun and do it when you just "feel like it."
2007-02-19 14:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by peacetimewarror 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd say no, but I am a Christian. My wife and I waited, and it was worth it.
But there are a lot of logical reasons to wait as well--trust, devotion, meaning, love, purity, holiness--sex is a lot more than just an orgasm. It is a wonderful thing that means so much more when it is made special.
If you have to think about it, then there is a chance that you would feel guilty afterward. You don't want to carry that around forever.
If you are serous about your relationship, then get married.
2007-02-19 14:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by bwjordan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're born again then I THINK NOT! Anything can happen, and right now you and your fiance are in the stage were you can back out, if you give away that part of yourself before it's official than you are in sin.
If however you aren't one of Gods children than...I guess anythings ok under U.S. law because you are all ready in sin.
Either way I wish many blessings on you and you're fiance. I hope that you both have a long and happy life together.
-Vikki
2007-02-19 14:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only thing i can say is that GOD dose not want you to have sex out of wedlock is because if you have sex with a woman and you don't marry her and she goes on to marry someone els then you have slept with another mans wife .
so if some thing where to happen and you didn't get married then you will have done wrong by her and you .
let me introduce you and your love to Jesus . he dose not ask much of you only that you believe in him and what he died for and be willing to turn from sin then he will grant you eternal life and that is quite a gift you you think about it because you are dead allot longer than you are alive.
and as far as the ten commandments are concerned most are coverd by law any ways .
i am not saying run out to the nearest church . I my self don't go to church but i do read my bible every day and give my charity to those less fortunate than my self . and i thank GOD every day for giving me life . and i ask him to forgive me my sins he and i know what they are.
MAY GOD BLESS US ALL
2007-02-19 14:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by A_GUY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Paul says to hold off on that. It is a good idea.
I mean, if you are going to do that, what is the point of getting married? If you are getting that now, then why marry?
After the marriage there will be no surprises or rewards. She is just a ball and chain.
2007-02-19 14:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its ok, just use protection. I have postponed three weddings with the same man because of the births of three children (the third due two weeks after this last wedding was planned).
2007-02-19 14:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Read the Song of Songs. They're getting it on, and they're betrothed (=engaged), not married.
2007-02-19 14:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not ok wait cuz when u marry the reward each other u dont whant to ruinin a good thing do u it is gift from good and itis the be used when god says amen
2007-02-19 14:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by kristen t 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
More than ok, I recommend it. What happens if you wait until you are married and discover that you are in no way sexually compatible? What a waste of time and money and your family's good wishes.
2007-02-19 14:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋