My girlfriend is incredibly turned off by my suggestion for her to use her toy (vib) during sex. I dont understand why. She has one, it turns me on, she uses it.... What am I missing? I just want to have fun and watch her 'O'.
2007-02-19 06:08:12 · 16 answers · asked by Surrendered 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she's afraid that she isn't giving you enough pleasure. If you're pestering her about using it, it might come off sounding like you need it to get any pleasure out of sex with her. Stop asking for awhile and try again later. Convince her that it is about the added pleasure. Slowly work it's way into the sex. Also, make sure not to use it every time or the entire time. For example, try using it just during the first half of foreplay. After awhile she might be comfortable enough to suggest using it at times. Good Luck!
2007-02-19 06:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Alisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that it turns you on and makes you hot and bothered when she is using he toy. Tell her to use it while you watch her and then before she comes go over there and get the job done. LOL She probably is just self conscious about you watching her pleasure herself. If you watch her do it..do other things like kiss her breasts or rub her down there...I don't know there's plenty of things to do. Encourage her to try new things because it will spice up your seX life. If she doesn't want to try new things then...that sucks! LOL Find a girl that's more open with her seXuality....SeX should be fun and amazing!
2007-02-19 14:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, let me get this straight...your girlfriend has to satisfy you, and take care of her own self, while you watch, again satisfying your needs, and leaving her to fend for herself... and you are not sure why she would be offended?
Some women think that sex has a little to do with being with someone special, not a piece of machinery. Some women are not really into being on display, instead of being intimate. Maybe you should be a little more tuned to what she wants.
You may not believe this, but it's not all about you.
2007-02-19 14:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely she is uncomfortable with anyone watching her do that, this is not unusual. It is something that she does in private and doesn't want to share it and she will most likely be embarassed by having you watch. In time she may change her mind but don't push the issue or you will turn her off from it completely and may even push her away from you.
2007-02-19 14:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just not comfortable using the vibrator in front of you. Try to introduce it slowly, maybe ask her if she will use it on you (not internally). Have her use it on your penis and around your inner thighs, etc. Hopefully, she will become comfortable having it involved during sex and allow you to watch. Then the fun can begin!
2007-02-19 14:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by journeysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...this is one of my fav things to do with my partner. Does she like to watch you masterbate - you could offer to let her watch while you watch her? Or, would she let you use the vibe on her?
**Don't read on if you are easily offended**
Maybe she's shy??? I know that when I use my vibe my O's are stronger, and sometimes I actually "squirt" - which made me uncomfortable having my partner see it until I knew how much it turned him on.
2007-02-19 14:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by in love love love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its awkward, i understand. Did she only get it when you two started dating? It took me a while to get my first toy when me and my boyfriend started dating. My friends took me to the store and told me it would be great and everything, I was just uncomfotable with it. I guess I felt like my man would feel replaced or like he couldnt compare or something. I eventually got one and its wonderful. I like when my boyfriend uses it on me and I do it to myself in front of him. I wonder why she won't do it in front of you though... Maybe she doesnt want you to get offended if it looks like it feels really really good.
2007-02-19 14:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by SiC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds shy. she has one for when she is alone, but doesn't want to be watched. try incorporating it into your session. while kissing, take it and slowly move it around her body, don't go to the 'holy-est of holes' right away (in fact, don't even put it there for a couple days). rub her legs, her stomach, her breasts; let it build up her excitement first. after a while she'll get used to it, and will be more willing to use it.
2007-02-19 14:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time make her tie you up first, maybe you can lick the toy clean when she's done before she finishes you off!!!!
2007-02-19 14:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she prefers you to the toy so maybe you should just be graetfull and if it bothers you so much why dont you just use it urself and let her watch you cause face it thats what your realy thinking lol
2007-02-19 14:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by cristle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋