I been faithful with him for 3yrs and I feel like i need to cheat. Hes so mean to me and he tells me words that are so hurtful. I tell him over and over again that he hurts me and he doesnt care i even take care of him finacially, what should i do? i have many chances in having a good man but i love him. He hurts me though What would u do??
2007-02-19 06:01:38 · 18 answers · asked by jdn85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He hurts you and you continue to support him? HE OWES YOU. He's treating you poorly because you haven't put your foot down. It's time you tell him you're not going to let him treat you like garbage. If he keeps it up, leave. You don't need the pain, do you? You can do better.
2007-02-19 06:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having an erge to cheat, because you are not getting what you need from this relationship. You are in an emotionally abusive relationship. Iv'e been there, but now married to a man that has made me more confident and happier then Iv'e ever been. And that is what it is supposed to be like. When with your partner, they should bring your spirits up and you should be a team together. Don't feel guilty for letting him go. It won't be easy of course. But the sooner the easier. We choose the life we lead. Cheating is not the answer honey. Let him go.... Good luck!
2007-02-19 14:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of there. He hurts you and you know it, you dont need to cheat, you need to get rid of him and be with someone who doesnt treat you like this. the erge to cheat is usually a sign that you want out so rather than cheat and become the bad guy, get rid of him. I realize you love him, but you cant let him treat you this way. why do you love him? do you even kno why or is it just a feeling you cant explain? he doesnt care about u, hes one of those that strings you along because he thinks he can control you. get out!!
2007-02-19 14:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah id tell him you r doen dating him its over and go do what ever the hell you want to do then its not cheating why stay with soem one that treats you like dirt AS far as loving him grow up! tell to get a job and get out you feel like cheating becuz your doen being this loosers mother you dont want to be wiht him any more you r just comfortable with him how good of man are you going to find if you rliving and dating a crap one how many good guys are like oh you have a boyfriend well thats cool lets screw around for a while any ways, use your head for crying out loud dont let this leach suck you down any futher GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!!!!!!
2007-02-19 14:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by <B> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the loser, and move on with your life. Cheating is not the answer here, if you want a decent guy, you need to be free. Obviously, you have nothing to lose by moving on, and everything to gain, don't waste another second of your life on him...you can never get those seconds back, and it absolutely WILL NOT get any better. Go Now.
2007-02-19 14:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was going to say it's natural if your a man or if you are a woman who is abused or mistreated. Women in your situation look for 'love' or validation of your own worth elsewhere. Mens cheating is usually just sex. You want someone to tell you you're good enough and treat you how you'd like to be treated.
You shouldn't cheat though, bad things do not help bad things. You should leave him altogether and find someone worth being with. Good Luck, and if you wait you're never going to do it.
2007-02-19 14:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST LEAVE... I would never put up with feeling like that for any length of time. If he treats you like this... then you DO NOT have a good future together... LEAVE. Be strong and find yourself someone who will treat you right. DO NOT CHEAT THO, because someday you might meet an amazing guy, who wont want to date someone who has previously cheated. I know many men who refuse to date girls who have cheated before. Good luck
2007-02-19 14:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, If its that bad then you need to move on.If he is mean and calls you names and doesn't seem to appreciate you than your wasting your time.You may love him but love don't fix everything.Dump him like the dead beat rock he is and go find your self pride again.Take sometime to yourself to heal.Have fun and if you want to have "relations" with someone, then do it but don't just pic anyone and be sure that you trust them and take measures to protect yourself.Just don't get hooked on someone for a while.You will need time in order to not go from one bad relationship to another or be in a rebound situation.
You seem like a sweet person who deserves to be treated good.This will only happen when you decide to do that for yourself first and respect your self enough to know and expect it from others.
Good Luck and sorry you had to go through this.
2007-02-19 14:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you need to cheat, isn't that a big enough sign that you need to break up with him? Stop second guessing yourself if you don't want to be in a relationship so bad that you're willing to be dishonest. Save him and yourself the hurt and get out of it.
2007-02-19 14:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Christy J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to cheat on him in order to hurt him.
I don't see how cheating would really help your situation.
The real solutions to your situation would be having a heart to heart talk with him, and if that's not possible, you should end the relationship rather than cheat.
2007-02-19 14:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by darligraphy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋