My son turned 2 in October and we have been having trouble disciplining him for some time. Nothing seems to phase him. We have spanked and all that did was teach him to hit. He constantly hits, pinches, screams, head butts, claws, etc.. He will not sit in a chair at all for time-out. We have tried holding him in the chair, but that seems to make it worse. We have tried putting him in his crib for time-out, but he will scream at the top of his lungs for extended periods of time. Last night it was for 30 minutes before my husband finally let me go in and get him. Then when I got him, he only wanted to be held close for about 15 minutes, then he was back at it again. I'm at my wits end. My husband thinks there may be something really wrong with him other than the typical "terrible twos". I have two older kids (12 and 9) and I don't remember them ever being anything like this. Any thoughts???
2007-02-19 06:00:03 · 9 answers · asked by carrie love 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Alright. Get a tub and write his name on it. Anytime he throws a fit, you take a toy and put it in the tub. He doesn't get it back for two days. He will yell and scream but in about a week he will learn. If he starts yelling and crying you just have to walk away. You can't let him win. When you go and get him he feels like he is in charge not mommy. You just have to walk away and let him know that you are in charge. You cannot give him his toy back before the two days are up or he has once again proved he is in charge of you.
Then you have to reward him for being a big boy and not throwing fits. Get a sticker chart and let him pick out some stickers. Before every meal (and after dinner/before bedtime) if he hasn't thrown a fit he gets a sticker. Once he has fifteen stickers he gets to make cookies with you or get a new toy.
2007-02-19 08:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out works best when done frequently at the beginning. It should last no more than 1 minute per year of age so 2 minutes for your son. If he will not stay in chair, no problem. FInd a small room or space, and put him in there and hold the handle of the door shut from the outside whilst you time 2 minutes. Make sure the place is safe and not scary or dark. He may scream for the entire 2 minutes. Stay VERY CALM. If he is not ready to be a bit calmer and have a hug when he comes out, you may need to repeat time out. 30 minutes screaming is much much too long. You are teaching him that if he screams for long enough you will come. Time out is about you taking control. Do not hit him, that will make him worse and teach him to hit. Be consistent and calm. Good luck.
2007-02-19 20:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be more firm. This first time I had to get my (at the time) 2 yo to stay in time out it took 45 minutes.
I once saw a Supernanny where it took the mom 3 hours to get the kid to stay in time out.
Every child has a different personality.
You need to step up and be extra firm until you can get him under control. And when you put him in time out – don’t go get him and cuddle him for 15 minutes. All that did was reward the half hour of crying.
2007-02-19 06:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a really bad temper. Watch what you feed him before he starts acting this way ...could be allergies.My nephew acted like this & it turned out that he was allergic to the dye in baloney. You might have to take him to his Dr & see if he can suggest anything.Good Luck!
2007-02-19 06:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain... my 2 year old acts that way sometimes.. i have just recently like in the past 2 weeks gotten him to sit in the corner.. and believe me it wasnt an easy road... it has been a constant battle... the corner is what worked for me.. spanking does no good.. my son thinks its funny.. i just had to keep putting him in the corner over and over until he realized hey im not getting out until i sto... good luck
2007-02-19 06:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by smces2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very unusual that you have done all of the correct disiplining and it is not working. I think that maybe you should go see a doctor about his behavior because that is very unusual.
*Good Job for accually diciplining him...most parents won't do that.
Good Luck...
2007-02-19 06:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a behavioural problem...Check with a counselor or his pediatrician...He may need to have toys taken away. No matter how hard he cries, tell yourself it's for his own good.
2007-02-19 06:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, i have to agree,, i appreciate your trying to discipline the child.... and I suggest to take him to a doctor.. .or talk to your pediatrician. There has to be something wrong...
good luck
2007-02-19 06:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be diet related. Have him allergy checked.
2007-02-19 06:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋