my boyfriend is coming over today and i know he's gonna want to make out but i dont want to. i wanna cut out all sexual activities from our relationship because i wanna save myself for marriage. i like him alot but i feel like if we keep being sexual, then he's just goin to see me as an easy h0e and i dont want that. what should i do? do you agree with my decision. and how can i tell him that i no longer want to make out without getting him mad or ruing our relationship? i'm still gonna kiss him but i dont want to do all that touchy feely stuff anymore. plsz help
2007-02-19 05:57:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, it is always wise to save yourself for marriage. I think that is the best decision. I do know how you feel. Just tell him that you want it to be different. If he pushes it any more, he's not worth it. Always tell him how you feel. Tell him if he really wants to continue the relationship, then you will BOTH continue the relationship. Remind him he should never leave you behind. Make sure that you are on the same page. Show him how you feel also!
2007-02-19 06:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Singer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! If he does get Mad? It just means that he doesn't Love you? That he's wanting to make out with you.You won't need him around, anyway. I'm proud of you! You'll be much better off, because of what you've decided.
2007-02-19 06:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be honest with him about how you feel. If he cares about you & respects you, he will be okay with your decision & honor your feelings. If he doesn't, my opinion is that he's only with you for the sex.
2007-02-19 06:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Welcome to the world of adults. If he leaves you, you were only a hole to him. You will find yourself dating a much better class of men now.
Your marriage will be very special indeed! Good job.
2007-02-19 06:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto on telling him. If he respects that, then he really cares about you. If he gets mad, then he's just in it for one reason. Props to you for respecting yourself!
2007-02-19 06:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to back off. That you want him to respect you. If he can't deal with it then he is just looking for a piece.
2007-02-19 06:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by whatever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him what you just wrote down. if he doesn't agree, then all he wanted was sex anyway and he isn't worth it. i think you are doing a great thing. i hope you keep it up.
2007-02-19 06:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsourchikin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure, but whenever he tries, you can stop him and say, "Not right now, maybe another time." If he eventually asks why, tell him what you told us.
2007-02-19 06:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Christy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to, you shouldnt have to. i appreciate your morals and how you wish to save yourself for marriage and im really not sure how you do that to not get him angry, but if he really loves you then he should understand.
2007-02-19 06:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it to him straight. If he really does love you, he will respect that.
2007-02-19 06:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋