he cries to the point that he throws up... i know that this cant be healthy.. anyone have any ideas suggestions or ideas?? other than changing daycares, i know thats not the problem he is just use to being with me at home..
2007-02-19 05:55:14 · 8 answers · asked by smces2004 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
ok he is 2.. and he has been with me except for one small amount of time he did go to daycare... the daycare is really good that he is going to.. i do believe it is a little bit of seperation anxiety.. and yes i checked out this daycare througly...
2007-02-19 08:19:18 · update #1
I would be interested in knowing how old your child is and how long he has been in daycare. Where did he stay before daycare? How is he when you pick him up at the end of the day? Does he interact with the other children? Is he happy before he sees you?
The answers to some of these questions will help you determine if he is happy at the facility and he is just going through separation anxiety before you leave him. If you are stressed over leaving him and the crying thing, he feels that stress and it makes it harder on him. I have had kids cry only because they thought it was expected of them because mommy (maybe unintentionally, maybe out of guilt over leaving the child) made them feel they were not suppose to enjoy daycare. I do not think this is your case, however. Stand outside the door once you leave him and see how long it takes for him to calm down. Make your departure short and sweet.
I have had so many parents want to cling and drag out the process of leaving forever. This only makes it harder on the child and the caregivers. (I have on occasion when this went on and on for days, walked away and told the mother, "When you get ready to go let me know. Other children need my attention, too. But, it would be easier if you did this at home and made the goodbyes here short and sweet.") Caregivers obligation is to the happiness, safety and well being of the child. They do not have time to coddle parents. OK, this part did not apply to you, I just had to get it off my chest. Sorry!
If he seems to be well adjusted and plays well with the other children when you pick him up then he is fine. When you go to pick him up go early on a few occasions (children have an internal clock that tells them when it is time for mommy to be there). Enter an area unobserved by your child and watch him. See for yourself how he is interacting with other children. Then go in and have him introduce you to his friends. You can then talk to him about his friends (calling them by name) and ask about all the fun things they did during the day.
The next morning when you get him up and are getting ready to go to daycare ask him, "I wonder if Tommy is there yet, waiting on you. You guys seem to have so much fun together. Now, what was the little blonde headed boys name?" Get him engaged in fun talk about daycare. If possible try to make sure your child is not the first to arrive or the last to leave. This gives them the anxiety of being alone without mommy or friends.
Also try this, take your son to the store and tell him, "I was thinking that maybe you would like to pick a special treat to take to daycare to share with your friends at snack time. Then help him pick some juice, or cheese, or crackers, or some other healthy snack like carrots or apples. Let him help prepare them and get them ready the night before. The next morning tell him, "Hey, now don't let me forget that you have a special suprise snack time treat to take to your friends at daycare. I think they will be suprised, don't you? It is your job to remember, you know how forgetful I can be."
I hope this helps to relieve some of your anxiety. Good luck
2007-02-19 07:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem when I was little with throwing up when I didn't want to go somewhere. You really need to consider taking him out of daycare for a while until he can mature some. I have serious health problems from throwing up like that. There is no sense in putting a child through this. I have GERD and I had holes in my esophagus from throwing up. The only cure for it will be to take the child out of daycare.
2007-02-20 12:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you left out alot alot of information...how old is he, how long have you been taking him to this daycare, have you spoke to the daycare concerning this matter, does he throw up while you are there or after you leave, did you thoroughly investigate this daycare before enrolling him??
could be separation anxiety, could be a tantrum, could be that you are making this happen(quick goodbye's are not as earth shattering as the goodbye's that last tooooo long)
i would talk to your doctor because throwing up every day can hurt is esophagus and his little belly!
ok then i am going to have to say that he is doing it because either he has separation anxiety or he just knows how to pull your heart strings! i am almost positive that children throw up very easily but i would still check w/the doc to make sure his belly is ok!
try and be consistant w/your morning routine.....and always talk about how fun school is and how nice the teachers are ya know that kind of stuff good luck
2007-02-19 14:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lori C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried taking some time and staying a few hours at the daycare with him. You would have to ok with your work but staying with him for maybe 2 hours might help me understand that it's a safe place and that you are there if he needs you until he gets used to the place! My friend ran a daycare and thats what she recomended parents do! Good luck!
2007-02-19 14:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by jellybean29 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my brother used to do that(and still does sometimes and hes ten) my brother just couldnt stand the daycare we went to (this is like 5 years ago) but anyway every morning he would cry in the car all the way there and he would yak up his breakfast sometimes and my mom would just calm him down thats all she could do try to keep thing calm or hire a babysitter so he can stay at home!
2007-02-19 14:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your good-byes short & sweet.
If you’re acting like there’s something wrong and you’re crying then he will pick up on that and get upset.
If you act like you’re happy that he’s going to sped the day at daycare then they crying won’t be so bad.
2007-02-19 14:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not healthy
he is not really for the daycare environment
if your working
maybe hire a home sitter instead
2007-02-19 14:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did this... anytime he would get upset.. still does sometimes. Does he do it any other time.. like leaving him with family? I thought it was just temper tantrums but it wasn't. he has acid reflux... go to his pediatrician and explain to him or her and get advise directly from them
2007-02-19 14:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋