I made a lot of mistakes between the ages of 20 and 24. I did Ecstasy, smoked a lot marijuana, and drank. I also slept with some prostitutes. I am a changed man. When I was 24, I made a decision not to screw up my life like my parents did. I now have a wonderful woman in my life who I love dearly. She has a 5 year old daughter who I love as well. I have not told her about my past with drugs and (even worse) the prostitutes. I have been checked for all STD's. In fact, before I kissed her, I made damn sure that I was free of all STD's. There is no way I can tell her. She would leave me. We have been together for nine months, and we respect and love one another. We have been in only one argument and we talked it out rationally. I know this is the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I feel like damaged goods. She has a great past. She has always been a good person. So, please give me some advice, ANYONE. Thank you so much.
2007-02-19 05:49:00 · 6 answers · asked by quietghost2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T SAY ANYTHING!!! The only reason to say anything is if it would effect her. Assuming you have turned around and don't to that trash any more than just live with it. Do not ever unload on your future wife.
Please treat her daughter as your own, and really think twice about having other children, it will be hard on the your woman's little jewel. Adapt her after you get married.
Again, do not mention your past. Avoid all those old "friends", please, move on in your new life.
2007-02-19 06:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u love her tell her and if she luv u then she should except the fact that u told her and than u care about her a whole lot to tell her. But I stronglly believe that she would be happy u told her and that she would not hold nothing against you. Good Luck adn I hope everything works out for you and she is that one for you.
2007-02-19 05:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not honest your past may come back to bite you, my advice be honest, up front about everything she sounds like an understanding person and for you to make it clear that you would of never enter into the relationship with a need to carry on that kind of lifestyle....good luck
2007-02-19 05:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and I did things that are worse then u.It is all about improveing yourself.Not about looking back. Your not giveing her much credit either.She see something in u that she truely loves.Now u need to trust her and try to forget about your past and move on. All u can do is keep improving yourself and learning about yourself. Life is about making mistake.The trick is to learn by them. Good luck
2007-02-19 05:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her before someone else from your past does. you may be with her one day and your past comes to haunt you (say one of the prostitutes.) how do you think she will react? it is better to hear from you than someone else. and let the chips fall where they may. if she is as grreat as you say all will be forgotten and forgiven.GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-19 06:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by lovelady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend....kep your mouth shut when it comes to your past.
By telling her all you will be doing is sharing the misery. If you really love her, think of her feelings.
2007-02-19 05:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋