I have 2 children with a wonderful guy, I couldn't ask for a better father for them, he's amazing with the kids, our youngest just turned 1 and the oldest is 4. Ever since we've had our youngest, I obviously gained weight, and our relationship hasn't been the same. We don't have sex as much (not even close to what we used to). I have tried losing weight, and honestly i'm only like 15 pounds more then I was before I got pregnant. I don't know what to do! I am always so frustrated with him because I don't feel like he gives me enough love at all, and when I tell him how I feel, he's says i'm being ridiculous for thinking it, but nothing changes. Should i just leave him? Should I just stay? I don't know what to do anymore, but i'm depressed all the time.
2007-02-19 05:47:24 · 7 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I ask him if it's my weight he says no. But he doesn't say what else it could be, so i'm left to believe it's my weight, being as it's the only thing that's changed besides a second child.
I don't want to leave him, but i'm willing to do just about anything to make him realize what he has. But I don't want to play childish games either. I mean were young parents i'm 21, and he's 23.
2007-02-19 05:54:52 · update #1
I am not thinking about leaving him because not enough sex. I am considering leaving because i'm always depressed! What kind of mother am I, if I'm always upset about things.
2007-02-19 05:56:35 · update #2
Aaah sweetie, hang in there okay! I'm a mother of a 2 and 5 year old. I'm married and have been in your shoes before. Listening to what you say.....wonderful guy, couldn't ask for a better father.
I can hear that you love this man.
Just keep in mind that relationships go through dry spells. So many ups and downs. Especially with two kids, that alone can cause you to drift apart at times. But don't think it has to be like this forever. In your mind, it may feel like things won't change. That probably scares you. Men never want to beleive that there is a problem. It's in there nature. Just put your 100% into your relationship, and show him and tell him how much you care. Take some time for yourself whenever possible. In order to be a good wife and mommy, you have to have some "me" time. If you are feeling like you would like to lose a few pounds for yourself that is, then set a goal. Right now I'm drinking green tea, I found some really yummy ones. Iv'e quit all soda. That alone changes alot. I eat less portions. And I have a little once a day excersize plan. I've lost 7 pounds in two wks. I'm not over wait, but am trying to get rid of that little puch and tighten a bit. But I woudn't go on an unhealthy diet. Just change the way you live a litte. Good luck.. Email me anytime sweetie. :)
2007-02-19 06:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off kids are not just a change for your body but also your lifestyle too. Keep in mind that they are exhausting and tire both of you out. I can't believe that you are considering leaving a person who is a good father and disrupting your family life because you're not getting enough nooky. You need to lose the weight for your health and self esteem, not for him.
2007-02-19 05:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, dont leave him just because you gained 15 pounds and hes not all over you anymore! have you thought that maybe just having 2 kids around and taking care of them might have something to do with it?
2007-02-19 05:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby try leaving the kids somewhere and go on an old-fashion date
2007-02-19 05:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by buddy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a marriage counselor
2007-02-19 05:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel and if that doesn't work give him motivation its all about motivation
2007-02-19 05:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Audrey♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think this has to do with ur weight wat does he say is the reason
2007-02-19 05:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by kctheman5692 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋