How do you make a 4 year old mind?He's really stubborn.?

Question

We've tried everything we can think of.Nothing works.Please help?

Answer 1

I'm guessing you have tried lots of things, but maybe nothing for any specific length of time. The kid may be confused by your lack of consistency.

I strongly recommend Magic 1-2-3 which is a discipline system advocated by many foster parent agencies and schools in which caregivers are expected to maintaing control of children without physical abuse. There is a book by that name that you can get on ebay or half.com - get it, read it, explain the system to your child and then do it...give it no less than 6 months. Consistency is the key. good luck.

Answer 2

He is 4 years old, if you don't start making him mind now it is just going to get worse. Time outs can work with some kids. Spankings also work with some kids. You have to be persistent. You can't just threaten and then not follow up with it. If you threaten a time out or spanking and they still do whatever their not supposed to, either give them the timeout or spanking. Discipline is not a bad thing as long as you do it right. I know people who never would discipline their children and now that the children are grown they have no respect what-so-ever for their parents. They cuss them, steel from them and in some instances have even beat their parents up. In other words you need to get the upper hand now. Good luck!

Answer 3

no count number what those people allow you to understand, do no longer SPANK! once you've a newborn who's performing out and throwing tantrums including violence to the table basically opens up a sparkling aspect for them to attempt with people and per chance on you. discover one theory and keep on with it, i love doing away with some thing they fairly look ahead to, like taking area in with associates or video games or widespread toys, yet on the time it occurs, use a outing, that would not ought to point a chair or nook, use a room. come across a room the position there is not any longer some thing relaxing to do like a kitchen or bath room and do not examine with them or maybe enable them understand you're paying any interest to them for a min for each 3 hundred and sixty 5 days they are alive as a lot as 8 minutes. Afterwards examine with them, no yelling and enable them allow you to understand what they did incorrect and why it isn't solid to attempt this. certain it gained't paintings at the starting up yet supply it time it is going to paintings. If the newborn upward push up and out of that room placed them again yet do no longer initiate the time over once you need to attempt this stay quiet do not enable them understand you're aggrivated that makes them win!

Answer 4

I agree with everyone who said give him choices and be consistant with discipline. In addition offer some type of reward system for good behavior. I made a sticker chart for my 3 year old. Whenever she acts like a big girl or does something I ask she gets a sticker. After ten stickers she gets a treat. It is a great bargaining tool and she gets something for her efforts at being good, I get to reinforce desired behavior, everyone wins.

Answer 5

this sounds like a lot of work but it works! buy a small ug or chair for him to sit on in time out. this is what you do. set the ground rules. let's say you tell him no screaming in the house. then he screams. get down at his level and look him in the eyes and say "i told you not to scream in the house. if you do it again you have to sit in time out for 3 minutes." then he sreams again. get down at his level and say " i warned you about not screaming in the house. now you have to sit in time out for 3 minutes" bring him to chair or rug and put him there and say nothing. if he gets up and runs away put him back. if he keeps getting up stick to your guns and keep putting him back. don't say a word. be patient. eventually he will stay for the 3 minutes. when a child knows an action will have the same consequence EVERY time he is much less likely to do it. after his punishment is over tell him to apologize and say you want him to have fun and its not much fun being punished. he will come to hate being punished and will eventually stop the bad behavior after the initial warning. almost as important as punishing the child orrectly is commending him when he does good things. let's say he usually whines in the store about wanting something and he goes the whole time without whining. tell him you were porud of his behavior and buy him a small trinket or an ice cream cone. this really works. good luck,

Answer 6

Give him choices. like,
"Do you want to wear the blue shirt or the green shirt....."
"Do want a cheese sandwich or peanut butter and jelly?"

Whatever the situation, you can make up choices. You are still in control but he will get the sense that he has some say in the decisions.

Answer 7

This has worked for us and if we can do it with three kids under the age of 4, anyone can do it. Buy the book, read it and them implement it. 1,2,3, Magic by Dr. Thomas Phelan. It's a short read, makes sense and is so simple...that's why it's magic.

Answer 8

My son is 4.5 and he is stubborn. The tactics that works the best is the following. Say, we have to put socks on, and he doesn't want to. Instead of telling him "Please put your socks on" for the 50th time, I'm showing him two pairs of sock and ask "Which do you want to put on - red or blue?". Now he doesn't feel that he is forced to do something, he has to make a choice and he feels involved and important, so I have much better chance if I phrase it like that.

Answer 9

It's not too late!!!!
go to amazon.com and order this book:
1-2-3 Magic
my sister and sister-in-law both have seen it do amazing things with extreme cases (sister is a teacher, sister in law is child psychatrist)
I've used it with both of my kids and it really does help!!!!
DO IT NOW!

Answer 10

whoop him....not a hit on the hand either, get a belt or your hand. and whoop him hard. make him stand in the corner on his tippy toes for 4 minutes and if he throws a fit make 5. put your madddddd face on. tell him that he aint gettin nothin for christmas or his bday or whenever he receives gifts.

get someone who he is SCARED of like the preacher, granddaddy, granny, that 1 mean aunt etc and have them scare the mess out of him... if he knows that the police takes bad guys tell him that you are gonna take him to jail!

or take away his tv, toys, etc....

make a list of smiley faces and sad faces. for one week.

and if hes good FOR THAT WEEK( no sad faces) take him to get ice cream or to the arcade or wtv he likes to do.


GOOD LUCK 2 YOU!