So, there is this guy Ive been friends with for awhile now and I like him a lot if anyone seen my last question they know what Im talking about. Well friday night he made a move on me and we ended up having sex(keep in mind he asked me I never asked or said anything to him) well now he is being all strange around me like not talking much when we use to talk all the time with out problems. I still have not told him that ive had feelings for him and i want to but the way he is acting now i dont think I should. Why would he want to have sex with me like that and now act funny about it?. I dont want to be a regret to anyone and Im scared that thats what Iam to him now but I just dont get why he would wanna do that with me and now act funny about HELP me it makes no sense!!.
2007-02-19 05:31:03 · 11 answers · asked by Amy D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would it be weird for me to talk to him about this? I know guys dont like to talk like us woman do when it comes to feelings and things, but would it bother you if a girl did that to you?. Im just lost now and dont know what to do.
2007-02-19 05:33:26 · update #1
Ok first off we have been friends for a little over a year now friends dont normaly have sex so there was no reason to wait for anything because it was not like it was planned or anything. And I dont just have sex with guys either I had not had sex in 5 years untill friday night so its not like I run around and have sex with guys to get a guy because Im not dumb and know it does not work that way. And yes we did use protection dont worry about that
2007-02-19 05:51:20 · update #2
He is uncomfortable around you now because he knows you more intimately then before, it could be that he is unsure about how you feel about what happened. You need to talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and let him know you are ok with it. Hopefully, he will come around and start talking again, if not, it is possible that sex is all he ever wanted from you in the first place, but I don't think so.
2007-02-19 05:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he used you for his own ego and satisfaction. Since you did not tell him of your feelings he thought you were just out for the ride. It's too late. He got what he was after and now he doesn't want it anymore. If it doesn't make sense you have a lot to learn. If you don't know why he would want to have sex with you and then not be interested in you any longer you need to learn a little more about guys.
2007-02-19 05:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by voodoo man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had my own experience with this and I hate to tell you this, but my friendship with the guy crashed and burned, but only after I was dumb enough to let him use me (I really wanted to believe our friendship was important and he cared about me). He made his move because he knew you liked him and would let him, but given the way he's acting now, he doesn't really have any respect for you and he'll just keep using you. Try to talk to him, and see where he stands, but based on my own experience, I think he's not really the friend you thought he was and you are better off dropping him completely.
2007-02-19 05:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by goofygirlky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is according to how pretty he thinks you are!! Sorry, maybe he didn't mean to have sex with you and it was a mistake or maybe he is seeing somebody else!! But don't loose heart he probably has feelings for you anyway and he wants to keep it a secret, like you are. Why don't you just tell him how you feel and get it over with and then you won't have to feel inasent every time you and him see each other!! Good luck, I hope this helped!!!!
2007-02-19 05:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Not A Married Man Talk to me!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 13:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by donenfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on wut his intentions were can make the difference and maybe thats why his acting distant. ask him if he thought that you guys would ever have sex. if he says yes, then ask him if he saw it as a oen night stand thing or if he saw it as a step towards something more and then take it from there. worst case scenario is he tells u he did it for the fun and dosent want a relationship. then in that case hes an *** and you should get over him.
2007-02-19 05:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by dzfood84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he were every interested in you as more than a quick hit, you screwed it up by sleeping with him so soon. You chicks need to learn that if you want a guy to crave for you, don't give it up so damn fast. This is common sense and hopefully you will learn from this experience. In other words, forget about him because he doesn't want you.
2007-02-19 05:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Nasty Boy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that he just wanted to breach your fortress, youre right it is strange that hes acting this way.
Maybe you just need to give him some space as he doesnt sound like he expected things to move so fast.
2007-02-19 05:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe he's afraid that after what happened between u too things will never be the same again in terms of ur friendship and he's afraid that's why he's acting the way he is
2007-02-19 05:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by tomboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just say to him what you just said here.
Just be honest and open. Why can't women just tell men what is
really on thier minds instead of playing games and expecting the
man to read thier minds. Just be honest.
2007-02-19 05:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋