unless you love that person a lot? I dont believe its wrong but should two people wait and have sex after their married? is that a better idea ?
2007-02-19 05:08:57 · 19 answers · asked by Dia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I prefer that you do wait until marriage. But remember that let no one pressure you into having sex if you don't want to. Because your body is a temple for God not for man unless he is the one.
2007-02-19 05:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its a sin and like all sin you can be forgiven. The problem is that something could happen before your wedding day where you could not end up together. A marriage is not official until your wedding and that means either party could always get out of it until it is over. People could have sex and then break up. The problem also is sex can become the focus of a relationship and cause either party or both to become focused on sex and not the other person needs or personality. It can cause selfishness and take away from getting to know the other person on a mental level . That doesn't mean that it will be like that but their is a greater risk. Keep evaluating your relationship and your motives. It also doesn't mean that you are a horrible person. It just means you are a human being.
2016-05-24 09:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you should certainly have sex before you are married.
The dumbest thing you could ever do is to wait to have sex until you are married. What happens if you marry them and then the sex is bad? Its too important to gamble with.
If you really like the person and the sex is good... then that is partly a reason to marry someone. Remember.. you will have to sleep with that person and only that person for a very long time.
Sex is too important to leave to chance. Half of being in a relationship with someone is the sex part. How can you not have that in check before you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone? What happens if you find out that person doesn't turn you on?
Why add more numbers to the divorce rate? Make sure you are with the right person. Have sex with them before you marry.
Anyone who tells you differently is either ultra-religious, amish, old and prude, too young to know better, or just plain stupid.
I wouldn't marry someone unless I have full knowledge of their body and mind.. inside and out.
*If you skip this part, you might find yourself married to a transsexual, a chick with balls, a psycho killer, a liar, or worse... Someone who hates sex.
Do your research. Why gamble with your happiness?
Also, once you get married you will stop having sex... You might as well have some while its exciting.
2007-02-19 05:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by michaelJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on your morals you believe personally I believe people should wait to have sex after their married because there are most likely a lot of emotional feelings that come with sex and the possibility of getting pregnant. So if you were in a long time relationship and decide to have sex make sure you both are secure and know that no one will get hurt(emotionally) and make sure you have protection if you don't plan to get pregnant.
2007-02-19 05:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by maa8992 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can go both ways. Some religions it's a definate no no but it depends on how religious you are. I agree that you should wait, it's better to get to know someone before jumping into bed, but waiting till marriage i wouldn't. Not unless your a virgin in the first place and you've planned to wait till marriage all along. what happens if even though you get on really well, you get married then your not compatable in the bedroom department. A lot to think about.
2007-02-19 05:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by dollydaydream22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think that it is wrong or thats its the right thing to do. Everybody has heard this whole ordeal thing abt waiting and saving your gift.. I lost it with my first love and now I regret it because I always imagine myself on my honeymoon with the man I love and letting him take it away. It would be special!! And the guy would be happy of course. People make mistakes but I think that It is better to wait. It might not seem like a big deal now but just wait untill you actually marry someone!!!!
2007-02-19 05:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in my book. If you truly love someone and you want to experience it, go for it.
The biggest drawback until waiting? Let say you date for 5 years and go to have sex on you wedding night, only to find out your new spouse is no good in bed. You basically waited five years, only to realize you have a lifetime of bad sex to look forward to? You expect oral, but the spouse does not like doing it? Your spouse doesn't not like getting oral. You spouse is a "missionary only" person. Your spouse does not like to experiment, etc... The list is endless.
If you really love the person and they feel the same for you, I think you should do it before marriage. 30-50 year of bad "missionary only sex" is nothing to look forward to. It would become a chore rather than a pleasure.
2007-02-19 05:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I am strongly religious, but I honestly don't believe that sex before marriage is wrong, if you TRULY love that person, and know that your ready. People who get married can still get divorced, so I don't get how it's any different. Just don't sleep around I guess..now that's wrong. No one likes STDs!
2007-02-19 05:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Schmanders 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but it depends on how each person feels about it. Only you can decide if you are ready or want to have sex before marriage.
2007-02-19 05:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO IT'S NOT WRONG!!! How would you feel if you married a guy and then found out that he is crappy in the sack?! You need to live a little before you tie yourself down with someone. It's healthy. USE PROTECTION!! haha
2007-02-19 05:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋