heres the deal. i started playing football sophmore year. i sort of changed myself a little bit, started hanging out with different people. they are not bad people.my grade went down a little bit. and by a little bit i mean it, like from A to an A-. (yes i was a dork) but my parents started to ***** about all these little things that i do, and they all blame it on football. they say my grades went down because i have all these agility and weights drills after and before school for football. but in fact its because i started taking these advanced courses. they are harder hence the name "advance" but they dont seem to understand it. they still expect an A out of everything. they also ***** about how i dress(prep, like hollister, A&F). i mean, seriously, why do parents have to be so anoying all the time. can't they just leave us along?
2007-02-19 05:01:42 · 15 answers · asked by Tyler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Parents care because they want to make sure their child is going down the right path in life. Grades are important for college, and they are probably concerned because they don't want your chances of getting into a good college to be wasted.
I would sit them down. You sound like a good kid, you seem to be doing everything right. Sit your parents down and explain to them about the advanced placement courses; if they still don't understand organize a meeting with your teachers and guidance counselor. They can tell your parents that it is better that you receive an A- in an advanced level course, then an A+ in a regular level course. In addition, have them explain that doing well in school and in football can lead to college scholarships.
As for the clothes, I don't see why your parents have a problem with that. I would rather have my child dressing in Abercrombie, then dressing like a goth freak. They just need to realize you are wearing what all normal teens wear. No big deal.
2007-02-19 05:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, they have your best interest at heart. You can't even begin to imagine the love a parent has for a child until you have a family of your own. Then you'll understand. In the meantime, tell them that the advanced classes are harder and you feel really good about making an A-. Tell them that football is really something you enjoy and want to stay involved in. Promise to keep studying and trying to keep your grades up. They love you and just want the best for you and your future. Be thankful you have parents who care. Many kids your age don't have that support or caring.
2007-02-19 06:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parent has all the responsibility. The parent is expected to care for the child and the child's well-being throughout his/her lifetime. If the parent is just "trying to get to the magic 16 marker when I don't have to deal with them anymore", then there is something wrong with the parent. Have you ever been a child? If so, what do you remember about your thoughts and concerns? I'll remind you...the concerns of a child go as far as this: "I hope I don't get in trouble for something. And I hope there's ice cream in the fridge". Don't overcomplicate a child's "feelings". There aren't really any. The child needs a parent for security and food and so on...and that's really it. If the child is overly-rebellious, to the point where they are flat-out disrespectful to the parents, then the child needs to go to a military academy or join a martial arts school or something that will scare the hell out of them and teach them the importance of discipline and integrity.
2016-03-15 22:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are freaking out just because your grades went from A to A- at a time when you started taking advanced courses? That’s the only issue? Frankly, I find it a little hard to believe that that’s an accurate portrayal of the situation. I imagine there is more to it than that.
2007-02-19 05:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that they are you parents right not people that you are boarding with. Your parents care for you and want the best for you. What may seem like nit picking is really deep down love for you. If you want your parents to understand your side talk to them in a mature way. Tell them that you want to get the A's but the constant pressure from them is making it harder. Try to come up with a solution with them in this matter so that instead of bickering you get communication.
2007-02-19 05:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats just how parents are they cant stop caring because they love you and want u to be happy and not make bad choices in life. Mine where the same way when I lived at home and it drove me nuts too but once you get older you will understand why they where the way they where and when you have kids of your own you will really understand it. Just explain to them that the classes u are in now are hard on you and mayber u can get out of that class and into something better.
2007-02-19 05:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want you to do the very best that you can. But sometimes, they forget what going through high school and what stress and pressure it can be. Are they themselves overachievers or perfectionists? If so, then they need to realize that they need to support you, not criticize you. They also need to learn which battles are worth fighting and choose them carefully so that you will learn to gain some independence on your own instead of always being smothered by their authority. Not to say they shouldn't have authority, but they should allow you some space to make a few mistakes and decisions on your own.
2007-02-19 05:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents sound just like mine. They're just overprotective. Some parents don't want their child to be hurt and in this case your parents don't even know why so they're just blaming it on something they do know about. You should just tell your friends you have stuff to do and then you'll hang out with them later so that way you can still play football. There's no need to change yourself for anyone else, they should accept you for who you are.
2007-02-19 05:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Big Pimp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just want the best for you. Some parents do overreact when their children start changing (no matter how slightly) because they fear losting control over them.
Sit them down and have an adult conversation about their worries and try to be open-minded to their viewpoint.
Good luck.
2007-02-19 05:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we love our children unconditionally and we always want what's best for them. If you want your parents to leave you alone wait until you're 18 or so to be on your own. Why kids these days have to be so inconsiderate?!
2007-02-19 05:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋