when approaching a girl i get tense not able to talk what should i do?

Question

im 23 and when it comes 2 girls my mind just becomes blank cant think of anything interested to say and this really makes my confident level go way down and feel to old to feel this way at my age my parents already gotten married and had me

Answer 1

be yourself, if she doesnt like u its not true love. If you try and make up what u say before u see her, that might work.

You could make eye contact or send her a note/text
Good luck! hope you get her

Answer 2

I think a lot of guys have that problem. Do you think girls don't do that to? I can't really talk to guys unless I am with my friends, and joking around. I know I am nowhere near your age, but the problem is still the same. You should just be yourself and don't blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Think about what you want to say, before you mess it up saying something dumb. Maybe ask her out for a drink sometime, so you could get to know her. Don't push it. If she says no, then don't beg. She's probably not good enough for you anyways.

Answer 3

Just be calm and be yourself. Don't worry about what shes going to think just be yourself if she doesn't like the real you then shes not worth your time. First ask about what kind of work she does, then continue on until you know if you like her or not, simply ask for her phone number. An if it will help take a deep breath before you walk over. Remember three things 1. Be polite 2. Don't forget to ask about her and 3. Show confidence. Good Luck!

Answer 4

The most important visual impact you have to others is to smile, and say Hello!
Depending on the venue, then a request to buy the lady's drink will often work. Be confident, approach the girl and state that you would like to talk about her favourite subject! Sounds corny, I know, but for you both to laugh together is a great start!

Answer 5

First off don't compare yourself to your parents.....they are a different generation than you and things were different back then....most guys are not getting married nowadys till they are at least 30

Second just be yourself maybe start talking to girls on a friend basis or start talking online.....you might realise that u do actually have lts to talk about and can then bring that into real life?

Lastly just be confident in yourself....that will make girls warm to you and just listen to what they have to say if you can't think of anything and go about it that way

Don't worry, you'll get there

Answer 6

The first thing you need to remind yourself is that even though she is female...she is still human. That even if you say something that offends her she can't shoot you with deatrays from hers eyes. And finally and possibly most important...just because you may think it's boring doesn't mean she will. She's not going to know everything you do. That's why you think it's boring...because you already know it. Try starting with something simple and impossible to screw up. Something like...Hi. Go from there. It really is easier than you're making it out to be.

Answer 7

You need to remember girls are just people there is no reason to be so blank when you wanna talk to one. You just can't let them intimidate you so much cuz as long as you are your self you shouldn't have any problems. Its all a mind thing honey and you have to be the one to over come it.

Answer 8

ok, so u go blank around girls, the best thing to do is just ask a mutual question, like where'd u get that dress, it compliments them but also lets them do the talking, sooner or later u wil come right. good luck

Answer 9

Be a man and face the woman stop this tense thing there is no time for that get out there and be a man.

Answer 10

Do not beat up on yourself about this. Stop and think what is it you want to know about the girl. Ask her these questions. Imagine she is as afraid as you and she has fears too. We are all afraid of some things.