I have a lot of personal hang-ups; I am hurt spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically, and I'm not sure how to get into a relationship without being hurt without being naive because of a criminally vulgar shyness: I figure I'm not good enough for women my type because of previously bad relationships. I have had a few good relationships & I like to try to keep positive with the few I've had, but I'm pretty messed-up. I don't always realize who my true friends are and I figure I'm not good enough for women. I need to ask this question because I would really appreciate some extremely helpful advice if possible. I surprise myself sometimes with how intelligent I am, but my strength doesn't seem to be enough sometimes. I do fine when I do something stimulating, such as learning, help friends, being as good a friend as I can, but when I think of my chances of being in a relationship with a beautiful woman, I figure I'm not good enough for her. What can I do?
2007-02-19 04:59:25 · 6 answers · asked by Hope_I_Can_Answer_Your_Questions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You first need to give yourself some time to heal from whatever it is that has messed u up. Plus the older u get the better things will get,See I do know by what u have written that u are very intelligent.As u get older you'll have more confidence because of u being intelligent.So give yourself some time and before u know it some beauty will be falling for u.
2007-02-19 05:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem seems pretty low. Probably due to the fact that more and more women these days don't want a relationship. They just want to have fun. Atleast from where I'm from(Mi.) I know exactly how you are feeling. Someday you'll find someone. If they keep hurting you then you are better off. Even if you don't think you are. In the long run it will pay off. try not to get so connected with whoever you date right away.
2007-02-19 05:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience. Maybe you go into anything too strongly. Go slowly. Test the waters. Be friends for a while. I also think some professional help might be necessary. If pressured into a relationship, reply with you are not ready.
Good luck
2007-02-19 05:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like that get out and enjoye life, before life pass you by. I think you should get out and mingle with some single women, go out wife your guy friends and enjoye living. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-19 05:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to seek professional help. Answers on here are not going to help you build confidence and without confidence you're doomed to failure in the romance department.
2007-02-19 05:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna need some professional help with that one...answers on here are proably not going to help
2007-02-19 05:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋