into a relationship with a great guy and she is very happy. Am I better off keeping these to myself or should I reveal them to her. I don't want to freak her out or ruin what we have. Advice?
2007-02-19 04:57:07 · 10 answers · asked by KID87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't keep those feelings in and then have regrets for not doing anything about it. there is even a story i don't know if you've heard it.. but it's about how a guy and a girl were best friends.. they were always there for each other, especially as they each dated other people and got hurt... but secretly they both loved the other.. but never had the guts to tell either one. then it goes on to say how at the girls funeral they were reading through her journal or something and it said how much she wished to have him, every time she was with him, but she was too scared to let him know because she didn't know if he felt the same way. and he said the same things.. cute story.. i tried to find it for ya but couldn't.. but basically it tells you that you need to take chances with these kinds of things and not keep your feelings in, because you never know what's going to happen! sure, she might not feel the same way, but at least you'll know and never wonder what if... it is something you Need to do, and something it would be good for her to know.. just incase she has those inner feelings inside for you too, but didn't know if it'd work because you two have been such good friends for the past two years. let her know you don't want to ruin your friendship but that you just had to let her know.. just have a heart-to-heart talk with her. and if she is truly a Good friend then she Won't break up your friendship over something like this and should understand. good luck and Best wishes to you!!!!
2007-02-19 05:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well follow your heart. You can't go wrong if you do that. I know you don't want to ruin her relationship but if she really likes you secretly that is then you aren't ruining anything and if she ends up only liking you as a friend then stay her friend. I think she will be a bit uncomfortable at first after hearing your feelings if you do tell her and she doesn't feel the same but if she truly cares for you as a friend then she will get over it. The point is you have to sit down and weigh the risks. You need to decide if your feelings for her are worth what your about to do. If it is then go for it and if not then have things stay as they are. Like I said though follow your heart. Good luck!
2007-02-19 05:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should keep ur feelings to urself. Sometimes people are friends for a reason. But on top of that, u should respect her relationship with this other guy. Continue to be there as a friend for her during this time. Take this time to possibly explore a relationship yourself. Or just to get to know yourself a little better. Whether or not it works out for her and that guy, just be the best friend u can be to her, cuz I'm sure she'd appreciate that more.
2007-02-19 05:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come guys always have to "conclude" their feelings when the girl finally is happy with another guy.
I think these "Romantic" feelings that you have were aroused from Jealousy, that the girl is happy with another guy. If you were really truly a nice person, you would have asked her out 2 years ago. It is best not to create Drama for the poor gal, because you are just going to cause problems.
2007-02-19 05:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is happy then just be happy for her and stay by her side. You known her for 2 yrs, man. I know it is hard to keep it in but let her be happy. Anyway that is what is important, keep a close eye on the guy however, as they say, keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer. Once you find out the guy is bad for her then make your move.
2007-02-19 05:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was problem with me and my friend Arin. We had been best friends for 3 years and I had a boyfriend and he waited and waited untill we were over and he was the "rebound guy" and helped me and then asked me out. You don't need to tell her while she is dating anyone else I know it will hurt to wait and I'm sorry. But another tip that I tell everyone is the best friend go out thing never works. I have so many friends that go out with there best friends and when they break up they never talk. After me and Arin went out we didn't talk for a whole year. I hope this helps and GOOD LUCK with what ever you do!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-19 05:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by Hayley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude... never lose a chance to express your feelings... i mean now might not be a good time but stick around in her life... maybe u
should have talked to her earlier so you could have been with her. Well anyway, good luck
2007-02-19 05:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Some B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suttle signs like protecting her and letting her know he better not EVER hurt her shows a lot of care...do it enough to spark a conversation and lether know. best not to keep the feelings in.
gl!
2007-02-19 05:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by hung like chuck norris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on and stop making any effort to have contact with her.
2007-02-19 05:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it to yourself, shes moved on, and you should to. go out and be happy!
2007-02-19 05:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by John Redcorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋