due to my other questions i liked everyones answers BUT got me thinking..should i ask my husband straight out why he neglets me ignores me n only defends his mom why does he do this and why hes nice but when his mom comes he will kill me over his mom why?should i ask or its not good to ask
2007-02-19 04:55:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
EVERYBODY LOVES HIS MOTHER.
2007-02-26 05:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey he will never admit to it how much ever u ask. husbands are like that. And as far as your MIL you need to be strong and let her know your mind. the thing u need to keep in mind is even after 10 yrs situation wont change if u dont take initiative and do something.I was in a similar situation but different in the sense that it was with my husband only . So i just separated for some time for him 2 months. It helped the marriage a lot. he realized my value.
Being nice didnt cut it means u need some other approach.best of luck.
2007-02-19 17:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by di 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a bond with his mom that is a little unhealthy. Yes you must ask him why. But be prepared for an answer you may not like. You may have to live with the fact that he adores his mummy and all other women cannot stack up to her.
My husband would have my back every time. He'd protect me till the end. I'd do the same for him too. (unless we are just dead wrong)
2007-02-19 13:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
it is never a good thing to ask questions like that, but you need to know. try to be a little careful how you do it. moms and sons have a strong connections and you should not try to brake that bond but embrace the bond. let you husband know that you respect his mom and there relationship. but you need that he loves you just as much if not more than his mom.remind him that there is a time when the relationship between moms and sons must part. ans the son needs to remember that he has a wife. but be very genital you are in delicate waters.
2007-02-27 09:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "MAMA'S BOY SYNDROME'! I feel for you! My ex was that way.
You have to talk to him about how he is treating you around his mom! You haven't mentioned how his mom is towards you. I can pretty well guess, you can't do anything right by her, nothing you do for her is good enough. No matter how hard you try or what it is, and you'll never be good enough for her 'boy'.
You have to get it all out in the open. And be calm when you do. Not talking about it will eat at you til you blow up and walk out. That's what I wound up doing! Good Luck!
2007-02-27 13:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Gramms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit of an "Oedipus Complex" going on here. Check with Ann Landers or Dr. Phil.
2007-02-19 13:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately ask , infact you should ask him everytime he does it.Tell him the real situation everytime even if bothers to hear or not. One day he will realize. he does this not because he loves his mother but because he is afraid of her.
Husbands love their wife more then their mothers don't they cannot say so.
2007-02-25 11:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by priya k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear if ur hub is fine with u all days and suddenly his mom comes and he si angry with u .u definately need to ask him......bt ask him when he is a good mood..........ask him nicely .so that he can tell u wht really is bothering him when her mom shows up......ask nicely
2007-02-19 13:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by mahek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him. It would only cause hard feelings and a family rift. Good Luck.
2007-02-24 21:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to ask your husband anything,so go ahead and ask
2007-02-20 03:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have got full rights to ask him about this kind of behaviour, go ahead.
2007-02-20 07:30:02 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋