I split with my boyfriend because of three major lies. I found out since then that he has been seeing someone else at the same time as me. He says he has changed and wants me and will do anything to prove it. Can a Leopard change its spots, can I trust him or not? My gut says no but what do you think?
2007-02-19 04:52:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no once someone has broken the trust in the relationship it can't be brought back. move on and forget him. u will be better off in the long run.
2007-02-19 05:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. Sometimes, it depends on how long you've been together and if he is overall a good person. I was cheated on by my boyfriend of two years. He lied to me and told me that the girl was just "a friend" and they were seeing each other for about a year! I was in shock and cried a lot. I could not believe that he could do that to me. There was no way that I could trust him again. There was signs though and he was a big flirt and had too many girls who was "just friends". I should of trusted my instincts, but I believed him and what he said! Guys can lie to you and look you in the eye and say that there is only you in their life and they love you. That's what he told me and I believed him. I should not have. Save yourself some future heartache and do not let him back in your life. Most men do not change. Only a select few are capable of it. Trust your women's intuition and leave him. You deserve to be with someone who does not cheat on you. He took that risk and what he did allows you to get rid of him. He knew that and he still did it. Why would you even want to waste your time with someone like that. After all that he's put you through? I could never take a guy back after I found out he's cheated on me. The trust was completely gone. If you don't have trust then there is no foundation of a good relationship. You'll always be worried that he will cheat on you again. There is too many good guys out there ..go find one that won't dare to cheat on you because he loves you that much!
2007-02-19 05:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your gut instinct!
It is true a leopard can not change its spots, but we are talking about personalities and they can change.
When I was a lad, about '100 years ago I changed my girlfriends almost as often as I changed my shirt (I didn't cheat on any of them), but one day I met this someone special and she became my wife.
Any or should I say everyone that knew me before the day I met Jean would tell you I would never settle down, but I did.
The leopard didn't change its spots, but boy did I change.
He like me might have changed, but can you trust him and to build a relationship you do need trust.
2007-02-19 05:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit dum to me if someone lies and cheats why on earth would you want them as a partner. There is a study that shows many women are attracted to bad men because deep down the enjoy being the victim you need to grow up. I have had one night stands etc but because i knew i couldn`t trust them i never got into a relationship an adult can control there emotions do you have a mind stuck in a state of infancy
2007-02-19 05:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by properwired 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say listen to your guy, it's telling you the truth. No, once they have spots they always have spots. And no a dry cleaner can't get them out either, in other words nothing is going to change him.
Just dump him and move on, who needs a liar and a cheat? Certainly not you, you deserve much better than that. So when you dumped him you did the best thing you could have ever done for your self.
Good for you for listening to your self, your already on the right path. Find some one who won't lie and cheat on you. Always give your self the best, you deserve so much more than he will ever give to you.
Don't let him beg his way back into your life, just remember all that he has already done to you and keep moving on.
Good luck.
2007-02-19 05:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut instinct - I didn't and spent 22 years in a marriage with someone who said he loved me but was a serial attempted adulterer. Eventually a week after my grandchild was born he said he didn't want me anymore and had someone else - a cheat doesn't change, however much we think they will just for us. Fortunately I have now got a loving and FAITHFUL partner and my life is so much happier these days - find a guy who deserves to be with you - you deserve better than this liar and cheat. Good luck!
2007-02-19 05:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by jintyb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lied to you three times? I don't think that merits easy forgiveness. I'd give it a bare minimum of a year or two's wait before going near this again. But after a fourth betrayal, forget him. But make sure he knows this first.
2007-02-19 05:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl i just posted a similar question..my guy i know was not honest with me..about a girl he texted and now i have to wonder if he is till texting her and i get soo fu c king paronoid when i call him and he doesnt pick up his phone..my guy has showed me he changed but somtimes i feel like he is forcing the change..its not really who he is..you know someone that can be faithful and that he is someone that liikes alot of women..i mean girl its up to you..but just know that if you do take him back you will be like me..fu cking paroniod and i cant stant it becuase sometimes when i call him and i dont get him i leave messages like what the hell you are doing ..why the hell you are not picking up your phone..and i get soo mad and heated..please call you dont want to be like me..bu its also up to you..if you love him and if you want to make it work...very best luck to you.
2007-02-19 05:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no as well. Here are some songs that are good to listen to at times like this.
Lying from you- Linkin Park
Qwerty- Linkin Park
Figure.09-Linkin Park
Te Paga- Juanes.
Happy listening
2007-02-19 05:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lying from you 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
woah no way nooooo way you can not trust him the same thing will happen again and again... what were the lies?? i have done this and its not good but listen to what your heart tells you to do yours may be a different case
2007-02-19 04:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Audrey♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋