2007-02-19 04:52:02 · 16 answers · asked by almondj84 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
There is a very good book that would help you - it's called Dare To Discipline - by Dr. James Dobson - I suggest buying a copy and reading it.
2007-02-19 05:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about control. You need to get it back because she is in charge now. I have three daughters. My oldest is sixteen. I had a rough time with her because her father and I have been divorced since she was one. I have taken her to counseling on and off throughout the years. A big problem was consistency. If you are not consistant with her from one day to the next she will not change her behavior. The counselor suggested a book called Parenting With Love And Logic. The authors are Foster Cline and Jim Fay. It teaches children to be responsible for their actions. It talks about letting children make choices and then facing the consequences of their actions. Obviously, you wouldn't let her do something that would hurt her, but for example, she doesn't want to wear her jacket outside and it is cold then let her go outside, soon enough she will realize that she needs her jacket. She will feel like she made the choice. You don't have to spank your child to get them to listen to you ( as suggested by other answers) My oldest daughter is very respectful of me now and I enjoy being around her when before things were out of control. I also have a two year old and a three year old and knowing what I do now has made it so much easier. I feel like I am off to a much better start then I was with my older daughter. I would definitely start working on this now, because before you know it there 13 and completely out of control. Good Luck!
2007-02-19 13:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it sounds to me like everyone has spoiled the child. My cousin is like that but she listens to her dad because she RESPECTS him. You have to make her respect you. When she doesn't listen to you. You need to take something that she plays with a lot away. If that doesn't work then you should put her in time out. If that doesn't work you should tap her on the but more less to scare her rather than hurt her. It is not child abuse as some may say. Child abuse is when a child is spanked or slapped to where there are bruises or red marks. So, just be wise about when, how, and how hard you tap your child. I hope that helps! Good luck!
2007-02-19 12:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Silent Murder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a four year old nephew ... he never listens to his mom (shes single)! He has been getting better. A few tricks i know from watching this (they live with me) is..
If you say "I'm gonna take it way if you don't stop disbehaving" You HAVE TO stay to your word. Yeah they might cry but in the end the will come back saying sorry. Another trick is...let the father take her out on a fun little date, they will bond...have fun...then in the end when he tucks her in bed...he should be like" This was fun!""but in order to have these speacial times you have to start listen to me." She'll bond to listen!
Hope this helps and have a great life with your family!
2007-02-19 12:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start early and start now, otherwise it will be alot worse later. A child that young doesn't know what is best for them and needs disipline. If she chooses not to listen, take away some of her favorite things or events and start there to see if that changes her behavior and a good spanking never hurt any kid. Best of luck.
2007-02-19 13:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by dadknows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent.
This is the one thing I have the biggest problem with. If try to give one warning then punish one time, and give several warnings another time, the child starts to think the warnings are meaningless.
Also DO NOT give in, if they start yelling because they want something, then you give it to them once they stop, then they are in charge and you should either fight hard to change ore learn to live with it.
2007-02-19 13:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by heThatDoesNotWantToBeNamed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out is good. if she runs away from where ever you piut her in time out then just stand in front of her and don't let her leave. every time she tries to get out of time out , or argues with you about it , add another minute to her time out. dont just put her in her room tho, because she will have things to play with. my family does time outs standing in a corner.make her verbally admit what she did wrong and make her apologize. asking her "are you sorry?" and then her nodding her head isn't good enough. watch nanny 911 or super nanny for some more ideas.
2007-02-19 12:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer rewards and punishments. Chances are, she will listen to positive things. Start there.
2007-02-19 14:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by curious1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first you ave to check in what circumstances she does that,try to talk to her when she is not upset,a lot people don't listen to the kids.but you are not specific ,she doesn't listen when you tell her to stop doing something wrong?or when you ask her to do something?
2007-02-19 13:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call super nanny
2007-02-19 12:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋