ohkay so phil. the guy that my last 2 questions were about. i dont know how to ask him out:im shy in a way so im nervous to even bring it up. i was thinking a movie but i only talk over im and like i said some conversations are not as lively as others.... i dont want to sound like an idiot and im scared he'll say no!!! and is it even ok for girls to ask guys out? were 8th graders! HELP!
2007-02-19 04:40:54 · 9 answers · asked by Catherine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
flirt with him and he should ask u out.
2007-02-26 22:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is to stop being shy around him. If you are confident, you improve your chances a great deal (as well as being able to say what is on your mind).
Now if you are generally shy around people, than practice by speaking with others. Just chit chat around.
Now it is okay for girls to ask guys out, and it happens a lot more than you think. Anytime a girl goes and suggests anything, she's asking him out (It may not be as formal, but like I said, its normal).
Next, get use to talking with him. Are you two friends? If yes, than, try to have deeper conversations but if no, start shallow, and work your way.
Finally, ask him out. The worst he can say is no. Be cool about it. Don't cry. Simply say that's okay/that's cool, and maybe have another conversation. Don't let him feel guilty that he had to turn you down. BECAUSE, sometimes people changed their mind. I asked a guy once, he said no, a couple of days later, he came back and told me he would like to take me out.
Sometimes they'll be shocked, and need time to think it over.
Be Confident
Be Cool
Don't overreact
Remember, you won't become the school joke just because you asked someone out.
2007-02-19 04:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by topaz989_mc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you should give him a few chances to ask you out.. Dont rush it. Guys have a hard time doing this. Its difficult.
And lots of guys like to be the one doing the asking....
On the flip side, it's the 21st century and theres nothing wrong with asking a guy out. Many guys like women that make the first move.
You shouldn't ever be afraid to ask out a guy. Most of the time he is probably trying to figure out how to ask you out... Really though, whats the worst thing that could happen?
Either way.. you are a female. Guys always want to go out with women, unless she has a muschtache or some foul body odor.
He might be interested, or he might not be. If he is talking to you, it probably means he is interested.
The only way to find out is by asking him to hang out, or have coffee or lunch or whatever.... and if you are uncomfortable just make it seem harmless. like just to catch a quick movie or something.
If you have only been IM'ing, i would suggest calling him and chatting on the phone a few times first.. then casually, while finishing a conversation, ask what he is up to for the weekend. once he tells you what he has planned, ask if he'd want to do anyone of these things...
-go to a museum
-see a movie and get lunch/dinnner.
-coffee
-bowling
-etc....
if you make it seem casual then it won't be a huge deal... no pressure.
2007-02-19 04:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by michaelJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's definately OK to ask a guy out, but I just don't think it's very effective. I know I've asked a lot of guys out, and I've gotten exactly 1 date from doing that. See guys like a challenge, wether they know it or not, they want a girl they think they can't have. If she does the asking then there's no challenge.
I recommend this book. Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov
it's not saying be mean to the guy, it's just saying to act like you don't care, cause then you're a challenge and the guy will be intrigued. It's a good book.. very insightful
2007-02-19 04:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is to take a chance. Once that initial fear of rejection is oer and done with, it gets easier. In fact, think of it this way; "No" is the worse thing he could say. There are other guys out there and you are still young. You may try to find an activity he would be interested in, then go for it. You have nothing to lose.
2007-02-26 15:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oooh oooh!!!! i got an idea!!! scavenger hunt!!
k, leave a note in his locker to go someplace that will lead to the next clue. there, he'll find the first letter of your name... and a clue to the next place. keep doing that till your entire name is up and at the last letter of your name just have a note that says "Will you go out with me?"
2007-02-19 04:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ASK A CLOSE FRIEND TO TALK TO HIM FOR YOU IT WILL BE EASIER THAT WAY AND IN NO TIME YOU WILL KNOW WHAT HE REALLY FEELS FOR YOU BUT DONT BE HEART BROKERN IF THE ANSWER IS NO GOOD THERE WILL BE PLENTY MORE MEN IN THE FUTURE SO DEAR GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
2007-02-19 04:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boo, i would ask one of your bff to ask him out. don't be scared you don't need help. breath breath! pass him a notes or something. be flirty but not tooo flirty.
play it cool♥
2007-02-19 07:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by madina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all just relax ........ talk to this guy casually ask him abt his likes and dislikes.....get to know him then u may be in good position to ask him to go out with u.....try to be more friendly with him he may ask u himself for going out with u..best of luck!
2007-02-19 04:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by mahek 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋