I was involved with a married woman who was having issues with her husband verbally abusing her. She is a co-worker and have been working together for over 4 yrs. She's been married for over 15 years and has been with her husband since college. I too am married and in a abusive marriage with my wife. Eventually we found comfort from each other and ended up having an affair. The feelings we had for each other was mutual and were contimplating of leaving each other's spouses. Until one day she was diagnosed with a mild case of the Bipolar Disorder and everything fell apart. She is now on medication (Lithium) and is in counseling. We still work together and ever since she was diagnosed, she has not been the same. We maintain a professional relationship however I wish it would be more. My question is, was I a victim of her disorder (Hypersexual) and should I move on or should I keep hoping that one day she might come around and have feelings for me again?We currently maintain a friendship
2007-02-19 04:38:52 · 7 answers · asked by rtflier 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If her hypersexuality was the result of her condition, then the medication will lower that aspect of her behavior. If she is truly bipolar, then she will experience some highs and lows. But, I would say that she has enough issues to deal with. No more affairs; she needs to reestablish a relationship with her husband now that she is medicated...the rules have changed.
If she gets a divorce (that's divorce, not separation), then after a year, you might want to reestablish a more intimate occasion, if she wishes.
Other than that, be her friend, with no expectations.
2007-02-19 04:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by wiscman77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the diagnoses and medication aside, you and your lady friend are both committing adultery. I am sure you know that. Try not to dwell and move on, I promise it's in your best interest. Being involved with a married person is hard enough - cause how many times out of 10 does it work out?
2007-02-19 04:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by meggus31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
And there is NOTHING like a "mild" case of bipolar disorder. That's like being "slightly" pregnant.
'Mild' bipolar is not bipolar, it's cyclothemia or dysthemia.
Lithium is a very effective drug to combat manic depression(bipolar), but it can leave you feeling lethargic.
Hey, even despite the bipolar, she's a married woman, so you're just compounding potential problems.
Call your affair a case of 'emotionally devoid lust' and work things out with your wife.
2007-02-19 04:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This relationship sounds more bothersome than it is worth. If you are so unhappy in your relationship with your wife, you should either seek counseling or get a divorce. There really is NO excuse for infidelity. This gal that you had an affair with probably doesn't know what is going on in her "little world". I believe that you should forget her and move on.
2007-02-19 04:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may desire to get some couseling too. you're no longer guaranteed to continuously have a guy that hits you except you refuse to go away. do no longer blame your bi-polar for his hitting you, this is not the clarification. No woman might desire to ever be hit via a guy, regardless of wether she has a ailment or no longer. what he's doing is erroneous, and you do no longer might want in charge your self. shop taking your meds and conversing on your rfile and get some couseling on the area. it could enable you to out with those emotions of blaming your self. stable good fortune.
2016-10-02 09:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You were a "victim" of your own lust not her disorder.
2007-02-19 04:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for her and move on.
2007-02-19 04:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋