she's been doin this jus about all her life and i known my friend for about 3 years now and its constant and i cant take it anymore cause she keep callin me cryin. so who do i call or what do i do cause i tried talkin to her mom and she wasnt tryin to hear me and hung up.
she wanted to talk to my mother but i am a grown independent 21 year old college student and besides my mama dont like her anyway.
2007-02-19 04:29:54 · 7 answers · asked by lil_lady 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Good for you for trying to help your friend! This keeps up she will have problems later on, I am sure. How old is your friend? Old enough to be on her own? Can she stay with you for awhile? You can be a good listener to your friend, which I'm sure you are. Reinforce to her that she is not the person her mom is making her out to sound. Maybe you can help get her into counseling.
2007-02-19 04:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by meggus31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is in a very bad situation and she is reaching out to you for help. Unfortunately the most you can do is offer her support by comforting her and allowing her to vent when she is in an emotional state.
Though your heart may have been in the right place when you called your friend's mother it is not really your place. That type of information should have come from someone close to the mother or the family.
Your friend needs to seek the help of a counselor or someone that can help her cope with such a negative and abusive relationship. Chances are for the relationship to be completely repaired both your friend and her mother will have to seek counseling.
2007-02-19 12:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by wonderingwifenga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's mother is abusive and a witch besides. The best thing your friend can do is get away as quickly as possible. Try to advise your friend on either finding a job and getting her own place or going away to school if that is an option. Her mother is enjoying this and if your friend is hanging around it will never stop.
Help her all you can. You are a good friend.
2007-02-19 13:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 21. How old is your friend? If she's over 16 she's legally entitled to move out and be on her own.
If she's younger than that, then get the local chapters of children's services involved, period. She's probably going to need psychotherapy.
Now I'm curious. If you're really as old as you say, how come you don't know this? And also, you don't write or spell like a 21 yr. old 'college student'.
So if this is really 'someone else' you're talking about, then I'd quickly follow the first line of advice I game you and get children/family services involved, especially if 'your friend' is really you.
This treatment by your 'friend's mother' is WRONG and needs to be stopped NOW!
2007-02-19 12:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you have phrased your question is not that comprehensible . . Who is the abuser and who is being abused?
And where are you in this?
Would you be so kind to rephrase the question with a little better clarity?
It would help your question obtain a helpful answer.
I am not criticizing . . it is just that as you've written your concern, I have been left a bit confused. Thanks.
2007-02-19 12:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by skydancerwi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her talk to your mom regardless. Your mom will be unbiased with her. And who cares if you're "grown up and independent" You always need your mom.
2007-02-19 12:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the child abuse hot lines or the acs
2007-02-19 12:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by mkandfa4rever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋