I'm 19 years old and have never had a boyfriend. It has never bothered me as to why that is but it's starting to. I may not be Jessica Alba but I am pretty. I'm told I'm smart and fun to be around. No annoying habits that I know of. So, why have I not been approached that much?
2007-02-19 04:12:15 · 13 answers · asked by Simply Sasa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it time...no rush. I am a Jessica Alba fan, and did you know that she was not approached very often either...I believe it is mainly because she is way too intimidating (sooo hot), and you may well be on this level. Give it time...there will be someone who will work up the courage.
2007-02-19 04:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off lets break it down to a few possibilities. You are either too pretty and intimidating (This is the most unlikely truth, sorry), you go to an all girls school and have been there since puberty, or like someone said.....you are not attractive. Ok the person said fugly and I laughed but it doesn't make me the devils advocate. And finally you just might be a b***h and unapproachable.
To figure out which one fits you have to be brutally honest with yourself and look at yourself as if there is a stranger in that mirror and then make a judgment. You can also check out your girl friends, if others don't like them so much then you are one of them.
Send me your pic and I will be honest and tell you if you are pretty (face only and no dirty/nasty ones) or not as far as being a b***h well someone else will have to do that. nobeoddy at yahoo
2007-02-19 12:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nob ody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin'
Let me lay a clue on you here that I have learned over time---- I work with some of the most beautiful women in the world in my work--- I am a professional commercial photographer and do a lot of fashion work for the trades---- it has come to my attention over my career that a lot of really great looking gals have this same problem--- and what it boils down to is--- your looks literally scare the holy doo daa day out of a lot of guys--- they are SO sure that you are going to be one of those uppity snotty little spoiled "all thats" that they would have like a snowballs chance in hell having a minute of your attention before you told them to bug off--- they just lack the real confidence to even approach you !!!
So, there in is the blessing as a curse--- you look great BUT it is a real hurdle for a lot of guys to get over and because of that-- you are sitting and wondering what is wrong !! But, don't worry ---one day --- maybe not that long away--- the RIGHT dude is going to step up (the guy with the confidence and the admiration that its going to take) and when he does--- you'll know it was worth the wait because it will be a world different than just being with anybody to be with somebody !!
Good luck to you---and --- keep the faith !!!
2007-02-19 12:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being the age you are, it may just be that you don't play up to guys as much as other girls do. Most guys under 21 are way too insecure to approach girls who do not flirt with them and stroke their egos. (And unfortunately, it doesn't get a WHOLE lot better when you get older :) I'm not suggesting you SHOULD do that stuff though. There ARE guys out there who are confident enough to approach a smart, confident girl. And when you find one, it's worth it because you know they respect and like who you really are and are not just responding to a stimulus :) Hang in there...great guys who will like you are out there! I was in my 20s before I started meeting them.
2007-02-19 12:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will. If you are still in high school, that is not unusual, and you probably aren't missing much. Wait until you hit the real world. Are you going to college? Hopefully you will, and hopefully you will meet a wonderful young man.
Good luck Jessica!
Go on down to Larry J7's advice! He is a very wise man, I agree completely.
2007-02-19 12:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Almost all men only think girls who have pretty faces, big breasts, a big butt and nice legs are worth their efforts. If you are pretty, as you say, then chances are your physical features aren't what men want. Don't worry. Just live your life and accomplish what you want and you will meet guys that are interested. Everybody in life always want what they can't have. If you give off a vibe that you are unattainable, then you will see guys checking you out.
2007-02-19 12:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by insidehomerun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it start to bother you? Someone has annoyed you, has she (or he)? If you let that get under your skin, you will have that annoying habit you didn't have before and it will reduce your chances of being approached.
2007-02-19 12:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you give off the wrong vibes? Sounds weird I know but there are some girls who are just relaxed and friendly and want to be spoken to and others who just appear to be either too shy or insecure or maybe too arrogant.
Talk to yourself in the mirror before you go out and practice your 'its OK to speak to me ' look and see if it differs to the expression you normally wear.
2007-02-19 12:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're never in the right place at the right time. Hey, it's the 21st century, you're a liberated woman - you should be approaching the men
2007-02-19 12:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by eckzl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really don't worry about boys, let themc ome to you. If you think there is nothing wrong then im sure they don't see anything wrong either so sit back and let the guys do the work!
2007-02-19 12:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋