I am in some sort of dilemma. there is this girl at my work, which i started to go out as a friend ( that was the intention), we talk hours, text each other all the time and spend time eating and watching movies together. However, recently I believe I am starting to develop feelings for her, which I wanna avoid. the best thing I thought would be not to even be her friend, so I forget her, but this will be hard as I see her alot. On the other hand, I kinda feel that she wants to be my friend only.
What approach should I take?
2007-02-19 04:11:19 · 12 answers · asked by Unknown U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be friends with her. I know you shouldnt ignore your feelings but sometimes it is darn right imperative to do so. When I was in law school I had a friend named Jon. Jon and I were good friends and I started to develop a crush on him. But he just wanted to be friends. So I just kept hanging out with him and soon my feelings passed. Soon another guy came along. Don't ignore her because that is the worst thing you can possibly do right now. Just keep being her friend like you always have been and in time your feelings for her will wittle away. I hope this helped! Good luck!
2007-02-19 04:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Star's mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm going to tell you something straight up. If you are spending that much time together, and you know she wants to spend time with you, she likes you! Don't fight back your feelings! Sometimes people who you would of never thought you'd have a strong relationship with, are the ones! Now go get her before she's gone.
2007-02-19 12:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Carly K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it happen organically, if you want it platonic, and you think she wants a platonic friendship, then obviously nothing's going to happen. And if it does... is it really that bad?
The worst thing you want to do is sever communication without actually talking to her about it. If she's the scornful type, she'll make your work life miserable.
2007-02-19 12:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just continue being her friend and dont make any move on her. if she spends that much time with you she may also develop feelings for you. and it sounds to me you already have feelings for her and shutting her out complety probably wont make them go away, so just be her friend and have fun
2007-02-19 12:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 2 are just good friends, don't worry about romance. Love won't happen if you both don't want it to. She obviously thinks you should just be friends. Keep it that way.
2007-02-19 12:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if you like her--maybe she like you too
why not start a relationship and be happy
or just be friends---"can't get over the girl" just thought that would be a good song for ya
2007-02-19 12:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friendly but keep your distance. At work romances can be extremely messy and damage your career
2007-02-19 12:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.. ask your heart... sit down and think really carefully... ask her... then take the next step...don't be a blur case and stop talking to her...at the moment try to keep things simple...
2007-02-19 12:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her... what would you do if i ... ? that worked on me with my guy friend... and i wanted to stay friends with him only. i guess there was just something about him...
2007-02-19 12:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by twixermixer717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront your feelings, and if they are real, talk to the girl about them.
2007-02-19 12:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋