I am 13 years of age,and I am in Junior High.....I dress good( i wear name brand clothes such as Hollister and Abercrombie)....I take showers every morning and brush my teeth(soo i don't stink or anything).....I even got rid of My glasses early in 6th grade (and I wear contacts) .....I am not shy but not Am not annoying.....About everyone that i know has a Boyfirend Or HAD a boyfirend .....except me....
2007-02-19 03:49:27 · 28 answers · asked by ii.gott.Answerss. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are worrying needlessly. So, everyone that you know has or has had a boyfriend. Did you consider that most boys your age may not be ready for you?
Perhaps they feel that they have nothing to lose dating your friends, but may not feel adequate to ask out out? Early dating (early in your life, not at an early age) is not a popularity contest. The idea is to get to know how to communicate with those who society has separated (this usually means girls and boys).
You may not be shy or annoying and could be absolutely beautiful, but if you cannot communicate easily with boys then you need to concentrate on this first. Guys do not date gals that they have a hard time talking to.
This might not be your fault. It could be theirs, but you need to find out how to get them to talk to you. Start by learning how to talk with them. Once the converstaions become common, so will the dating. At least some of the boys will want to get to know you better.
2007-02-19 04:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
13... Ok. Slow down. 1st, boys your age are immature. They don't know what they want. And they don't know how to get it.
2nd, don't base your self worth on whether or not you have a BF.
3rd, enjoy your youth. Relationships will drive you crazy. Do you want to cry yourself to sleep 'cause your 14 year old BF was talking to another girl?
I know, chances are my advice will not change a thing, but, really, you're not going to marry your next BF no matter how much you fantasize about it.
Here's my suggestions
1) Learn how to be happy on your own. If you can be happy with yourself, you'll be much better off. If you base your happiness on having a BF, we'll disapoint you everytime. Women who are happy with themselves are much more self confident. Self confidence is the armor you will use to protect yourself from the jerks out there. A woman who is happy with herself is not needy.
2) Its not your clothes or make-up or all that external stuff.. Yeah, looking nice and smelling nice will attrack a man, but being nice will keep him. The most attractive thing a woman can wear is a smile.
3) Learn from other's mistakes. Watch what is happening to your friends.
Now is the time to focus on school. Get good grades, go to college. I know, it's not what you want to hear. But it is true.
And finally, if you're looking for a nice guy, you've got to be a nice girl. Don't be easy and don't be desperate.
One more thought, I'll bet you there is a guy at school who would like to be your BF but doens't know how to ask you out or is afraid of being rejected. So, just because no one is asking you out doesn't mean you're unwanted...
So, be happy, be nice & be willing to wait for a nice guy. (Nice guys wait too)...
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-19 12:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And if you get a boyfriend, what do you intend to do with it? If you're as smart as you say you are, maybe you don't need a boyfriend. Consider yourself lucky that you don't have that kind of complication in your life. Now just continue to make your life the best that it can be and sooner or later, you'll have boys clamoring for your attention. Why settle for the crumbs when you can have the whole loaf?
2007-02-19 11:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are trying too hard, guys can sense desperation just like girls can.
Just relax and it will happen naturally. I do not believe that all your 13 y old friends have a boyfriend, kids just say that to make themselves look good in the group. How many of these guys have you actually met? Anyone can say they have 'had a boyfriend' it covers everything as no-one can ask to meet him as its over now. Learn to play the mind games that people play!
2007-02-19 12:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm really passionate about this matter. You are at an age when you're developing a self-esteem. It could either be a healthy one or an unhealthy one. You need to chose what you're going to allow to influence your self-esteem and how to develope one. YOU SHOULDN'T INCLUDE BOYS IN YOUR CHOICE. It will come back to bite you in the butt later. Think about yourself. What do you like? What are you talented in? Whay are you a worthwhile person. Take a journey with yourself until you are able to say :"Boys are really dumb not to date me because I'm awesome, but it doesn't matter because I'm so happy with myself that I don't need one." At this stage you're saying "I'm all of this but boys still won't date me so there must be something wrong with me." That's why you're here isn't it? To ask what could possibly be wrong with you that boys don't wanna date you? You don't need that. I'm 19 and have a really low self-esteem beacuse from a young age, I let people determine how I view myself, I must tell you: it's a horrible feeling. Save yourself!
2007-02-19 12:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Sasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is really to young to be worryed about all this. Just go have fun in school and be yourself. The right guy will come along in time. And if your not looking for one and just doing what you like to do you have a better chance of getting a guy that will really like you and the things you like....
2007-02-19 11:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it be happy that you haven't had a boyfriend yet, yeah they're great to have but they can also sometimes be a pain in the butt. Just stay relaxed and let the guys come to you, i bet theres a guy out there thats just too shy to let you know he likes you. Thats how junior high is, so don't worry about it tooo much.
2007-02-19 11:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. I got my first girlfriend at the age of 15.
You still have a long way. You will have enough time for all the boyfriends that you want. Anyway, do you want a boyfriend or any friend with do? If a boyfriend, it will worth waiting for. :)
2007-02-19 11:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by David Fhu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13, there are grades and school work to worry about not boys, you're to young Waite another 5 years.
2007-02-19 11:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax honey, your 13 you dont NEED to have a boyfriend yet! Its ok that you dont. I didnt start dating till I was 15. Be patient it'll happen when its supposed to not before and you do not want to look desperate. Good luck and God Bless
2007-02-19 11:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by knight_janette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋