I've been in a relationship on and off with this women for about a year and 9 months (one year if all on cendensed together). We started out as friends with privelages for about one year after we started seeing each other. During this time she had more feelings for me than I did for her. She became more and more attatched as time went by. One day she comes to me and says I don't want to do this anymore I want a real relationship. After she told me this I was heartbroken because I thought everything was going so well. After talking about it we agree to started officially dating. Two months go by During this time a friend of hers is planning to get married after only knowing this guy for 6 months. Two weeks ago her friend got married (Eloped). That same day she comes over and gives me an ultimatum and said do you want to marry me because thats what I want. I love her and don't want to lose her but on the other hand why didn't I ever take the steps neccesary to take it further?
2007-02-19 03:49:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love her, you can openly commit to a marriage without having to do it right away. Let her know what your intentions are, maybe that's all she wants to know.
2007-02-19 03:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a life long commitment, not something you just decide oh they did it so we should do it. It is something you really need to put alot of thought into and think about it seriously, is she the woman you want to spend your life with or is she backing you into a corner and making you feel like you have no other choice and in 1 year you will regret this? You both need to think this over and talk about it and not just jump into a marriage unless it feels right to both of you. The 2 of you are the only 2 that know how you 2 really feel, but don't do it because someone else is getting married and she feels left out. If you feel you can't live without each other then do it for the right reason, LOVE.
2007-02-19 12:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you and MOST all other guys are the same way so don't feel alone. If you date someone for over a year and are intimate surely you wouldn't assume it would go on FOREVER the way it was? It either has to deepen or eventually you'll split apart. If your NOT in love with her you should of let her go long before now and if it took her letting you go to realize how much you love her then thats great unless shes moved on and if thats the case don't nake the same mistake again. Women need to know at least 6 months into the dating scene if your really interested or not. If not, time to move on. That's just how life is.
2007-02-19 11:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is marriage something you want...ever?,,,with anyone??
Have you given it much thought?
You probably didn't take the next step because you thought things were great the way they were. Is this girl saying she wants to get married NOW or is she just wondering if this will eventually lead to something she obviously wants? You certainly can NOT be pushed or forced into doing something you don't want to do! On the other hand just take some time...start thinking along those lines and see where you end up. Be honest with this person and you both really talk about your own visions of the future.
Good luck!
2007-02-19 11:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by TriciaC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok..so if you love her and want to marry her, marry her. It's not that hard. If she's backing you into a corner, don't marry her. Just because her friends are getting married doesn't mean she has to get married. It doesn't sound like she's taking marriage all that serious if she wants it because everyone around her is getting married. Bottom line, marry her if you want to. If you don't, let her go.
2007-02-19 11:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready for commitment? Even if you haven't asked her hand in marriage yet, don't think it's because you don't have enough love for her.
Make sure your financially ready and takes some time to get engaged so that it's special. Most importantly, there's a time and a season for everything. Do it when it feels right.
2007-02-19 11:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets afraid especially after years of WALLS due to past broken relationships. Time to try now if you think she is special. Don't be afraid.
2007-02-19 11:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and want to be with her forever, then marry her, but if you don't, don't waste any more of each other's time. it sounds like you've reached the s**t or get off the pot point.
2007-02-19 11:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't even go there if it wasn't you thinking to ask her to marry you then it's not what you are ready for, tell her how you feel but you are not going to be blackmailed into marrying her in this way ,,
and say good bye,,
2007-02-19 11:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know what you mean brotha
2007-02-19 11:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋