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Question

if your kids father has a child by a 15 year old should you feel a lil uneasy with him around his own biological child or am i being a little paraniod about the situation. please a desperate mom that needs honest answers

Answer 1

I would be concerned yes, the father of your child could be going to jail. Just because he had sex with a minor doesn't mean he will try to have sex with your children, I would still not leave them alone, he should understand where you are coming from if he is a more reasonable parent then he is a partner!

Answer 2

You don't mention your child's father's age, your child's age, or anything specific for that matter, so it's hard to tell. If you are a 17 y/o mother of an infant or toddler, and he's 17/18 and hooked up with this 15 y/o... that's not quite so alarming. But if he's in his 20's or older, it could be of concern. An adult having sexual relations with such a young teenager is wrong on so many counts, legally and morally. He could have total emotional power over her if that's the situation, because of the dynamics of a young girl's dependant mentality. I would personally find it disturbing if an adult man was looking for love, sex, whatever, with a young girl. It says a lot about his motives to me. Will his next GF be 14? 12? Where will he draw the line, or where will you, before "pedophile" becomes the obvious answer? I'm not saying he *is* a pedophile, I can't possibly know that; but it's not really healthy IMO to be attracted to someone so young, naive, and emotionally dependent. I would probably feel uneasy having him around my child, but not to the point of prohibiting contact.... yet. I would definitely be cautious, and do my best not to have him spending time alone with the child. If anything else came to light that made him seem more suspicious as a possible pedophile, I'd report him as fast as my fingers could dial.

Answer 3

I would feel a little uneasy with him and so should you. I'm guessing that you're reasoning behind the uneasiness is that you believe, "If he is willing to come into sexual contact with this minor, what is to stop him from doing the same to his own children?" I understand how you feel and you need to ask yourself some questions.

1-Do I stay with him or is this something I can overlook like a stain on the carpet?

2-If I do stay with him, what will happen when he is alone with our children?

3-Though, if I do split up with him, what will happen with the kids? They need a father in their life, right?

It is up to you on whether or not you stay with him. Some will say to stay together for the kids' sake, others would say split up for the kids. All in all, it is your call. I can only give you advice, hence the reason you came to this site.

However, if you do end up staying with him, keep an eye on his behavior, especially when he is around your kids, or any other child for that matter.

I hope I could be of some help.

Answer 4

yes, but i would feel way uneasy not just a little bit uneasy. keep an eye on this. if the father is having sexual relations with the 15 year old he can be charged with stagatory rape punishable by prison time. you are not by any means paranoid, you are just a concerned parent and you are doing the only thing that is right to do. i would only let the father visit at the home where you and your child are. i would not let him take the child anywhere where they are going to be supervised. a parent can never be too sure or too over-protective these days. you are a great parent. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 5

its a bit of an odd situation. In my opinion, just because a man (or even a woman for that matter) has had a relationship with a minor doesnt mean they will have any attraction for their own children. On the other hand an adult having a relationship with a minor isnt right and is going to obviously raise some paranoia. If it were me I would probably wouldnt make too much of a deal about it, but I would also keep my eye wide open just in case.

Answer 6

if the father of my children had a child with a 15yrs old yes that would make me uneasy with leaving him alone with the kids. 15 year old is a child too.

Answer 7

I'm not a mom, but if I were... I would be paranoid and I certainly would not allow him to be alone with the kids, even his own biological child. He is a pedophile which means I would have reported him to the police.
I would expect him to be just as willing, possibly more, to sexually abuse his own kids as he would the 15yr old girl he had the child with.
Talk to your kids...you'll probably find that they are just as paranoid of him as you are.
I speak from experience and family history....
My mom's oldest sister had her dad's baby at the age of 15.
I have one uncle who has sexually abused every female member of the family, including his own mother who he raped at gunpoint. He also raped a 5 year old girl.

Answer 8

No .. I would definitely feel uneasy. Why in hell does he have a child with a 15 yr old and why is his *** not in jail?? I would totally understand if you did not let your own children near him. He is a child molester in my eyes! I am sorry.. but it just how I feel about this.

Answer 9

That depends. We know nothing about the father to make any sort of assumption. Is there a sinking feeling that you feel there is something not right about his father? If so, that may warrant attention.

If not, then it could just you being an overprotective parent.

You should ask how your son feels about it. He's old enough to communicate if something isn't right.

Answer 10

I would be paranoid as well. I see your point, He obviously did not have a problem being with another child. If you have girls that are over the age of 12 please be very careful when around him. I know people deserve the benefit of the doubt but when it comes to your children I rather doubt than be sorry. GOOD LUCK.