Fallen in love with someone who is already married??You wouldnt want to break up the family but you just didnt no what to do about it coz your feelings were so strong!
How did you deal with it?? thank you
2007-02-19 03:11:05 · 30 answers · asked by LISA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im in this situation and its driving me mad!I dont want to feel like this about him coz i no that nothing will ever happen!
He did tell me recently that he loves me but that nothing could ever happen!!
Iv known him for about 4 years.x
2007-02-19 03:15:01 · update #1
Honey, I've been there and done that, and it's always an ugly situation to be in. The bottom line is that you're selling yourself short. It's so much more rewarding to be in a relationship where the man has and makes time for you. The best thing to do right now is to start dating other men. When you meet someone who is also single and treats you right, you're going to wonder what the hell you ever saw in that married man in the first place.
If he really loved you, he would end his marriage and want to be only with you. He's only using the word love to entice you to stay and be at his beck and call. Don't sell yourself short sweetie.
2007-02-19 03:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can identify with you one hundred percent,as Yes the same thing has happened to me. Actually it was love at first sight for me so I had to have a relationship with him. I loved him soooooo much and we lasted a long time, however the break up was devastating to me and till this day I will never forget him. I will say after all said in done, I am glad I did do it even though I got hurt because I experienced the best love in my whole life. I wish I can tell you what to do but I can't, however I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-19 03:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by lorrina b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had a 3 year fling with a married woman. i broke it off when her daughters caught on to me. To make things worse, i had got off with one of them too. I thought i had destroyed the family and the sheer amount of guilt i had was unreal. I had a close call though for reasons unnecessary here. I can only recommend 1 thing - stay away! The heartache after is unreal. Want a thrill? Go downhill mountain biking every weekend. Or buy a toy of some sort....
2007-02-19 03:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by tickTickTICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have. i fell in love with a married woman years ago . i still love her even though i don't see her and have not seen her for about 10 years. i am glad that i did not break up her marriage . i am also glad that i didn't hook up with her for life because i knew that she had fooled around before and had one child that was from a different father. so i think she most likely would have done that to me as well .
i can say that i so wish i could have sex with her because she was the best that ever was . that however is the price i pay for having a good conscience
2007-02-19 03:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are. What you need to remember is that at the end of the day he goes home to her. Walk away now. Otherwise you will be her in time. It hurts like hell, but it is better to walk away on your own terms then be where she is.
Dating married men is supposed to be safe for the single female. It allows you to come and go as you please without the hassle of a steady. You aren't supposed to develop feelings for them. They are time well spent and then over with. No strings-FUN!
Okay, after reading what everyone else wrote, I had to edit and put my 2 cent in...
If his wife kept him happy, or he was happy with the relationship, he wouldn't be f*cking her. So, everyone lay off! They are both consenting adults. Why get all pissed at her. SHE is single. Be pissed at him. HE is not.
2007-02-19 03:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by txpyxie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to fall in love with someone who's married. Love happens without any effort on your part. The hard part is when the other party also falls in love with you. Then you have a major problem. I've never been "in love" with anyone. Lust has happened many times and that's much easier to deal with. Having said that, I guess it's just easier for men to maneuver around in "relationships...even marriage" than it is for women. We just don't get emotionally trapped like women do. Marriage sucks!
2007-02-19 03:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we all want what we can't have. The realistic thing to do is to NOT act of your feeling. You will set yourself up in a dead end relationship, and be the one who's hurt in the end, along with everyone involved. Step back, and think about how you would feel if you were in his wife's and children's shoes...Try to go out and socialize in different group settings to get your mind off of him. As long as you are focusing on something you can't have...you might be passing up something you can.
2007-02-19 03:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey honey. i am glad u said u wouldnt want to break up a family. that is a good place to start. DONT do it! it will onyl end in hearbreak
i have certainly lusted after a few. and wished some wernt married. but i never ever let it get an furthar than that.
i am sure that you wil get passed it :D
good luck
2007-02-19 03:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by LBB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in this type of situation now. It is hard to walk away, but in the end I know that will be best. I am just trying to get the strength to do it, because honestly I can't deal with it. So I'll let him go and if he comes back to me in the future then it was meant to be.
2007-02-19 03:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by mindquest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was set up on a date once by a friend. We had an amazing time. I was definitely going to see her again. Then she confessed she was married, but the guy was a creep. I told her to resolve that, then give me a call.
I'm too smart to allow myself feelings for a married person. Not everyone is that smart.
2007-02-19 03:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋