Someone I was involved with. This is the same person I had a nasty argument & made horrible/vicious insults about his Mom & Son & wished bad on both of them. I also apologized profusely & acknowledged that I was wrong & only said those things out of anger, bcuz he said things to hurt ME. Xmas came, I was extremely generous to him, his son & his mom. I never even got a Xmas OR birthday card from him & that really hurt. However, we still text messaged each other now & then, made it clear how angry I was at him for being so UNthoughtful for the holidays & my b-ay, however, we were still "ok" with each other. At 2am this morning he called me crying hysterically. He lost his son in a fire. I was on the phone with him all nite/morning. I'm so sorry this happened. I wish there were something I can do, but what do you say/do 4 someone who just lost their baby? I want to fly out to his town even if it's just for a few hours, just to pay respects, show support. Should I do that?
2007-02-19 03:05:14 · 9 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitly! And don't think that just because you wished bad on someone that you're the reaso n something happened. Stuff like that happens all the time. Of course you'll feel guilty, but God takes those who's time it is. You have no control over life or death not even with wishful thinking. Be there for him because hw definitly needs someone right now. Good luck, and give him my blessings.
2007-02-19 03:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by U Think U Know Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing much that you can say. Just be there for him and console him. If he lost a child in a fire, there is nothing you can do but just hold him and show him love. If he wants to talk, then talk to him but I"m sure that he probably won't talk for a while. It will be difficult but you have to be calm and have patience. I've been through death with my husband. He lost his mom and I'm tellin ya it wasn't easy. If has been over three years now and he justed started back talkin about his mom. See what I mean...it takes time. Yes, you should fly out there to give him the support that he will definitely need. I'm sorry to hear such a tragedy but that's why when you are angry, don't say bad things to hurt him b/c you are the person that will suffer in the end. WHen I'm angry or my husband have has done something to me to make me upset, I don't say nothing b/c once those hateful words come out of your mouth. There is no way you can take them back. It kills him when I don't talk but I think it is for the best. That is what you have to learn. Don't say harsh things b/c you can never take them back. Call the airport to get a ticket and be safe!!!!
2007-02-19 11:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're not "involved" with him anymore? Do you still love him?
Im not sure how to answer this, but I dont think I'd go to his town if we were no longer a couple. But if i still loved him and knew he was a person worth the trip, then i'd go even if we werent a couple. It all depends on how he treated me and made me feel as a person.
If he's looking for you now only because he needs someone, then that's not a good reason for him to look for you. You know what i mean?
Oh, and I do feel sorry for his loss.
2007-02-19 11:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this the son who you wished bad things upon??? i would pay your respects in a letter or a phone call, and let this guy go... people who are grieving do crazy things sometimes, and especially if this is the son you wished bad upon, he will hold it against you and make it seem like your partially to blame, i dunno girl, cut your losses i think after you make sure he knows you do care what happened to him. best of luck thoâ¥
2007-02-19 11:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥Dominatrix♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. You should let him know you are there for him, and that you will do anything he needs. I think he really needs someones shoulder right now, and would probably really appreciate you going to him to show support.
2007-02-19 11:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by mommasquarepants 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course! I don't believe that you caused this, but it would still be nice to go and pay respects. God just thought it was his time. Dammit.
2007-02-19 11:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if my son died I would want to be left the hell alone, just to be with my immediate family.
2007-02-19 11:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by blindmice6 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes-he will need all the support he can get...just make sure not to bring up any of the old problems...friends bicker and fight but need to be there when it matters
2007-02-19 11:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, why are you asking other people this question?
2007-02-19 11:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by pepsicolastar 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋