me & my ex bf had been together for 2 & a half years & we were each other's first gf/bf.i had a wonderful time with him.he was patient, kind, caring, tolerable of my wilful behaviour and always willing to forgive me and all of that.but our relationship came to an end when he told me that i gotta convert to a christian if i choose to stay with him.i thought that was outrageous & i chose to leave him instead.he should respect me & love me for who i am.but still,i think he's still the best,he pays for everything and said he's my bf and shouldn't make me pay although at times,i'll treat him to nice meals on his bday and shower him with lovely gifts.compared with other guys that i've gone out with who are so stingy,they expect you to pay for everything.so right now,i'm using my ex bf as a benchmark for my future bfs.is that a good thing?i know it's rather unfair but somehow it's affecting me & i really wanna change.what can i do?it's like my future bf has to be something like my ex.
2007-02-19 02:57:10 · 4 answers · asked by Larissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, that is a bad thing to do. Every guy is different, so don't expect to get things with one boyfriend just because you got them with another.
2007-02-19 03:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Alecto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are individuals. If you hold others up and always compare them to someone else, you are likely to possibly never find their match or superior because you will probably not be as objective as you should.
Decide what qualities an ideal partner should have (for you) and then evaluate potentials with regard to whether or not they have those qualities (not whether or not they are like your ex bf).
Would you want guys you date comparing you to their exes every time? Would you think it fair that you aren't judged on your own merit but how you compare to someone else?
Think about it.
2007-02-19 11:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive done that. and when u find someone that surpasses someone that wonderful then u know u have found "him" just dont talk on and on about ur past ex's with the new bf....thats not nice and they will drop u in a minute (i had an ex that compared me to a girl he dated ffor 2 yrs....so annoying and i never felt like a whole person when i was with him...something was always wrong with me and didnt quite measure up)
2007-02-19 11:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm
bad
2007-02-19 11:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋