I have been in love, I mean really in love with this guy for 9 years. I have seen him with 5 different girls and everytime my heart breaks with a piercing tear. I hate not seeing him and i hate seeing him with other girls. At the same tim I want him to be happy and Im not too sure if he'll be happy with me. I havent told him how I feel, and I dont think i will, seems im not his type. help...
2007-02-19 02:48:08 · 21 answers · asked by M&U 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, after 9 years... I think it's time...
It's time to bite the bullet and tell him how you feel.
What's the worst thing that could happen, he'll reject you.
Well, if he does then at least you'll know. Rejection is never easy of course but we've all been rejected and have rejected in our lives.
It only makes us stronger beings in the end.
Or, he could be intrigued with your feelings and then a date of some kind will happen and then you never know, you could really hit it off.
Don't hold your feelings in anymore... tell him.
And which ever way the situation goes, you got it off your chest and that's what matters.
2007-02-19 02:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by M.O. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I know that everyone will say tell him how you feel but i understand that can be hard but i mean get real if you dont feel comfortable talking to the guy then trust me you Not in love with him so just tell him how you feel plain and simple and if he likes you then you should try going out or you will end up always saying what if. And remember if things get awkward after this or he stops talking to you as much then hes not the right guy for you.
hope everything works out
good luck!
2007-02-19 02:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if there is a good reason the two of you shouldn't get to know each other better and maybe go out sometime. It could be that he thinks you might reject him and he is showing you that other girls find him attractive. 9 years is a long time and maybe he thinks you just want to be friends because you never let him know how you feel. Be careful not to come on too strong, just appear curious and interested in knowing the outcome of getting closer. Don't want to scare him off after all those years.
2007-02-19 02:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Am in similar situation myself dear. Though i haven't loved her for 9 years like u. Darn that's a long time. How u must be suffering, have been suffering. I don't know what to say to you. I know how hard it is to let go. To want som1 and not be able to tell him/her. I know how it feels to know that u can have much better but not have the guts to cut urself loose. I know the sacrifices u make and the pain u take. All i can tell u is u r not alone cuz i am here with u. Lets just hope that somday our value in their eyes will increase.
2007-02-19 03:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by nocirpac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don,t ya just hate that feeling of loving someone thats just not for u?9.yrs is a long time,what are u waiting for to tell him?your sadly waisting time already by being quiet about this.the best thing is to tell him.feeling jeouse really hurts i been there too.he seems like a romeo and player so u need be carefull and think things really good before u hook up with him,i wish u lots luck.if he,s not for u then move on to someone who will appreciate u and really notice u as treat u as u desearve.
2007-02-19 03:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Doll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 9 years it is time to either move on and find your own love or tell him how you feel, oppisites do attract, so don't think your not his type, maybe he has never had a chance to see you in this way, but if after 9 years, if nothing has happened, well whos to say if it will? I am one for going after your hearts desire, so I would go for it, if it don't pan out, you will be heart broken, but then you'd also have the answer and closure and be able to move on, good luck, follow your heart.
2007-02-19 02:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tamra P 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have been in love with this guy for 9 years then what do you have to loose by telling him your feelings? The world wont end if he doesnt feel the same way for you believe me, but you'll feel so much better knowing how he feels about you. Then you can live your life with no regrets. I say go for it, you'll be much happier after you do! Good luck
2007-02-19 02:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sooo you have not seen other guys for the last 9 years? What do you want to happen? Do you want to have babies with him? You do what you have to do regardless of the consequences. Its the only way. Those who don't try are doomed.
2007-02-19 02:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by digileet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart dump the dude,after 9 years he hasn't committed himself to you, then go on with your life and find somebody knew. Your just wasting your time waiting for the Casanova to finish having relationships with other women,who knows they might have a disease,WHO wants STD,or worst the HIV virus and that could lead too,AIDS,why take a chance on catching one of these fatal diseases. Go on with your life,and find somebody new.
2007-02-19 03:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should really tell him before its too late.It sounds like you really care about him and he should know that. I had a really close female friend and apparantly she felt that way about me and I never knew, now I am married and extremely happy but she is all alone and very miserable. We are still good friends and she is friends with my wife now, but I feel really bad that I hurt her and never meant to because I just did not know. So you should really tell him and see what happens. Good luck to you.
2007-02-19 02:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by spindizz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋