I'm PREGNANT!!! HOW SHOULD I TELL MY PARENTS?

Question

I am a 19 year old college student. This morning (2/19/07) I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. I don’t know how I should tell my mother and father. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.

I’m not surprised. Just a little shocked. It wasn’t purposely done. I didn’t even think I could get pregnant so soon after taking birth control pills. I thought maybe it would take a few months for the pills to get out of my system. Yes, I know who my baby’s father is. We are in a relationship and we have been in a relationship for a year and two months. I’m going to keep my child. No…an abortion or adoption is not an option for me.

Answer 1

It is amazing to me how many people are unsuportive of a pregnant woman. It's not an "accident" that a woman gets pregnant... the female body is wonderfully designed to get pregnant and to carry a child. Every month this is possible if the woman is healthy. So, by getting pregnant means, you are a healthy young woman who's body can support and develop a child. That is something wonderful and beautiful!

I would be completely honest with your parents. It is not going to be easy, but the more honest and direct you are, the easier it will be. Parent's won't always give the best advice. If they are loving parents, they will try and give you the best advice they think is right. But, as we well know, the best intentions don't always mean doing the right thing or giving the best advice. They also may get emotional, and more than likely will. But that is normal. Most parents want the best for their children and want their road to be as smooth as possible. Having a child is going to make things more challenging, but, at the same time, a child will also bring on many blessings.

I hope you have the strength and courage to tell your parents, and I sincerly hope they support you and love you. And even if they go beserk, you are an adult now. Challenges are going to pop up in your life in many different forms. This is just one of them. This is an opportunity to take that challenge head on and turn it into something wonderful. You will have a child that will teach you more about life than you could possibly ever imagine!

I wish you all the best!

Answer 2

I'd go get a blood test done first to make sure, sometimes home tests will give you a false positive. If it turns out you are 100% no doubt about it preg. Then if all possible tell them face to face, if you can't then do it over the phone. e-mails are impersonal, anyway after you tell them but BEFORE you give them a Chance to talk say "I know you may be disappointed about this but I've decided to keep the baby and really need you to stand behind me in this" It might be hard, and they might get mad. I had to tell my parents when I was 16 that I was preg. and used almost the same wording and after some yelling tears and my dad not talking to me for 2 months, I got through it and now Have a 4 year old that is spoiled and loved alot by her grandparents...

Answer 3

I know telling your parents can be a difficult thing. My husband and I got pregnant with our son when I was a junior in High School. My parents and I have always had a rollercoaster of a relationship, due to the fact that they had many issues themselves.

Hopefully your parents can be more supportive and understanding than mine were. (It took a good 6 months for my father to finally take it in that I was pregnant and nothing was going to change that, but my mother was more concerned about my health than anything else.)

One day sit down and casually let them know there is something you need to discuss with them. Tell them first of all how you are feeling that you need them to know this and need their support rather than how mad they may be at you at the time, how they might feel about the situation i.e. I know you want me in school, your going to wonder how I can do it, etc. If their reaction is smooth consider yourself lucky, however if it is a disaster please walk away and let things cool down because you do not need to fight with anyone right now. Time will tell, I wish you the best.

Trust me it can be difficult or easy, Even when I had to tell my father I was pregnant with 4th child it was a little difficult.

By the way Congratulations!

Answer 4

It will probably be hard at first. But you should just tell them with a smile on your face. God must have given you this child for His purpose and anyway, humans are made to love little babies. Once that baby is here, your parents will be smothering it with love and I'm sure they will be very happy. Though it is going to be a tough 9 month's, you will be going through something so amazing in the end! congrats!

Answer 5

The only way to tell them is to tell them. I started out by saying "I know you'll be happy for us, but I'm pregnant. *LOL* I was 24 and scared about what my parents would think. I'm also married, but the scare of telling your parents never diminishes I guess. Even though I wasn't sure they would be happy for me, I prepared myself for the worst. It's hard no matter what status you are. Congrats on your pregnancy and I would say they may be a little startled, but if they are parents they will come to be happy for you and your new baby and love their grandchild, and be happy because hey they don't have to raise them and can send them home. In fact my mom said I'm surprised you didn't get pregnant sooner. Out of 8 of us there were only two who had first babies in their 20's. It however didn't ease my mind of telling them even though the outcome was not bad like I thought it would be.

Answer 6

I would just be straight forward with them. You are an adult and I am sure they will be happy. They are going to have a grand-baby. I had to tell my mom when i was 18 and not married...i just called her and was like hey grandma...she started laughing and then cried. No matter how mad they seem at the time they will always get over it and realize you are having them a grandchild to spoil:) Good luck and congratulations on the baby!

Answer 7

When i got pregnant unexpectedly, i waited until the 3rd month,(because of the risk if miscarriage in the first three months, and i wanted to be sure i was going to stay pregnant.) Your parents are going to find out eventually, so i would tell them sooner than later to give them time to adjust. I would try to write down a list of important points that you want to be sure you get across to them. Parents love unconditionally, they might be upset at first but once they hold their new grandbaby, they will be fine. Good luck to you sweetie!

Answer 8

Well just think of this: at least you're not 13. Have you read half of the other questions in Adolescent? My friend is 14 and already has two kids. Her mom is in jail and her dad is a crackhead. Sure, they may be mad at first, but once they realize that it isn't going to change then they will accept it.

Hope I helped!

Answer 9

Its scary but you alone must decide what you are going to do-it will change your life, and the life of the child. You will know in your heart. Children are great responsiblities and great blessings. Once you do that, then speak with your parents. It will be easier once you know. Don't do what you think you should, do what you know is right in your heart. They will back you, even if they are unhappy with a situation or something you did, a parent always loves you----Good luck my dear.

Answer 10

Tell them gently (no screaming or crying) and in person. I'm sure they'll be happy for you-you are their daughter. They may be a little shocked, worried, and/or disappointed but they'll get over it. And trust me as soon as they see that baby they'll be so proud and so happy they'll forget they were ever mad at you (if they are that is). Also congratulations-I got pregnant unexpectedly too and trust me babies are the greatest gift anyone could ever ask for.