Is he pulling away?

Question

I have been dating this guy for about two months. He lives an hour away and we see each other about once a week. We had plans to hang out yesturday but he was offered some hours so he decided to work instead. He does not call me that much I have found I am the one that has to be actively making plans for us and making the phone calls. We agreed we want to take it slow but this is worse than a turtle. I am finding myself wondering a lot. Should I address my feelings to him or play it cool.

Answer 1

First of all u BOTH should be taking the initiative to call and make plans with each other NOT just U. The fact that u have to do most of the calling and planning is a clear sign of loss of interest. I know its long distance but not even distance can come between whats meant to be. You should adress ur feelings to him((exactly what you feel..no holding back)) because its your time that is being wasted on him. By approaching him..you are gonna get answers therefore you wont be wondering anymore.


((if a guy has feelings for you..you will know..if you dont feel it then go with ur gut instinct))

Answer 2

Ask him if anything has been bothering him next time you talk to him? What I mean is in general in his life. Sometimes, a lot of factors can play into someone "pulling away". What this does, is it shows that:

1) You care about him on a level where you want to stick by him in hard times.

2) It shows that you want more communication.

3) If he says there is something, you have found the problem. If he says there is nothing, you have opened up a safe passage by which you can then follow by saying what you said here. It feels like you are pulling away to me, and I just wondered if you were ok. Leave it at that, and he should tell you something that is bothering him. If he says nothing, it is just his personality or he is covering something up.

Hope that helps!

Answer 3

Yes tell him, that you're always the one calling and ask him for his intentions, tell him slow is ok but too slow doesn't hang with you and then see his reaction. Maybe he's just one of those guys(like my husband) who can't make decisions and needs to be told. Anyway at least then you know where you stand and go from there.

Answer 4

He may be pulling away, but he also may be busy. Try not making all the calls and plans, if he's interested and wants to see you, he will find time to get in touch with you.

Answer 5

it is probably best to get teh anwsers out now instead of altrer when your really attached. money is needed sometime sso maybe he really didi need to pick up those hours or maybe his job really needed him. Ask him where you and him stand. What is your lable. dont jump at him like hey you think you cAN EVER MaRRY ME, BUT little questions shouldnt make you seem like your trying to jump fast. i would while playing it cool, just ask him hey how does your next day off sound for us to get together or something. call him . maybe he doesnt want to seem like hes jumping too fast. a closed mouth doesnt get fed

Answer 6

Find someone who lives closer to attend to your incredible need for attention. Maybe you should find a rich guy who doesn't have to work for a living and can spend 24/7 with you. He can take you on a lot of expensive dates, shopping sprees and treat you like the princess that you deserve to be treated like.

Answer 7

just let him take his time. if he hasn't been acting the same just try to comfort him and ask why. probably something personal such as work/famly/friends. but you'll figure it out

no worries. he says take it slow because he's afraid of losing you

Answer 8

well it sounds like wen u guys said that yall wanna take it slow then u 2 must move on