Years ago I dumped a girl I dated for a long time by just ignoring her. Never answered/returned her calls, never saw her or talked to her again. After a few weeks she stopped calling and got the idea. I felt bad, so the next time I dumped a girl I did it face to face and that was a horrific mistake. I wasn't prepared for the girl to cry, then scream at me, and take a major psycho fit. It scared me a lot. So the next time I dumped a girl I decided to split the difference and email her with all the reasons, but she didn't take it seriously and said I was being too dramatic and she actually found it funny. We ended up staying together for another 3 months because I didn't want to really tell her face to face, so I ended up just ignoring her for a few months until she got it.
What is really the best way to do this? I've clearly had some bad experiences with girls, so how can I make the situation better for me? Phone call? Text message break up? IM break up? Singing telagram?
2007-02-19 02:31:06 · 17 answers · asked by Matt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about a Dump-o-gram?
But seriously the very best way to dump any girl is to make HER dump YOU. I know it sounds weird but it works for me:
You dated her so you know what she likes and what she hates, so you just do things she hates and she will start to get fed up with you and hey presto, job done. Its so simple its brilliant!
So you turn up late for dates, or dont turn up at all, wear geeky clothes, forget your wallet, ogle all the hot babes in the club, ask your girl for a threesome with her best friend, if she agrees ask her if her Mum can join in next time etc etc.
2007-02-19 02:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The BEST way would be to do it in person! Please don't do it over the phone or by letter or by text message or anything like that. Tell her how you feel exactly and try to let her down easy. Off course you should be prepared for the worst (crying, the guilt trip she will try to put on you, a punch to the face....etc)
Telling her in person shows her that you care about, but it just isn't working. Although she may want to kick your butt at the moment, she will appreciate your honesty after a few months have gone by...GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-19 02:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by SanPatrick 0305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing it face to face is the manly thing to do. It also avoids all misinterpretations. Timing is important, it's better to do it earlier in the day when she not tired and can think clearly. Do it in a public place, a crowded one like a restaurant, say for breakfast. Meet her there so you can just leave and not have to drop her off somewhere and prolong the situation. She'll be less likely to throw a fit. Use psychology on her. Shame her into acting like a better person. If she begins to over react say, " I can't believe your making such a stink over me, I'm not worth it if I can't love you like you deserve to be loved." Hang in there, these things are part of life. Be kind and generous to the other person and treat her like you would like to be treated if she was breaking up with you and you really loved her. Good luck!
2007-02-19 02:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER BREAK UP IN A TEXT! OK now that i got that out. I think the easy way to break up is in a letter or on the phone. Yes she will hang up on you maybe yell but that's her way of letting it all out. A guy i really liked talked to me for a while and was telling me why he didn't think our relationship was working then he simply told me he would be happier just as friends (All of this was on the phone) told me he didn't feel that way about me anymore. We are still friends. Its better to talk about it before you do it, if you just caller her and say i don't think we should be together...that's just wrong. Let her down gently on the phone. NEVER IN A TEXT...or e-mail. Just simply talk it out, yea its going to suck for you she may cry but hey break ups aren't easy ( try being a girl having a big guy cry...now that sucks lol) Best of luck....hope you find someone you don't have to break up with ha ha.
2007-02-19 02:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by lilkinkykitty101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not fair but girls usually sit there and talk about you and put extra effort into their outfits and usually when dumped if they're crying or upset (even if they don't look upset in front of you) they go talk to their friends who are probably the ones giving you sh*t and then their friends might tell their boyfriends or other girls
2016-05-24 08:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what do think a girl should do when you break up with her, jump up and down with joy? Tell you thank you and give you a kiss and a hug? Or maybe you want a girl to bow down to you and say thank you master for setting me free. Man you need to grow up and realize it doesn't matter how you break up with a girl there is going to be drama. And a real man always breaks up with a woman face to face no matter what happens. SO just go to a girl and tell them as simple as you can that you are breaking up with her and let the chips fall where they may. Just think of the experience you get from all the drama.
2007-02-19 02:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girls would really prefer you telling her honestly and completely what you want to happen to the relationship.however,many don't like a sudden "I'm gonna break up with you".As a song goes-"break it to me gently"..that's what you should do,not sounding too drastic nor too cruel (but realistic)in your decision..and that would actually help her in moving on.
when you're gonna tell her,best to do it personally,as in meet up and talk it through.don't just call her,coz you can't really know if her true response is what you're hearing(she might sound strong but is already crying).heck,text messaging,IM,email or whatever text-oriented way you think of-dont bother!she might just think of it as a prank,joke,or something that you're not really intending for..and don't try to be creative in bringing the bad news-no one will take you seriously.REALLY.
one more thing,NOT all these suggestions work for ALL women. you best adapt your way of breaking up to the girl's personality- either strong or sensitive,comical or serious,etc...all in all,it's just about "feeling" her,knowing the right time,place,situation,and the right words to say "it's over for us".
2007-02-19 02:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by BlueRin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no best way to dump someone. its always going to be painful. no matter how you do it. I would rather someone tell me face to face though, and I would rather hear nice things than bad so maybe saying something along the lines of It's not you it's me I just don't want a relationship right now. happy dumping!
2007-02-19 02:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by donna e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say u wanna break up with girl over the internet or phone always do it face to face and be completely serious and dont be harsh just say o i need time to think..........good luck
♥ Me nd Jose ♥
2007-02-19 02:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second time you did it right. Do it to her face. Be prepared for the sadness and hissy fit, it will happen. Yea, you don't want to watch her heart break, but it happens. It's best to be up front with her and tell her that you don't love her anymore, etc. It will hurt her and break her heart, but at least you're not manipulating her.
2007-02-19 02:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋