HELP,My 5 yr. old cries every time I drop him off at school! What can I do?

Question

I have a 5 and a half yr. old little boy, who cries every time I drop him off at school. He's fine up until we get down the hall, then he just cries and clings on to me until his teacher gets him. He has been doing this for 2 weeks now, and it is getting very annoying because 10 minutes after I leave he is fine. I ask him what is wrong and he just says he wants to go home with me and his little brother. I am 5 months pregnant and I think this has something to do with the way he is behaving, because he loved school up until now. He only goes to school on Mondays,wenesdays,and Fridays, but I am so afraid of how its going to be next year when he goes to school everyday for more then just 4 hours a day. Please help!!!!

Answer 1

It sounds like a combination of regression due to you being pregnant and separation anxiety. As crazy as this sounds, the crying and clinging is harder on us than the kids. I had this when I became pregnant with #3 and could not pick up my toddler daughter anymore. It will be hard, but you have to 'show no fear' so to speak.

Make going to school a fact, not a choice or a hard thing for you to do (even if in you heart it is). Walk him down the hall, once you get to the class room find his teacher or aid, give him a kiss and tell him you will be back for him (fill in time here), and had him to the teacher. Do not look back, do not look upset. Wait until in the hall out of sight and sound to let it get to you. Hopefully after a few days to a week it will not be a problem anymore.

When my girl went back to crying and clinging, the more I reassured her, the worse it got. Then I had to do like above. I had to put on a happy face kiss her good-bye and detach her and give her to the sitter. After 3 days there were no more issues for her. Each of those days I went back into the car and almost cried thinking how mean and uncaring I was. In reality she had me wrapped around her finger.

It's NOT easy. Take care - you'll do great!

Answer 2

I am going through this now. My son is three, and in school because I want him around other children and to improve his speech. And he's fine up until we are in the elevator. Then its, "I don't want to go to school mommy." We get in, take off his coat, and by then he's tearing up. When I give him his kisses and hugs and say bye, it's an all out cry fest. He's screaming and whatnot. I just leave. Two minutes later I'll call and he's quiet and playing. I believe in most cases they do it to fool the parents into bringing them home.

I once had to stay in the backroom for a parent- teacher conference and he had carried on when I said bye. But while in that room, i looked out the door,. and he's happily setting his table for breakfast.

If I were you, id ask the teacher how he reacts when you're gone

Answer 3

I feel ur pain! I cant even go to the gym and leave my daughter in the day care for an hour cause she flips out. But u know what this happens to everyone. Your kid will be fine. He's going through changes just as u are. And just like u say he's fine after 10 min. Just keep doing what ur doing it will get easier! U can even give ur child insentives! Say that ur gonna give him a special toy at the end of the week if he acts like a big boy going to school!! Good luck!

Answer 4

Have a sit down communicate together with her and discover out whats happening in college that makes her no longer choose for to bypass so undesirable. If its a bullying problem or the instructor is being advise to her or some thing else that befell, cope with it from there. If she basically doesnt choose for to bypass simply by fact she properly-knownshows it uninteresting and he or she'd particularly be abode, as maximum little little ones do, or she feels that she knows each and every thing, basically tell her that faculty is relatively significant, no longer all human beings has the possibility to get an training, so she might desire to savour hers, what she learns at school will help her be despite she needs to be whilst she grows up and on a similar time because it feels like she knows each and every thing now, quickly they're going to circulate onto new matters and he or she would be in a position to income some thing new. whilst she starts off crying, you arent doing her any favors via putting around, it is going to purely draw out the so long and inspire the problem, basically say "you may desire to bypass to college, i admire you and that i visit confirm you in some hours" and go away, the instructor will cope with it, communicate with the instructor and tell her bearing directly to the problem and ask her to distract her with some thing as quickly as she gets there.

Answer 5

Wow I did the same thing when I was his age. I reamber my mom walked me down the hall then i would try to walk on my own but then I went crying back to mom! Then she offered me a cookie after school. Then I didn't cry!

Have A Great Day, The Cool Man

Answer 6

I went through this with my son....very frustrating that they recover so quickly after we leave... Here is your perfect answer.... He knows it distresses you when he fusses like this, so his child-way of thinking is if he distresses mom, he will get his way... have to be strong and firm.... tell him point-blank that you are leaving and have a good day and turn and walk away without looking back (very hard, I cried)... The next day, if he does it again, do the same.... By day 3 my son was happy-go-lucky with school again... It just took him realizing being sad wouldn't do any good... Let me know how this works for you!

Answer 7

It's separation anxiety. Just keep reassuring him. Offer a reward if he lets you drop him off and doesn't cry. It's a phase. One day he will be more than happy to see you go. And that will be sad, too.

Answer 8

Does he have a friend in his class. I'm sure he has lots. Maybe you can arrive at school at the same time and he can walk with his friend and you walk with the parent.

Answer 9

He will be all right you need to stop babying him and tell him he has to go to school to learn and when his brother needs to learn he can show him how to do things. He is spoiled and most children act that way but it will go away but you have to keep doing what you are doing..

Answer 10

My cold hard advice. Leave the house earlier and dont be the one to bring the kid to school. You babied the kid too much.