Can somebody tell me what can I do to stop dating cos I've been hurt so many times now I wish I could just forget about everything and focus on my job now. I have just broke up with the guy I use to love , he was treating me so badly and I dont want to go back to him again but I feel lonely and sometimes I wish I could get someone to talk to.
What can I do pls help?
2007-02-19 02:12:29 · 17 answers · asked by NUNU 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Surround yourself with lots of positive and supporting friends and family members. Just do you - concentrate on your new job and your own overall wellbeing and happiness instead of investing it into a new love interest. Remind yourself everyday how beautiful you are inside and out. Hang out with your friends, spend time with a loved family member, write letters to friends and family that you have not been keeping in touch with (I know I do it, when I am in love), it'll make someone's day and make you feel a lot better and less lonely. Keep your head up, and smile! :)
2007-02-19 02:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to give you the truth in my opinion. Which is you can't enclose yourself to the world. Life will be miserable. Keep focus to what you do best, whether it be your job or whatever, but also keep in mind that there are people that care about you. However your boyfriend has treated you isn't right. I'm not going to tell you that there's more people out there for you, or that he just wasn't the one, because those words are cliche and I want this post to be helpful. Like I said though, don't enclose yourself from the world-continue with life. Now when I say that, I'm not saying to forget about your boyfriend, but take some time alone, think of what you want, and how you're going to achieve what makes you happy. If you need to talk to someone, definitely talk to someone whom you feel comfortable talking to, whether it be a family member, a friend, or even your boyfriend. If you haven't talked to him about what's been bothering you, you should. But remember, discuss, not yell. I hope everything works out for the better.
2007-02-19 10:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by miles_of_memories 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking. You always find what you want when you are not loolking for it. Hang out with friends, don't date, don't go back to that guy. Enjoy being single and before you know it you will find someone new. You will be more attractive when you are happy by yourself. Nobody wants to be responsable for someone elses happyness and that is very unattractive that someone is needy. Be happy with yourself, find a hobby or two, focus on your job, find a sport, and you will meet new people. It won't be easy at first but it is worth it. Just remember stay away from that jerk that is treating you badly. Good luck.
2007-02-19 10:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by wedge1_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a break and live your life. It's so hard to be hurt I know been there done that but you just have to go with the flow. I don't know if you are still in school or looking to settle down but just go with the flow... soon some guy will come around and see you. Don't worry about that. And if you feel lonely then start hanging out with your friends or go out and make some. Maybe there is someone at your work that needs a friend too. Hope it works out for you and just hang in there sweetie!!
2007-02-19 10:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You need someone else to make you happy? You are the only one who can make you happy.
Here's some suggestions.
Go do things you like to do. Take yourself to the beach or the mountains. Go hiking. Read books. Go to the movies. Do some volunteer work. Go back to school. Ask for more responsiblities at work. Hang out with your best friend/s. But do not get romatically involved with anyone for 6 to 12 months.
Get to know yourself. Be happy with yourself. You need to build up your self esteem so that you won't date jerks and losers.
And when you start dating again, don't be easy, don't be desperate. The dogs out there will take advatage of you if you are either... Hold out for a nice guy and you'll find him. But if your with a jerk, a nice guy is going to pass you up for someone who has more sense.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-19 10:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is just not ask anyone out. If someone ask you then you should just say you want to work on your career and leave it at that. Do not carry it any further. Do not get a girlfriend or boyfriend depending on what you are or like. Dating is just simply going out with someone to a place and not seeing somebody which is having a person in your life. Dating doesnt involve commit. Having a person in your life does.
2007-02-19 10:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough but the best thing to do is to just stay single for awhile. You have to give yourself time to heal, to let yourself get over the past relationships. Learn to love yourself without someone else in your life, and then you'd be ready for a serious relationship because you'll have a stronger sense of self, and you'll probably learn a thing or two about the mistakes you made in choosing past relationships.
Just don't go to extreme's, i've been single for so long I've forgotten how to date!
2007-02-19 10:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your job then, just dont date... all you have to think positive and say no for date next time. You have us, your friends and family. Think positive. You might find a guy out there but it wont be soon or later. Dont think about look guy. Good luck.
2007-02-19 10:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's treating you bad just tell him to piss off.. Also it's ok to be alone there is no law/rule that says you have to be with someone. Just find yourself again try to hang out with your friends kick back see movies and go to dinner that kind of stuff maybe find someone for an occasional..think/be positive they(a companion) will come in time just don't rush it, TRUST ME!!
2007-02-19 10:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Chocolate Spice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the problem with ladies sometimes,whenever theres a goodlooking guy and have shown interest in them they always go for it without knowing the person very well,then later did she know that that good looking guy is only after short joyfull ride,its okay to date again but you should be learing your lesson by now be smart pick the right person follow your instinct,take your time to choose the good and right person dont be decieved by just looks alone know the person well both inside and outside of him before you decide to gamble on a relationship again and good luck
2007-02-19 10:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋