Is it normal for a 12 year old g irl to have a baby? why or why not?

Question

because it is alot of young girl getting pregant at a young age & most people think that they can't take care of there baby. but something should be done about... CPS is not the thing

okay the reason fo Question is because there are alot of young gurl at that age that are getting pregant ............ so if that were you how woud you deal with situation & could gone with for rest of life . Because i don't know ehat most of the girl have been through most them could have been sexually abuse , just haxiing sex or got pregant and made a mistake

Answer 1

Sadly, it's the uneducated, undisciplined, uncared for girls who end up pregnant.

I blame the parents.

I honestly think parents should be legally accountable for their children until they reach a certain age, 16 preferrably.

This would force parents to pay attention to thier children and do thier "job" as a parent.

A child should not be having a child.

You will just bring in "more of the same" into the world and the pattern will often just repeat itself.

The key is education. In the schools, with social workers involved and child agencies working between the school and home to ensure these children get what they need.

Sadly, this can't be the case for many. I think children who are remote and live in the country with nothing to do end up the ones in trouble.

Most kids with working parents still get into trouble, but they are smarter and know better and know that they can get stds etc. and simply have a better understanding of the consequences of having sex.

No child is equipped to care for a baby!! Get real.

They think they are giving birth to a doll or something and have no idea the time and money it will take to raise a child. It's just plain ridiculous.

I don't know what the answer is, but as I said, I strongly suspect it's irresponsible and incompetent parents who likely were teenage and unwed parents themselves.

Maybe the day will come when they do like China does and only ONE child per couple is allowed.

Yeah...you go ask them if they are "careful" about conceiving.

They used to kill off baby girls because if they could only have one the preference was a boy.

Answer 2

NO it is NOT normal for a 12 year old girl to have a baby. A 12 year old may already have her menses but she is in no way ready for such a lifetime responsibility. Mentally and emotionally she still has a great deal of growing and maturing to do and does not have the skills to be a good parent. The teenage years are hard enough without the responsibility of trying to nurture an infant. Remember a baby is not a doll that you can put aside when you are tired of playing. If you want some time with a real live baby try babysitting for a full day or two, and then multiply that output by 20 years.
Also, if a 12 year old is pregnant I think the aspect of abuse should be investigated.

Answer 3

It is not normal.. not in this day and age. Over a 100 yrs ago things were alot different. Fathers would set their children to be married to older men. Ages from 12 to 14 was common for a wife. It is alot different now. Kids are allowed to be kids and should be. Men take advantage of young children, they will give them attention and tell them how pretty they are and so on and then it will lead to sex and the girls are to naive to realize they are being abused. They will believe it is love.. and the same thing happens with boys who are little older than the girl.. they will experiment with each other and then it turns out for the worse. Usually these girls are searching for attention and have emotional problems.. like low self esteem, depression, many things lead to them having sex at this young age. Most of them do not even understand it.

Answer 4

No, it is not appropriate for young girls to have children. I supervised a program for several years that worked with pregnant and parenting teens 12-21 yrs. The youngest mother we had was 12 and luckily she had the support of her family and was able to stay in Middle school and I believe she continued to graduate High school. This is a rare case. Most had already dropped out of school before they became pregnant and if not they did when they found out they were pregnant. The program I was involved with matched each teen with a social worker case manager who would visit the teen weekly and set up goals to accomplish together. Unfortunately they were baby steps and were usually not achieved very quickly if at all. These were babies having babies. Most of the girls did not have positive parental relationships (lots of parents on drugs) and no support emotionally or financially from home. I think the answer is in Prevention programs unfortunately there are still the young girls out there that miss out on prevention and still need to be dealt with now that they are pregnant/parenting. It is not uncommon for the young girls to have repeated pregnancies soon after delivery. They are looking for love and the sense of accomplishment. Most things in life for these girls has been difficult and they have been unsuccessful. Getting pregnant and having a baby is the one thing they can do rather easily. It must be some sort of satisfaction for them that quickly dissapears when the reality of caring for a baby or two or three hits. Rarely do the teens what to give their babies up for adoption. It is not acceptable in many cultures. It is a sad situatuiation but with the right interventions, and trying to keep the girls in school, there can be some triumphs.

Answer 5

Sadly if you look back in our history, we where getting married when we where 14 and younger, because of life expectancy. Most fathers married their daughters off about a year after their first monthly, to avoid having the family embarrassed, by a dirty scandal. And in our earliest moments when we died at a ripe old age of about 30... It was normal to have babies at 7,8,9.

Now I am not saying that today it is a normal thing!!!!

But it is a hardwire, somewhere in our brains, something tells us instinctively to go and do it.
But due to the better conditions of life as opposed to a mere century ago we can have financial stability easier, there are other options for women (work) when before it was un-befitting for us to have a job. WE WHERE HOMEMAKERS!!!

But a century put next to MANY millennia it a trifling little amount of time to change our hardwired brains.

Answer 6

ummm, not it is not normal---it is just plain stupid and gross

12 is a preteen (not even teenager yet)----geeish---a 12 year old barely has even gotten her period (some haven't yet at that age)---and they can't even hold a job yet so how they going to pay for and take care of a baby LOL

goodness

a 12 year old should be concentrating on puberty LOL, school, crushes, sports etc....---not having a baby

and what kind of sick tard would impregnate a child in the first place----jail bate

i couldn't even imagine a 12 year old having the mentality to deliver or raise a baby (a 12 year old education can't do ya much good---actually it will get you no where)---this is why they end up aborting, killing or putting the child up for adoption

Answer 7

I am 30 and still have my barbies and occasionally I still play with them with my children. I don't see anything wrong with a 12 yr old still playing with dolls. As a matter of fact my 12 yr old daughter asked for a doll for Christmas. Let her be a child. Girls are growing up too fast these days.

Answer 8

NO, she is still a child... if parents would be parents, this problem just might go away!!! Any young girl having a child at 12 is missing the best years of her life and forced to accept responsibility at toooooooooo young of an age!!!

Answer 9

It's normal but I wouldn't advise it. At that age the body is way to young to carry a baby. There should be a law that says all girls are to be put on birth control or that if they get pregnant they have to take care of the baby and if they don't they get thrown in jail or have to pay a huge fine like maybe $100 and it can't come from parents or any other adult.

Answer 10

oh sweetie listen i was one of those girls yrs and yrs ago, and i had a baby. but plz listen to me about this if it is you there are many ppl you can talk to and receive counseling about this. and rape abuse isn't the way anyone needs to have a baby from. i kept my baby, but let me tell you its so hard you have to grow up so fast and you miss everything, and your friends , they start fading away cuz you are busy raising a baby and they want to party ,go out, prom , all the things you will not be able to do. financially is another issue , its not cheap , you have to see you don't have a job, you haven't finished school you have no money, you parents cant care for you and your child forever so what will you do welfare? is that the life you want to start , you are doomed for failure, plz believe me on this. i wouldn't redo my life's decisions for nothing but if i had known what heartache and what i missed out on i would have thought about my choices more and talked to my parents before i ever got to that point. i really hope its not you :( but if it is think about it, get help from anyone you feel comfortable talking to you, and hopefully you will make the right choice for yourself. be a child you have your whole life to be a grown woman w/child.