i'm very mature and have known him for ages and think that i like him but is it just too wierd, i don't know what to do.
2007-02-19 02:02:49 · 24 answers · asked by Just Emma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do both of you want to be together?
If yes, then it should not matter what anyone else thinks of the age gap as long as both of you are comfortable with it and you treat each other with respect then you should not care about what others think.
If you personally think it will be too weird then don't do it but don't miss an opportunity like this just because you are worried about what other people might think or say.
Be your own person and go for what you want!!
Good luck babe xxx
2007-02-19 02:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age wise, I feel that age is nothing but a number... so I am not going to tell you its bad or wrong...and besides you are an adult and legal of age. however, if you were to slow down and think of what this huge age gap could mean for the both of you, then i think you would start to realize that maybe you shouldnt date someone THAT much older than you. he is 36yrs old, busy adult life, almost hitting 40... doesnt want to go out to the club, or even cuddle in front of the fireplace....he just came home from work, and needs a wifey material...someone to cook, clean, and take care of him...which is fine dont get me wrong, i mean you'll eventually do this one day.... but why at 18? you still have many experiences to have..... expereinces that he will not be patient about lettling you experience, since he already has.... he needs you to grow up to his level and thinking, which is unfair and not fun. be young, you only get this chance once to live a life filled with what you want to do.
hypothetically speaking, lets say you date this guy and you fall in love and want to get married next year... he will be 37 38 and you'll be 19 20, and he will want kids NOW! why? because he needs kids before he gets old, reguardless of whether he may have already had some from a previous marriage... (which is a whole other case not to date this guy, if thats true)
so before you know it, your 19, 20yrs old sitting at home feeding the kids, while your friends call you to go out to see a movie, and you cant go.... you will never go anywhere until your kid hits about 16-18....then what.... your life will have already passed you by.
2007-02-19 02:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it shouldnt be any problam, my last girlfriend was 37, im almost 43, theres a little age gap but not much, ive always been attracted to younger women, that doesnt make me a pervert, or any less of a man, im 42 and i dont look 42, look better than some 20 year old guys, that ive noticed are getting fat and sloppy even at a young age, believe me i wouldnt have any trouble keeping up with a 20 year old. Good luck with your problam.
2007-02-19 02:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy then go for it. As long as you dont feel pressured into anything? Take things slow and see what happens, but also bear in mind the age differance may mean you both want different things.... Him settleing down and a family and you out partying? All you can do is take things day be day and see what becomes.
Hope things work out for you
2007-02-19 02:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not ok. Walk away from it.
Your instincts are trying to talk to you as you say "it is just too wierd"
Knowing him for ages and liking him have no bearing.....given your age difference.
2007-02-19 02:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally it is okay, but no offense, but what would a 36 year old want with an 18 year old? It's a little creepy on his part. It's not socially acceptable.
2007-02-19 02:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about your future, you think you will see him when you grow older? Also do you have enough experiences with a lot of guys, or sex? if no, then its not worth to go out with a 36 years old, experiecned of everything guy. You have to learn yourself and see what it is like out there before you go ahead date him. You don't want to miss everything, seriously! There are so many thing for you to check out, a real world, sex, party, friends, ETC ETC. SO many thing to lists. Think about it, your future needs that you teach you how to grow up as normal woman.
2007-02-19 02:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
am going through the same thing... Am 20 and seeing a 34 year old. Its going well but its been getting obvious that am trying to get my life started and he already has his going. Its going to be hard, but if you think that its worth it,go for it...
2007-02-19 02:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by *SeXyB* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. If you like each other and you want/expect the same thing from your relationship then it's fine.
Love doesn't have age limits.
2007-02-19 02:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by DanRSN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you --- i would say personally waiting until you are over 20 would be best ---- even though my ex wife was 18 when we got married (i was 20) and we had 30 years so it was no flash in the pan
2007-02-19 02:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋