I wasn't looking forward to this talk, but she asked...so I need to tell her SOMETHING! Any ideas?
2007-02-19 01:53:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh, I can understand your reservation; this can be an uncomfortable converstaion, but I hope that I can be of some help.
What others have written here is correct, but I'd like to add a couple of things. At seven, your daughter is old enough to understand the real facts of how babies are created, but make sure that your answer is age appropriate. You don't want to delve into the details of sex or the scientific information behind reproduction. Be honest, but keep it simple.
Another really important part of this conversation is how you react to her questions. Children learn so much about life simply from the actions (and reactions) of the adults around them. If you are startled by her question, she will learn that sex is a scary or surprising thing. If you immediately stress that she should NOT HAVE SEX, she will never feel comfortable to talk to you about these things in the future (when it's most important). At the same time, if you are really cavalier and casual about it, she may begin to think that sex is "no big deal" and that she can do it whenever and with whomever she pleases.
It's a bit of a fine line to walk, but if you are honest, simple, but mention that this is something people should only do when they are married and in love, that will be her understanding of sex. Make sure you also let her know that you will answer any other questions she has, and at that point you can refer to a book or website to help her learn. It's important that the initial conversation comes from you.
Hope this is helpful; best of luck to you!!
2007-02-19 02:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by maryeforeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Don't sugar coat it, or make it into some fairy tale thing. There are loads and loads of books that explain this, although I think it should come from you first, and then a book for more information.
American Girl has a great book about being a girl and explains it age appropriate. These books are available at Bath and Body Works, as well as books stores.
I would make a mother daughter day of it, sit down, tell her about babies, and then go buy the book together.
2007-02-19 02:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had a toddler a 300 and sixty 5 days and a a million/2 in the past. My young babies have been 5 and seven on the time. They asked how my niece got here out. I stated "the physician cut back her out and it is called a C-area" and my daughter stated "they are in a position to additionally 'poop' out a toddler out of 'down there' too". then my son stated "yet how did the toddler get in there in the 1st place" and that i stated "properly, momma had eggs and the father has seeds. they arrive mutually and a toddler is in the tummy" (attempting to maintain it easy for them to comprehend) i could see the wheels delivering his strategies. a jiffy later he stated "so if daddy makes you scrambled eggs, and places seeds on them, you're turning out to be a toddler. make confident daddy do no longer make you eggs" (by using fact he does not desire me to have to any extent further young babies. he likes being the youngest) i did no longer say something and that i laughed after he walked away.
2016-09-29 07:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be as honest as possible without freaking her out... it's a natural process and my husband and I have always been honest with our children.. we have told them that when a couple gets married they love each other so much and that love sometimes creates a baby (no details) just that the daddy's love mixes with the mommies and the baby grows from that love, and when the baby is born they asked how the baby got out and after several attempts at saying the doctor helped or the mommy pushed the baby out. we told them that when a woman gets ready to have a baby there is a baby hole near the bottom that opens when the baby is ready to come out and the mommy helps by pushing the baby out and then the hole closes back until the next baby is ready... when my daughter was 7 I was pregnant and it helped her understand what was going to happen to me when we watched the TLC birth stories it's not too graphic and we were able to discuss uisng the example.. Now she is 91/2 and she just helped me expalin to her 3 yr.old brother this same story. after my niece was born and he was questioning the same thing the best thing is to be as honest as possible... It's nothing to be ashamed of... this is the natural process of life
2007-02-19 02:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are great age-appropriate books out there that you can read with your child about those tough/awkward topic questions. Get to a really good book store and get one that you are comfortable with. My daughter-in-law showed me a great book just like what your child is asking about, and it was great – I wish I remembered the title, but I’m sure you could find one that would aid in getting through it. Good Luck!
2007-02-23 00:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that babies come from a special love that only grown ups can have. Don't lie to her though or avoid the question b/c you want her to feel comfortable coming to you for answers.
2007-02-19 02:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Be vague if she asks what vagina is then explain it to her. There is also a movie on the market about conception and takes you through the birth process. I think it might be called "A Miracle".
2007-02-23 01:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice is don't lie to your kids. About anything. At this point, you may simply promise to tell her when she is older. You are not obligated as a parent to immediately answer every question. But don't lie. Even innocent-seeming lies may foster mistrust as they grow older, so if you want her to listen to you when she is a teenager and really needs to know, lay a solid foundation of trust now.
2007-02-19 02:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by Satellite_K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her the truth... you don't have to go into great details, but sex education needs to be taught at a younger age now a days and she wouldn't be asking if there wasn't something in your environment that made her curious, i would tell her the truth
2007-02-23 01:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the best idea
say this until she is like 10 yrs old
an angel comes down from heaven and places a baby on the mother's lap to care for
it always works
2007-02-19 06:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋