My girlfriend wanted to talk to me. She said it was very important and after she blew me off this morning I told her just to text me. This is what she sent me…..
"i don't love you. How can i love someone who has made me cry for the past two nights? Who has me in tears right now!! Who ignores me for two days straight? Who screams at me in the car till I'm in tears because they think I'm lying when I wasn't! How can i love you when i am never on your mind? While you are trying to meet other girls behind my back even after being with me for TWO YEARS. How can i love you when all I do is cry? When you don't care one single bit that i cry! I said i needed to talk to you and all you could do was tell me to text you. So I'm writing this HERE IT IS!! I wanted a valentines day with you...considering we couldn't do anything on Wednesday. I went out of my way to buy you gifts I knew you would like and you lie to me tell me you got me stuff when in reality YOU FORGOT! How can you forget about me?? Am I not that important to you? I don’t want to cry anymore over you. I don’t want to cry PERIOD! I just want to be HAPPY!! I got you one more thing for Valentines Day that I did not give you. I wanted to wait till our actual Valentines Day date which was supposed to be tomorrow. But I realize today that Monday is never going to come! So here is my note to you! Yes I’m crying! Yes I’m VERY VERY UPSET right now and yes I just want you to hold me in your arms and tell me everything is going to be ok. But today is the LAST DAY I will EVER cry over you!! Things will be ok with or without you in my life!
I think I REALLY REALLY HURT HER!!
-did I hurt her?? I had no intention of hurting her!! I don’t know what to do now!!
2007-02-19 01:50:10 · 16 answers · asked by Mike T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after she said that i said
"I'm sorry i don't know what came over me when I yelled at you I'm a bad boyfriend."
she then text me back replying "that's all you can say huh?"
i said "i have to accept that you don't want me anymore. It's your decision"
she then reply back "No it's not that i don't want you it's that you do not want me and you've made it very clear."
-is it over?
did i really screw this one up??
edit: she called me and I asked her if she would like to talk after work...she said "i don't care" "You decide" i made her decide and she said "fine"....
-is this over for good?-
2007-02-19 01:50:49 · update #1
Edit some more: i saw her after work sat in her car and talked to her. She cried the ENTIRE TIME and told me how i hurt her. I told her the truth i don't REALIZE when I hurt her. It's true sometimes I DON'T!! I told her i didn't know what to do to make it up to her and that i realized tomorrow was supposed to be our "valentines day" but my guy friend was leaving tomorrow. I asked her to come Wednesday and I'd make it up to her. She shook her head said no started crying some more. I didn't know what to do so i said "i guess i should leave."
-is this over for good?-
she gave me one last chance....and i think i blew it....
is it possible i blew it??
2007-02-19 01:51:23 · update #2
EDIT READ THIS PART: My guy friend has NO CAR!! His father is picking him up and we have NO IDEA what time he is coming and i can't just LEAVE HIM THERE!!! She's friends with him so i invited her over today. I said around 12:00. I have to work today at 4 (I am working a late shift)
-last night i promised her I'd write her a note expressing my feelings but i fell asleep!!! I didn't mean to I'm just VERY TIRED!!
I told her Wednesday i would make it up to her the WHOLE DAY we both have off and EVERYTHING!
but she got upset and said today was supposed to be "our day" and that we had this planned for 2 weeks.
what am i supposed to do??? leave my guy friend there!!
2007-02-19 02:07:22 · update #3
You are so totally insensitive you could walk round totaly naked and not feel the cold. Grow up and change your ways.
2007-02-19 01:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by stevehart53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is all true, i think, well no in fact i know you need to take a big long look at yourself..
If you are acting in this way then your bound to have another agenda.. if your not interested, or she bores you, or something niggles you and you just can't be arsed, then say.
To tell someone something rather then hide it is still hurtful but only half the hurt.
You need to look and see why it is you just cant be bothered and why you could forget somethingso important as valentines day... the day for passion and love..
Now part of the screaming oin the car bit.. clearly thinking or accusing her shes been playing aways CAN and may be part of a guilty concience. You accuse someone of lying your usually dioing it yourself..
After all that you've done.. although it mayt seem like a mineal thing (s) to you.. but you clearly made her upset..You should always remember that in relationships you do have ups and downs but, overall you should make her cry with laughter not with hurt.. bare that in mind next time you feel like screaming..
I think to get her back you have some serious grovelling to do and personally if i was her i'd give you some of your own medicine.... You should take a weekend off.. and not only sex.. but show her how much you love and tell her that your making up for lost time and that you want one last chance..
After grovelling, reoses, chocs and ALL the rest then if she still doesn't want you let her go.. to vhave abroken heart in peices c is better then having it crumbled to dust..
IF you DONT want her back.. wrtie her a letter and say that you have issues that you need to sort out and that it wasn't anything to do with her..
NOTE if you dont want her dont grovell... it's pointless, because guarenteed that you will just keep hurting her and then someday she will hurt you..
I hope this helped and that you can sit and carefully think about what forced you to make the action that have upset her so much.
Good luck. x
2007-02-19 10:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by neeneeuno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a two year relationship, which is very long, it can't just end after a tiff about valentine's day!!
If you really love this girl, some flowers and a card isn't gonna patch it up, you're going to need a talk about this.
Maybe you need to revive the relationship so she realises you do care about her and aren't looking at other girls (us women are sensitive things, you know!). Ask her out to dinner. Over dinner, tell her that you do really care about her and present her with a nice present just to reinforce it - and ask for another chance.
It's worth a try, good luck!
2007-02-19 10:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's over. Obviously you're both still very young, obviously this relationship is not a happy relationship for her. She's not getting from this relationship the fulfillment she's looking for. The love that we feel when we are young is real love: don't let anybody try to tell you it isn't. It is. But often we're just not ready for it, and that's okay. Let her go gently. The best thing to say is: "I realize now that I've been hurting you. I'm gonna let you go. I hope that you'll be happy."
2007-02-19 09:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by crispy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like you are hoping you blew it. You should have explained how much you love her and buy her a valentines gift. No, you made it sound like she was the one that was wanting it to be over. Be a man! If you love her you will tell her exactly how you feel. If you dont love her and want it to be over tell her! It sounds to me like you are keeping her around for convenience in case you dont find someone else! Grow up and let her get on with her life even if it hurts her now!
2007-02-19 09:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Hun, you blew it!!! If she meant that much to you you should have spent time with her instead of your buddy. I went through the same thing with my ex-fiance. He was so full of promises, but when push came to shove he never came through. I cried many tears over him, wondering what I did wrong, upset because he always had excuses for not spending time with me. I finally found out he was cheating on me with another woman and had gone so far as to steal money to support her in hotel rooms and buy her meals in restaurants. I had given him my heart and soul and I felt like he had stomped on it. Women need proof that you love them and want to be with them. Telling her to "text" you was the wrong thing to say. And putting her off for another day so you could be with your buddy who was leaving was twisting the knife in her already hurting heart. She needed to know you loved her and wanted her and all you did was show her your buddy was more important. Unless you have some magic bullet to turn her heart, you've lost her Hun. A woman can only take so much hurt before drying her tears and walking away and looking for someone who can turn her tears to smiles.
2007-02-19 10:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by misscatitude2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but the girl is right. It seems to me you are on two completely different levels. I think she needs someone that will make her happy and there is no reason for you to go out of your way to give her what she deserves. You are who you are, and I'm sure there are girls who are more like you. But she needs someone who gets her and will treat her the way she wants, as the most important thing in his life, which is exactly what she should be.
2007-02-19 10:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Gustav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, u messed up big time. If u go see a girl in that situation, there are no conditions, u should just give everything up and do what she wants. Just hold, and go with her on the date u two set. Is ur guy friend more important than her?
2007-02-19 09:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it shes really hurting,try sending flowers with a real lovely card,if you want her back. It may be worth a try
2007-02-19 09:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really messed up telling her you where going to see a buddy that was leaving town instead of her.
only way you can save this is to show up at her house today with something really romantic. in your hand and something romantic you can do with her. don't tell her your going to do that. at this point your words mean nothing to her. JUST SHOW UP AND DO IT!
and if your lucky she will forgive you.
2007-02-19 10:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by badvodoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋