I have been divorced twice this is the 2 relationship I have been in that ever hit me. My eye looks like he came up to me with a bat but it wasn't. Me and my boyfriend got really drunk at his moms bar. and I don't know what really happen neither does he, but next thing I knew I woke up on my sisters couch cuz my boyfriend was knocking on the door. I went back with him. I don't have anywhere else to go. I have an 18 month old child, who's real dad doesn't want nothing to do with him. My family is nutz, I don't have any furniture or anything and I cannot afford an apartment by myself, I have no friends, I've been to psychologist about 100 times, they all told me I was fine, but I know I'm not. I can't get food stamps because i'm right at the income limit for getting any help. Should I stay with the guy and next time he does it call the cops? I know one thing if he ever laid a hand on my son I will put him in jail no matter of love or not. What should I do? Yes, his mom was pretty mad.
2007-02-19 01:49:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What are you doing getting drunk when you have a small child to take care of
Try losing the booze and you'll see things alot differently
And lose the loser boyfriend
2007-02-19 01:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that lays a hand on a woman, drunk or not, does not have respect for women. You should get passed what ever feelings you have and turn him in. Dont think you have to be with him just to have someone in your life; you need to find someone that will treat and respect you. What would happen if you were not at home and he hit your son, even to the point that your son died???? Yeah you turn him in then, but it would be too late because your son would be dead (or this could even be you...what if he beat you enough to the point where you died). As far as help, go to a health department; they should be able to give you some help, even WIC (womans with children), which would provide certain essentials for your son.
2007-02-19 01:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by prodigy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please think about this, do you really love the guy or are you just trying to put yourself in a easy environment, i have been knocked back several times in life and each time i have sort comfort from the wrong people, i dont profess to know the answers but you have to think of your child first and then you second, no one has the right to hit you and there are no excuses for that as an action against another person, look to yourself and be strong, but do not tolerant violence, there are institutes that can and will help you are not alone. good luck
2007-02-19 02:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mo Lester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never stay with a guy that hits you. Next, it'll be your 18 month old that he'll be hitting on. THAT you don't want. No dad is better than a fake dad that hits your child. Move back in with your parents, nuts or not, they love you, and will love having their grandchild around. They may drive you crazy, but just do it until you can afford to get a place of your own.
2007-02-19 02:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait--get out now! If there's a way for you to leave if and/or when he abuses your son, then there must be a way for you to leave now. Otherwise, you'll eventually lose your self-esteem and won't have the will to leave later. So, my advise is to go while you have the strength left to do so. There's probably resources available to you that you're overlooking. The women's domestic violence shelter in your area might be a good place to start. Even if you don't want housing there, the staff is knowledgeable about resources in your area. You may be eligible for financial aid to return to school (college or trade school). You need to have an eye toward the future and it will take a great deal of self-reliance and belief in yourself. You must take steps to break the trend or you'll eventually follow the same destructive track as your family. There's too much choas for you and your child. Figure out a way to leave it behind. Good Luck
2007-02-19 02:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely start by not getting drunk anymore. If he hit you by accident, like he was trying to hit something else, then it doesn't matter, but if he hit you intentionally then you should leave him even if he was drunk. It is not right for someone with an 18 month old baby to drink to the point of not remembering. You should quit drinking all together because you obviously cannot control it.
2007-02-19 02:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by Gustav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I'm not even going read your whole question, You said you have been through this before, then you should know when there is a first time, there will not be a last time for him to hit you unless you leave. You also have a baby to worry about that even if you think it doesn't affect the baby it does. I have been her to let you know my oldest father did it and the first time we were drunk to, it went to the point of a gun being in my mouth and shot, but the gun jammed, is this what you want? I stayed with him, till he almost chocked my to death for 3 years. my second child's father stabbed me while i was preg. First thing he did and last thing he did to me.
2007-02-19 02:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by destjaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both quit drinking immediately. You have a child to take care of and if you really think you have mental problems, you should never do anything to compound them. Secondly, you need to find a way to get out of that relationship. Go to a halfway house if you have to, but get out now. If you stay, it will only get worse. You say you can't leave now, but would put him in jail for touching your son. However, when that time comes, will you have some place to go or will you find another excuse to stay? One time is too many already.
2007-02-19 01:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you while he was drunk it's just as if he hit you when he was sober!
I don't care how little bit of money that you have there are people out there that will help you!
Get away from him before he hits you again! Or hits your little boy. Have your sister take pictures of your eye and take them down to the cops and show them to him, tell them that your boyfriend hit you the night before last, but you were to scared to notify them then.
Get yourself some help now honey, it'll only get worse.
2007-02-19 01:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never godd to stay in an abusive relationship. if yu both truelly love each other and want to stay together , talk it out , let him know his behavier is not exceptable whether he is drunk or not. you have a child to think of to. you have income comming in so you could make it on your own and be just fine. there is help out there. you say his mother was pretty mad , and this happened at her bar , maybe she knows what went on since you and the boyfriend cant remember. by all eans think of yourself and child first . and take care
2007-02-19 01:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by nonie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋