What should I do...?

Question

...I have been with my boyfriend for two months. I care about hime very much. My springbreak is coming up in a few weeks and he said he might go out of town to see a friend of his for a few days that week. He asked me if I wanted to go with him.

I want to go with him, but I don't think my parents would really approve of me spending the weekend with him. I am almost 23 and I know at that age most people don't really listen to their parents anymore, but I still live with them and I care about what they think.

Should I ask them anyway and just see what they have to say? Or should I just tell my boyfriend that I don't think it is a good idea for us to go out of town together so soon in our relationship?

Answer 1

Wow....what a thoughtful young lady you are. You should thank the young man for the invite and say you would love to go, however, you know your parents would not approve and you care about what they do think. Your parents did a great job raising you. This young man should realize that he has found a girl with morals, values and consider himself grateful. If he planned on going further in the relationship with you, he may be a bit angry.

Answer 2

Man, are you a mommas girl or what? There is absolutely no reason to even tell your parents who you are going WITH. Tell them you are going with some friends out of town. That always works. I had to move in with my parents briefly when I was 24 and they were quite the opposite at that point as far as telling me what to do and where I could go. I spent the night at my boyfriends ALL the time and told them I was going out for the night. You don't owe them any explanation and they probably don't even care. If you don't feel comfortable with this new guy yet, tell you you will sleep on the couch or that you don't want to spend the night out of town with him, simple solution.

Answer 3

You've pretty much answered this one yourself. It doesn't matter what age you are, there is nothing wrong with talking to your parents about things if you don't want to hurt them. You say you think at your age people don't listen to their parents so much, but personally I think it is more of the fact that at that age people are more independent to take responsibilities of their own actions. It also depends how much you trust yourself being with your boyfriend on a weekend together; at the end of the day it is your choice

Answer 4

Ok, here's the thing, you need to move out of "mommy and daddy's" house. You are an adult now and your parents opinion on what you do shouldnt matter, however you still live at home and they have rules. You need to grow up and move out. If you don't live with them, than their opinion won't matter. Right now they have the right to tell you what to do.
Tell your boyfriend, that you would like to go, however you think it might be too soon and you're in a situation with your parents.
Than what you need to do is move out of your parents house.
Than you will be free to enjoy sex and drink and do whatever you want with no guilt involved.

Answer 5

Dont go with him. You feel uncomfortable going - if you weren't, you wouldnt be debating.
Im glad you care what your parents think. Talk to them, tell them how you feel about the idea and listen to what they think about it as well. But, from what you have written, Im almost sure they will think its not a good idea, and believe me, they have plenty of reasons why they think its not.
I dont know you or your bf, but i can give you one reason why. You've only known him 2 months.... that's not enough time to know what kind of person he really is. Be smart, take precautions. Im not saying your bf is a bad person, but its always safer not to take chances. Hope everything goes well!

Answer 6

I think it would be ok to ask but don't flat out ask make it like a suggestion say well he suggested it would be fun but that you didn't think it was in your best intrest because you don't want to worry them.However have you been intamate with him yet if not he may feel if you go there could be a real good chance for him to get you in the sack ya know.If you decide to go I would suggest separate rooms and go as friends as well as b/f g/f but have fun and I would especially go if you havn't ever had the chance to go on a real spring break cause your young go have some fun but becareful.

Answer 7

Wow.. i think u just tell ur parents that u are going out for a weekend ... i mean.. u live with them doesn't mean that they are going to rule ur life forever... i was living with my parents till a couple of months ago.. n im 23 too... and they didn't interfere with my life.. i just tell them where i was going and that i was going to be late.. or not coming back in a couple of days. u need to start doing ur life.

Answer 8

Talk to your parents. See that they will say? You have to be true to yourself. How much to you really know this person. You have only known him for two months. Do you really think, that you are ready to spend the weekend with this person.

Answer 9

My parents are the same exact way!! I no longer live with them but i can feel the pain of you wanting to go and also respecting your parents.

truth be told, you have to tell your parents because its the RIGHT thing to do... lieing will get you no wheres. and what can asking hurt???

if you lie and they find out, your dead... and if they say no its just no... nothing you can do about it because you did try!

respecting your parents is the number one thing... i would want to go with my boyfriend too... but if you dont go with him... just go with your girlfriends and have an amazing time!!

Answer 10

You are very mature for your age. Please tell your boyfriend that it's too soon to go out of town together, given that you do live with your parents.

Love can wait. It really can.

I am so proud of you.